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what is the point of a life without children?

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Mud · 13/02/2007 18:02

having a morbid moement and wondere how i would feel if I didn't have my 3 for some reason as am too old to have any more

from this perspective fo having kids i really dont see what point there would be in going on if i no longer had them and had no chance of having others

which makes me wonder what is the point of life withoug kids?

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Mud · 13/02/2007 20:04

a few though have lese nad less in common with them - i enjoy their company as a break but find in the main their concerns and issues to be failry shallow

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NadineBaggott · 13/02/2007 20:04

I agree with CD. Weirdy question imho.

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Mud · 13/02/2007 20:05

oh thanks for adding to detbate then nadine

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NadineBaggott · 13/02/2007 20:11

what? I agree with CD what more can I say?

I think to say life without kids is pointless is a staggering indictment on the childless. You don't have to have your own kids to be involved with them either, if you want to.

I wouldn't be without mine but I wouldn't see my life as pointless if I didn't/couldn't have any.

Mhamai · 13/02/2007 20:11

Well isn't that just it then mud, I love poetry and crative writing and would quite frankly be bored to tears going to a woodwork class but we still need carpenters.
Different strokes, different fokes, whatever floats your boat and anyway wouldn't lfe be boring if we were all baby factorys and hey being a mother does not exclude one from shallowness.

DizzyBint · 13/02/2007 20:14

i find some of my dullest, trivial and shallow conversations take place amongst my mum friends, rather than my non mum friends. maybe you need some new more exciting friends mud.

morningpaper · 13/02/2007 20:16

lol Dizzybint, that is SO true

CountessDracula · 13/02/2007 20:23

I seem to remember that I was once lambasted on here for saying something along the lines of people who think motherhood is the be all and end all must have had very dull lives beforehand.

Honestly, I would not have been totally distraught if I couldn't have had kids. I would not for eg have adopted. I had a very full and interesting life with lots of friends with and without children. I'm sure I would have been sad that I was unable to experience having children (as I thought I was going to, took 3 yrs to conceive dd)

However, I would not have felt that life was pointless. At all.

peegeeweegee · 13/02/2007 20:45

Only read the OP.

I think there is a world of difference between losing the children you have and chosing/not be able to have any children.

If I lost my children I don't know how I would carry on. After such a devastating blow life would cetainly seem pointless.

If I never had them in the first place then I would have continued making a career, we would have more money, a bigger house, nice holidays and perhaps some great hobbies too.
A worthwhile life without children is entirely possible!!

Bugsy2 · 13/02/2007 21:02

My life has a point without children. I do not exist solely for my children.
That is not to say that I would want to be wihtout my children, butI really do believe life has a meaning without breeding.

Fillyjonk · 13/02/2007 21:05

hmm

I am very very glad I have my kids

can think of lots of other things I could have done though

I was doing advice /charity stuff pre kids and was good at it. would def have helped more people if my kids weren't around! And thats ignoring all the vso etc stuff i'd have liked to do...

Aloha · 13/02/2007 21:12

I think this is such a utilitarian view of the world. That a person only has value if they breed. I believe people have intrinsic value and that just as many people become rather worse for having children (pettier, more inward-looking, more limited in their interests and activities, more selfish) as become better people.

DrunkenSailor · 13/02/2007 21:20

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saadia · 13/02/2007 21:30

Before I got married and had kids I did sometimes think that there was nothing attaching me to life and the future and so it didn't really matter what happened to me. But that was a really unhealthy way to look at things.

Now that I have kids I really think that not having kids does not mean there is no point to life. But, if I hadn't had them I might have felt that life was worthless because I didn't know any better.

Anyhow, the point of this garbled message is that kids give us an aim in life and they fill the time and they teach us a lot and are of course life's greatest blessing, but, even without them a person can lead a worthwhile and valuable life as long as they believe it is valuable.

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