That's it, really. He'd been quite poorly with a virus but they'd been told by a doctor to just monitor it and take him back to see them today if he wasn't better. He sat down for dinner yesterday evening and just stopped breathing. We were all out in the garden so the children all saw the ambulances and police etc.
Another neighbour and I went over to see if we could do anything and find out what was happening and all the nanny could say was that he wasn't breathing and had been taken to hospital. I told my children that he was poorly and had gone to hospital for the doctors to make him better and sent them off to bed. They were worried but reassured iyswim.
Later that evening another neighbour came round to tell us that he hadn't made it and was pronounced dead at the hospital.
We're all stunned. He was a lovely, lively little lad and it just doesn't seem possible. I've told our children what has happened because I didn't want them to hear it from someone else and they're very sad and unsettled. I think that's normal, though. I've told them that they can talk to dh or I at any time with any questions they have. I'm not sure if they really "get" it. They're only 7 and 5.
I'm going to knock on the door with a card this afternoon. I'm waiting for a friend to come over to watch my ds - he has the same name as the little boy who has died and I think it would be very insensitive to take my Alexander over when they have just lost theirs.
I have no idea what to say or what to do. Everything I come out with just sounds so...crap. I don't know what could help. I don't even really know why I'm writing all of this down - just want to get it out, I suppose. Anyway, thanks for reading if you got this far.