So, Is she the evil, homewrecking other woman ... answer YES OR NO only please

[Twiglett]

from this thread

I say YES

(sorry that's not numberwang)

JT- its from That Mitchell adn Webb thing, a ridiculous gameshow where peole shout numbers randomly until the host yells' thats numberwang'!

Peachy, what on earth are you talking about?

8!

nasty

Numberwang!

I love numberwang!

Actually I prefer sir digby chicken caesar [[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QeHARxPYXJE here] but numberwang is rather amusing too

of course I missed until i searched that that numberwang ahs other roots but there you go

here

no

Thanks for the links, Peachy

Das ist wirklich Numberwang!

yes

Evil? FFS, relationships break up all the time, other people are often involved...its painful and messy but it happens - I bet every single one of us has either been involved in something like this ourselves or has a relative or friend who has...but do we really judge people so harshly as to call them evil? Really? because if so that is fucking pathetic.

EVIL? Urgh. Don't make me laugh.

No. Nothing is black and white in this world.

However Twig... you are being a bit evil with this thread though...

I am really fed up with this

Look at the original thread .. the OP asked if she was an 'evil home-wrecking other woman' .. then ensued a long and verbose debate over what had happened, what people's views were, what position she was in now and what people felt she should do.

But she asked a question and I for one was interested in what the statistical answer was .. do most mumsnetters believe she was what she'd proposed herself to be as a debate point

so I started this thread .. which quickly went belly-up and I realised it was being taken in another way

I apologised on this thread

I apologised on her original thread

I am bloody fed up of people coming on here not read the original thread, not read this thread and then be censorious

There was a rationale behind this thread and the way it was worded .. I still don't think it was that wrong but as others have pointed out that it is I have apologised and left it alone but this is beginning to wear me down

Twiglett, don't worry, I read the original thread and could see you were just using her terminology which is why I answered yes. The phrase think before you speak springs to mind but maybe that should be read before you speak for some people.

Twig don't sweat it

t'was ever thus [shrugs]

in twigs defence, the original lady put the Q am i The evil home wrecker. I don't think SHE or any of us took that literally. I don't agree with what she did but i am not completely niave, nothing is black and white and i daresay she went through much heart ache. I am not sure why, 7 years on she feels the need to raise it, because i havent read her other threads. I now wish i didnt post on here too because i dont think it should be a witch hunt and i dont think twig wanted that either. FWIW, my father had an affair, my mother is a DIFFICULT person and whilst i HATED the other woman at the time (i was 10!) when i grew up i realised that life isnt black and white. My dad returned to the family home, for me and if i am totally honest, i do not feel he did the right thing, my mother could never move on and treated him badly (there would be those who say he might deserve to be treated badly). I used to run into the other woman (she worked in the cake shop opposite my place of work) and we would pass the time of day, i couldnt see the point in animosity, she was good to my dad. So evil? No, not really. Just a shit situation.

has anybody here read BSBs original thread re her step daughter? I just did - it made me sad for the little girl, expected to behave perfectly in her daddy's new home, when she is probably feeling hurt and abandoned. I'm sorry, and im going to get lynched for this but i dont care, the woman is a self centred bitch and whilst not evil, not a very nice person. That poor little girl must feel so sad.

I know she asked if she was "evil", between other things, well... I don't mind what words she used, that's IMO irrelevant but what I found a bad idea was to initiate a new thread just about her. Sorry Twigglet, I had just had a look at the other thread when I found this one, and couldn't believe there was a thread specially to discuss another mumsneter, so not really in the best mood to read it all before posting (and hence missing your apology).

By the way... no ofense intended but, I have noticed a quite peculiar intensity in your feelings about this subject in several ocassions. I don't know what is going on and wouldn't expect you to discuss it in here, but just wanted to say that whatever those intense feelings stem from, I hope you may find some closure on them soon.