miscarriage + hormones + wedding night+ the pill = mumsnet question

[AnguaVonUberwald]

Getting married at the end of March.

Really really DON'T want to use condoms on the wedding night but;

Miscarried a month ago and have had PMT from hell this month. presumably because of excess hormones still in my system.

The plan was to go on the pill after my first period, have a couple of months of not worrying about it all and then try again.

Now really worried that putting more hormones into my system NOT a good idea, but not sure we are ready to start trying again on the wedding night.

Also, next period will probably be due around the wedding date (not ideal).

REALLY don't want to use condoms on the wedding night, but so worried that if I take the pill the hormones will send me all over the place, given body still recovering.

Advice please.

If it was me, then I would only take the pill if I wanted to make sure that I wasn't having AF around wedding date. Everything else I would leave to fate...or whatever.

Cap? IIRC you can safely insert it a couple of hours pre-sex, so no last minute wedding night fumbles, and slightly less mess

Juuule - Am definitly worried about AF round wedding day. Also worried about hormones from pill.

prufrock - tried the cap years ago, and didn't really get on with it TBH - plus not expecting to be totally sober.

Femidom? Rustly, but removes mess of period as well?