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we keep making the WRONG decisions in life

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Fio2 · 05/07/2004 17:18

not always, just recently. Latest saga is job trouble. Dh id being made redundant end of july as company is closing. We moved here only 2 months ago for his job on relocation money, I may add because he was on a very good 5 year contract. It was rumoured some people may be facing redundancy but he was assured before the move it wasnt him. You can imagine evryones shock, not just dh's that the whole company was closing. He was offered transfer to 2 other branches (wont say where in case some of your husbands work at this particular site !) but dh is just not happy with the company and wouldnt feel safe there anyway. He has had 10 interviews in the past 2-3 weeks, and second interviews on alot of jobs. He is waiting answers for a few that would involve a commute but we wouldnt have to move again.

Trouble is he has been offered a very good position but it would mean relocating AGAIN and we have only just moved. Part of me says to him wait for something closer to here and another says well we havent settled yet and at least the mortgage will get paid. Also its a bit of a case of 'once bitten twice shy' iykwim. He is the main breadwinner so everything depends on his wage.

What to do? and dont laugh we feel crap about our situation, we must be the unluckiest people just lately!!

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Fio2 · 05/07/2004 18:11

Dont worry about putting a downer on it agy, thats what i asked on here for - a wide range of views. Dh seems to think Tewkesbury would have more job oppurtunities because it is more central to places.

Kittypickle I will email you and pick your brain about letting later

Do you know what bloody happened aswell! He went for an interview about a month before we moved here and it was about 15mile from where we used to live. It was wittled down to dh and another bloke and the bloke got it. This other bloke got offered the job. Last week they rang up and said it hadnt worked out with this other gentleman and would dh like the postion! grrrrrrrrrr But dh is adament he never moving back to staffordshire now, so..........

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Fio2 · 05/07/2004 18:12

oops i repeated myself a bit there! too lazy to preview

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gothicmama · 05/07/2004 18:41

fio2 remember you make the best decisions based on the info you have at the time.

Easy · 05/07/2004 18:58

Fio,

It's not crap decisions, It's just that life deals a crap hand from time to time. I should know, we have had a shocking last 18 months. But over the last 3-4 weeks things seem to be looking up (just waiting to get slapped in the face again now!!!!)

But what I'm trying to say is, all you can do is act on the info you currently have.

Personally I would love to move to Tewkesbury (my sister lives not far away), but does your dh like the sound and feel of the job. It really is impossible these days to judge job security, as I guess you've found out. You should be able to get a nicer house in tewkesbury for the same money as Kent IYSWIM.

But I'm not trying to influence you, just to say talk about it, make your decision. If it works out well then congratulate yourselves, if it doesn't work, Never blame yourselves. You can only deal with the balls life bowls you.

Rest assured, in a while life will come right (I tell myself every day)

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Fio2 · 05/07/2004 20:27

Thanks easy! I just feel like life is and never has been 'normal' for me >>let me have a self pitying moment

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Easy · 05/07/2004 20:32

Fio,

If you moved there I could come and visit when I come to see my family (that will probably put you off).

If you haven't made lots of friends/contacts, got everything in place for dd, etc, then what have you got to lose?

On the other hand, do you like tewkesbury.

Tell you what. You buy a house in tewkesbury, rent it out to us, You move to Nottingham and rent our house (4 bed detached).

We can't move yet, cos not in the position to negotiate a new mortgage right now.

How does that idea suit

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Fio2 · 05/07/2004 20:35

LOL i would love to have you visit easy I am going down next weekend now, I think it sort of definate. i have been to surrounding areas because my (shithead) dad used to live in stratford upon avon.

I love Nottingham btw!

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Davros · 06/07/2004 00:48

God Fio2, I just read the first post on this thread and thought "poor sods", then looked at the poster and its YOU!! How very unsettling. No advice really though

zebra · 06/07/2004 00:58

. , Fio. Sorry I don't know what I'd do in your place, either.

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Fio2 · 06/07/2004 09:50

Thanks davros and zebra for the sympathy!

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ScummyMummy · 06/07/2004 09:56

Have some more sympathy from me, Fio. What a total bummer being uprooted all over again. Hope it all sorts itself out and am sure it will but I'm not surprised you're feeling down. Totally agree with easy et al that this is not about bad decisions, btw. xxxxx

luckymum · 06/07/2004 20:00

Hey Fio...come back to Staffs......you know you want to!!

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Fio2 · 06/07/2004 20:14

OMG!! How weird is this? Today he has been to an interview on Dorset and they interviewed him ALL DAY. They have offered him the job of technical director and shares in the company. Obviously we WOULD have to move but how strange is it? is it? They said to him have you any apprehensions about moving again etc. etc. and he was honest with them and said the only worry he had was about the special needs provision for our daughter and guess what? the MD's son was autistic and he has given me his wife's phone number to ring to talk to her about the special scchools and provision down there. And they have also invited us to stay at their house for the weekend first to see if we like it down there! does anyone else think this is like the twilight zone?

LOL at you luckymum!

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littlerach · 06/07/2004 23:43

And Dorset is nice....not far from the coast.

Janh · 06/07/2004 23:59

Dorset is lovely, fio, that sounds great, your DH is obv very much in demand!

tamum · 07/07/2004 00:01

Oh Fio, what fantastic news! Now, if you could just see your way clear to moving within the next 3 weeks we can come and visit you when we come to Dorset on holiday. Sorted.

Which part is it? How exciting, and fab news about being able to get inside info on SN provision.

agy · 07/07/2004 00:15

Well, go and have a nice weekend - on them - anyway! Dorset is lovely.

Jimjams · 07/07/2004 00:18

wow fio2! Sounds like a good move to me- but oh god what a pain having to move again. At least you don't have to worry about sorting out your school transport problem now!

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Fio2 · 07/07/2004 11:36

Its in Wimbourne tamum. Which is Dorset/Hampshire border about 5 miles from the coast. According to dh that is!:0 Feel really weird today about it as I know if we are going to go for it I have to get off my bum and get 'this' house sorted to sell

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berries · 07/07/2004 14:30

Is the MDs wife a mn? Sounds like things are picking up anyway - good luck.

beetroot · 07/07/2004 14:34

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Kittypickle · 07/07/2004 14:34

Fio, get yourself down here, have a look around then see how you feel about it

IamFio2notFio23 · 07/07/2004 14:34

that is good then beety I hope the MD';s wife is not a MN she will think Im a headcase nut nut

IamFio2notFio23 · 07/07/2004 14:35

I will look forward to having you as a neighbour kittypickle!

soapbox · 07/07/2004 14:44

Fio2 - we've just been down to a little village just past Wimbourne for a wedding. It is absolutely beautiful round there. Really pretty little thatched cottages etc, chocolate box style! Lucky you - I think it would be a fabulous place to live

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