Could your dh/dp do the weekly shop without a list?

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Only instructions being "erm, fruit and veg, salady bits, erm crisps and choc, erm kitchen roll?"

apparently I am lucky he is so "good" according to people

well I say, he is 36 fgs, of course he should know a pepper from his elbow

are men supposed to be helpless at the thought of buying FOOD?????

my DH needs a list, carefully written...
I once wrote we needed vine tomatoes and he came back with NINE tomatoes...

No, but I forget things without a list too. We usually go together but if any of the children are ill then dh goes by himself. Not surprisingly he sees doing the shopping as a better option than staying home with 3 children. Hmm....

Weekly shop? He needs a list for a daily shop...

No. He would need a list. And that would make me cross.

Can I ask what is so wrong with having a list?

I need a list.
DP does it without and does much better than me.

To qualify, UD, I would have to write the list. He wouldn't manage that.

My dh does the supermarket bits, and we go to a weekly farmers' market on Saturday mornings. I get a bit of me time while he does the shopping with dd in tow. It works well for me!!

Nothing wrong with a list, I find it helps me stay in budget.

How how how do you ladies cope with dh's that can't cook or shop?!!! I'd have sent mine packing by now if he was so useless! you are obviously better people than me.

Since DD arrived last year, the thought of weekly supermarket shopping with two kids under 5 was enough to make me a lot more organised re menu planning etc, and DH now does the weekly shop with a list. He prides himself on doing it in under 30 min and keeping the bill below £60 for the 4 of us.

Not only could he not do it without a list that list would need to be extra specific or guaranteed he would come back with a load of rubbish! And having spent double the budget!

I am amazed at anyone who can do a 4-person-family shop for under £80. We do ours online with Tesco, and do several drafts of it - we go through stripping out the unnecessaries, and we also ALWAYS look for the 2-for-1 offers, and use the codes whenever we can. And even at is absolute bog-standard cheapest it doesn't come in under £90.

HOW do you do it?? Lidl??

Ours is around the £50 mark, for me, dh and dts. Yes I sometimes use Lidl and Aldi but also Morrisons and the local farmers market once a month (all the time if it was weekly.)

I don't buy ready meals and try to buy good quality food. I also try and make our own cakes and biscuits as it means I know the ingredients and dts get to bake.

And still it is £50ish (sometimes more sometimes below never above £60.)

dh is pretty good, but the price Ihave to pay is applauding every item he has bought as he shows me everything one item at a time when he gets home.........

um

yes he could

he is 36 years old, has a phd and a responsible job

so yes, he is expected to do a weekly shop when required. If he needs a list (and fair enough, I do for a BIG shop) he can write it himself. He also irons, cleans and so on

I would be a little worried, very irate, and probably not married to him if he couldn't

otoh he could'nt do ANY of this when we met. He just lived on tinned spaghetti from the co op, which was most unattractive in a 27 yo. Good arguement for not molycoddling boys, IME.

ooooh didn't realise this had made the homepage

when I said list, what I meant was would you be able to say "salad stuff" or have to do like PinkTulip said and put:

red pepper (check they are firm and not squashed)
lettuce (check dates and make sure not brown)
tomatoes (get the ones on the vine. Green stems! oh ffs)

etc

my sisters dh is quite rubbish and she would no way be able to send him shopping

I use a list sometimes, my point was mainly are men supposed to be rubbish at food shopping

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

ha ha ha ha ha ha

Could he buggery

mine writes the list for me he is a wonderous shopper - any chance to spend money and he's there

Actually I can't do a weekly shop without a list.

Not if I want to spend less than two hours in the supermarket and less than the cost of a small bungalow

dh often does the shopping (when it is dire emergency)
the reason being he comes back all proudly, bags a-brimming...

ME:you did remember bread?
Him: Better than that, look!

Me: lovely, Did you get any milk?
Him: Better than that, look!

ME: Ok, what can we eat for lunch?
Him: Look, a remote controlled dalek!
Me: Hmm, where's the fruit?
Him: Er, orange flavoured KitKats?...
Me: And the Veg?
Him ...Crisps are a potato....?

etc etc

DH would get the basics, as well as some crisps he likes and a magazine and maybe a DVD for the children. So he would spend as much as me, but not on stuff we can actually eat.

So I do the shopping on-line 5 out of 6 weeks.

Dh would buy 'nice' stuff, like beer and crisps and snacks, but would neglect things like veg, milk meat..........
That's why I use Ocado!!!

my dh does at least 50% (if not more) of the planning and food shopping. In fact this week he has done a full food plan for all our meals (including 2 meals a day for ds when he at he the childminder) and has ordered all the food necessary.

He also checks if we are out of staples like loo roll, cleaining stuff etc.

If he goes shopping (rather than internet order) he makes a list and pretty much sticks to it . If anything I'm the one who goes out with a list and comes back with loads of stuff I hadn't planned to buy but that just caught my fancy

depressingly, yes.

I think the point is not whether they need a list but that if they need a list whether they make it or you make it for them.