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I just really need to come and sob about my baby sis

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ThomCat · 02/05/2007 20:16

There's fuck all anyone can do or say, I have no idea why I'm posting really other than sitting staring into space and crying my eyes out hasn't helped and writing in into a word document for no-one to see at all feels odder than this so here i am.

My sisters OCD is the worst it's ever been.
She is refusing food now. She looks so pale and so thin and so strianed and worried and tense. She doesn't really speak. I guess she eats tiny amounts but barely anything.

She was getting help and was on some new medication to help stop her ruminating so much so they could then start to address the OCD.

But on the way to an appt to see this doctor type she had an obsesive thought that she opened the passenger door and caused a car to swerve and they then crashed and died.

We've been advised not to talk to her in detail as it only makes it worse somehow. I tried to tell her it was impossible but it did no good anyway.

She's just so, so bad and it's just horrific and I feel so awful, I can't help , no-one can and I don't know what to do or what to say.

How will this ever end or get better?

She's 33. She's had ocd since she was a baby. Really bad since she was 13 and it's just worse and worse and now it's so bad I don't how she goes on.

She said to my mum she can't go on.

Sorry. Nothing you can say so don't feel you have to. I just need to say something, somewhre.

I just wrote her a letter telling her how much I love her etc and it didn't help so don't know why I thought this might.

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Boco · 02/05/2007 21:45

Really sorry TC, that sounds so hard and scary.

I have a friend with ocd. She was also treated at the maudsley, and has had lots of therapy and medication and has struggled for years. This year she's finally turned a huge corner. She's on some fairly heavy duty medication, but it's made an enormous difference, she's suddenly got lots of energy and is so positive. I really hope something can be found for your sister too, i can't imagine how awful it must feel to see her feeling so bad.

suedonim · 02/05/2007 21:45

That sounds horrific, TC, what a dreadful, life-sapping illness. Situations like your sister's make me want to scream out that there must be someone somewhere who can help, we can't just leave a person to suffer.

Aloha · 02/05/2007 21:46

How awful tc. I'm so sorry.

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 21:49

Oh God Boco, that's wonderful news and is lovely for me to hear right now so thank you, xxx

It's odd, I didn't think it would help really, didn't see how it could, but everyone's kind words has actually lifted me and I've been able to swallow some food finally!

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GColdtimer · 02/05/2007 21:50

TC re "I think, it's like some cruel comfort blanket in a way." I know exactly what you mean. I had a friend who self harmed for years and it was exactly like that. She was too scared of stopping it because it was all she knew. It was, in her mind, the only thing that defined her. What did she have without it. Very, very sad. She got better though, in the end. I hope you get some help and also some support. She got better eventually so I am sure there is still hope for your sister to improve.

PinkChick · 02/05/2007 21:52

im no where near as poorly as you sister, but i can begin to understand how she feels, i occasinally have a ;thought' that something bad is going to happen, ive had this since i was seven, i check dd at least 20 times each night, i have to wait until i hear her breath then i have to touch her to feel her heart..esp since little maude, its made me worse.
a few weeks ago i was due to go shopping after work, but at lunch time i got a strong fear that if i went out in the car, something really bad was going to happen to me(im going goosepimply now, its scary to feel that way)...i got ready as normal, but was shaking so making myself worse, just before i left i told dp, who didnt want me to go, but i HAD to, to prove myself i was imagining it..i went out, drove whilst shaking like a leaf, went shopping and got home all in one peice..i was exhausted, but it was all in my own head..i had the strengh to go out and do it, but sounds like your poor sister doesnt have that, i dont know what to suggest apart from talking, listening and generally making her feel wanted

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 21:57

twofalls - thanks for understanding and fo letting me know you did. Your poor friend.

PinkChick - ohhhh sweetie, I'm sorry Wish we could share a real hug for a moment. I'm sorry, xxxxx

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PinkChick · 02/05/2007 21:58

ach, im ok..it comes and go's when i was small i used to have to do everything in sevens??, so im much better, but its a strange/scary feeling, i really hope she turns a corner as she sounds incredibly low

tigerschick · 02/05/2007 21:58

Thomcat - sorry to hear that you are going thru this. Hope you are not alone in rl with dealing with it - you certainly aren't here.

tigerschick · 02/05/2007 21:59

Sorry pinkchick - hadn't read thread thru and x post with you - hope you are ok now, too

ThomCat · 02/05/2007 22:02

Feel drained, shattered, exhausted but better, even so I'm off to bed.
i really, really appreciate you all finding some words to share with me. Thank you, xx

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PinkChick · 02/05/2007 22:02

yeah im fine, its just very weird, so in my small amount of experience i can only imagine what TC's sis is going through, poor pet.x

ShowOfHands · 02/05/2007 22:16

TC, I know you've gone to bed now but wanted to post and offer another little bit of support from out there in the ether. My Dad is bipolar and also suffered dreadfully with OCD. It's an exhausting, terrifying, consuming and frustrating disease. It took in-patient treatment, the right medication, a wonderful team (especially the CPN) and a lot of time and patience for him to regain a sense of who he was behind the mask of such a horrible condition. He will always live alongside it but he controls it, not the other way round. He is a different man and he had to get to 48yrs old before he was offered a way out of it. He would not have found it on his own. He is happy, healthy and fully of joy.

I'm so sorry for your sister, your love and worry is tangible. I wish you lots of strength and love.

xxx

berolina · 02/05/2007 22:22

Oh TC, was hoping this wasn't you. I'm sorry.

I think you still do have my email somewhere. If you think it might help, get in touch. I would be very happy to write to your sister and maybe share with her a bit of my experience.

frumpygrumpy · 04/05/2007 09:56

Just nipped in to say hi as I was thinking about you x.

hippipotami · 04/05/2007 12:05

Echo frumpygrumpy, hope you are ok TC.

I have OCD tendencies and sometimes feel 'locked in' by them (can't progress until x amount of repititions/thoughts etc) and feel dreadfully bad for your sister.

I really hope a cure/treatment is found for her.

In the meantime, stay strong!

Pinkchick, thinking of you too.

xx

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