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I just really need to come and sob about my baby sis

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ThomCat · 02/05/2007 20:16

There's fuck all anyone can do or say, I have no idea why I'm posting really other than sitting staring into space and crying my eyes out hasn't helped and writing in into a word document for no-one to see at all feels odder than this so here i am.

My sisters OCD is the worst it's ever been.
She is refusing food now. She looks so pale and so thin and so strianed and worried and tense. She doesn't really speak. I guess she eats tiny amounts but barely anything.

She was getting help and was on some new medication to help stop her ruminating so much so they could then start to address the OCD.

But on the way to an appt to see this doctor type she had an obsesive thought that she opened the passenger door and caused a car to swerve and they then crashed and died.

We've been advised not to talk to her in detail as it only makes it worse somehow. I tried to tell her it was impossible but it did no good anyway.

She's just so, so bad and it's just horrific and I feel so awful, I can't help , no-one can and I don't know what to do or what to say.

How will this ever end or get better?

She's 33. She's had ocd since she was a baby. Really bad since she was 13 and it's just worse and worse and now it's so bad I don't how she goes on.

She said to my mum she can't go on.

Sorry. Nothing you can say so don't feel you have to. I just need to say something, somewhre.

I just wrote her a letter telling her how much I love her etc and it didn't help so don't know why I thought this might.

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nickytwotimes · 02/05/2007 20:18

thomcat, i am so sorry to hear your story. i don't know what to say...

LilyLoo · 02/05/2007 20:18

sadly i think when it comes to this there is very little you can do to help. It need professional help but it must be so hard to you.

Quootiepie · 02/05/2007 20:18

{{hugs}} I have no advice to offer, just wanted to give you some hugs x

maisym · 02/05/2007 20:19

you are a very supportive sister to her xxx

WideWebWitch · 02/05/2007 20:19

Oh that's so sad TC.

mckenzie · 02/05/2007 20:21

so sorry to hear that thomcat,. for you, your sister and your whole family. I hope you al get the help and support you need.

lulumama · 02/05/2007 20:22

i am really really sorry

is there some way of someone coming to the house to do some therapy with her, if she is afraid to actually go out?

i am sure she will appreciate your letter, even if she cannot show it right now

Dior · 02/05/2007 20:22

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trippleshot · 02/05/2007 20:24

A totally shit situation, I really feel for you. Don't forget yourself in all this and make sure you get plenty of help and support too.

Megglevache · 02/05/2007 20:25

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GColdtimer · 02/05/2007 20:26

Thomcat, that is so sad. You must feel so helpless. And it is so difficult for you and the rest of your family, trying to be supportive as you can in a hellish situation. I really hope your sister gets all the help she needs very soon.

Hillls · 02/05/2007 20:28

I'm really sorry Thomcat, I'm not in a positon to advise but my heart reaches out for you.

mummytosteven · 02/05/2007 20:29

very sorry to hear this TC.

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 20:37

Oh, thanks guys. It's ovley that you have posted. It really is.

I just feel like I'm in pain. How is my mum coping? How is my sister?

Yes J lives at home with my mum. We set her up in a flat where she used to stay from Tues - Thurs but it was horrific, like she was alone in a prison and we just couldn't bear it for her for more than a few months. She had a little job when she first left school but got sacked as her OCD was so bad

She has nothing, no friends, no life, nothing, just ocd

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Megglevache · 02/05/2007 20:41

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Troutpout · 02/05/2007 20:45

You poor thing...and your family too...it must make things so hard...
She's so lucky to have such a family though
Hope something changes to make things a little easier soon Thomcat

kittypants · 02/05/2007 20:45

no advice but wanted to say how awful i feel for you and your family.
you said she has nothing-she has you,by the sounds of it a fantast caring sister

GColdtimer · 02/05/2007 20:45

Your poor sister, what an terrible way to have had to live her life. Are you involved in any OCD support groups/networks. I just did a quick google search and found a few but I expect you have done all that already....

kittypants · 02/05/2007 20:45

fantastic i mean

HuwEdwards · 02/05/2007 20:47

What a distressing situation for you all.

Pixiefish · 02/05/2007 20:47

sending hugs to you and your sis Thomcat xx

Wonderingwhattodo · 02/05/2007 20:48

Oh TC I am sorry. It sounds awful for all of you. The feeling helpless is horrible I know - my sis is Bi-polar - not medicated. It is horrible seeing an episode looming and not being able to do anything.

ScummyMummy · 02/05/2007 20:49

I'm so sorry TC. Poor her and poor you and poor your mum. Does she get any ongoing support from mental health services?

plibble · 02/05/2007 20:49

Thomcat, that's just awful. It must be really stressful for all of you.

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