what is the point of a life without children?

[Mud]

having a morbid moement and wondere how i would feel if I didn't have my 3 for some reason as am too old to have any more

from this perspective fo having kids i really dont see what point there would be in going on if i no longer had them and had no chance of having others

which makes me wonder what is the point of life withoug kids?

so were not allwoed to discuss it because there might be someone having dificulty conceiving even though this is a parenting site - ridiculous

i am sorry for anyone who has trouble conceivng. i am even more sorry for anyone who has lost their children - ok? can e talk about it now without censoriious pc crap?

children aren't the be all and end all for everyone
it's very personal
I for one wouldn't be without my children, but have friends who equally wouldn't be 'with' children

who am I to judge?

Whilst personally I feel having children has enhanced my life and I wouldn't be without them, I wouldn't say my life would be pointless if I hadn't had them. My life would simply be full of different things and people.I would have probably persued a different career, travelled more etc Not that these things and having children are mutually exclusive. The decision to have children or indeed not to have them is an intensely personal one and one that sometimes is completley out of our hands.

you ar e someone hwo has been with and witout children - you know yourself in both positions so you are capable of judging based on yrou own experiences

i just thin even though i staunchly fought agianst having children and wa sbig on how wonderufl my life was and why would i do that to me - even though i would have fought tooth and nail with anyone who suggested otherwise from the persepcitve i now have i think i would hav been happy on the surface but with deep rooted insecuirities and emptiness

Glibly and off the cuff I'd say
disposable income
perkier breasts
no stretchmarks
more frequent holidays requiring less planning
social life
sleep ins
house looking as tidy on a friday as it did on a monday

I adore my children and they have brought me great joy and fulfilment
BUT
they have not defined me absolutely - although they have changed me.

Surely the sole purpose of every creature on the planet is simply to survive the best way it can in order to perpetuate it's species? There is no other point. If, in being childless, it assists the next generation to survive, then so be it. If it's a personal ego trip then it is pointless.

This thread is ridiculous, you could have put it much better Mud by saying something like 'my life would be pointless without my children' rather than generalising that all people without children are obviously having no life.

Your POV on here just makes you look argumentative and insensitive.

Lots of people dont have children for lots of reasons and thats sometimes their choice and sometimes not, but how you can comment on their life is beyond me

I'm quite confident that I would have had a perfectly fulfilling and happy life without children - although I am delighted that I have my two.

Actually think it is rather worrying to have the perspective that life is meaningless without children. Boy have some of you got big time empty nest syndrome heading your way in a few years time!

my daughter is not the be all and end all of my existence. she is a part of my life, as are lots of other things. having her, creating her, giving birth to her, watching her grow up, planning for her to have a sibling is just magical. it is one of several experience in my life that have made me the person i am. some people travel the world, some have an amazing career, some have children, some save lives..some do them all.

could i ahve put it better like that mosscops - well thank you for being editor-in-chief - i've normally found myself wlel able tosay what i mean tbh

yes thats a good point maybe mepty nest syndrome will be an issue with this frame of mind - although maybe its the very act of having and raising the chidlren and allowing them their independence which changes us as people and gives us an extra dimension in our lives beyond he materialistic

obviously and how pleasing you are with it.

Now Mother Theresa - there was a pointless individual!

sanctimonious much?

mother theresa raised thousands of children

Many of my childless friends have good, fulfilling relationships with children, they just don't happen to be their biological children .

I had a fab lunch out with a group of them on Saturday - ds got passed round his doting "aunties" and "uncles" and I got to chat about non-baby things and eat my lunch in peace.

They got to go home and have an uninterrupted night's sleep, get up late and read the Sunday papers cover-to-cover.

Vive la difference!

There're a lot of threads about this stuff tonight - I find myself needing to stick up for those without kids for some reason, obviously not identifying myself enough as a "mum" yet

OH fgs!@!!!!

the point of life without children:

the freedom to do what you wish, be it VSO or building an empire.

the freedom to sleep when you need to

the luxury of travelling in a free way

the incredible indulgence of love without interruption, both emotional and sexual with your partner.

a lot less guilt

a lot less judging and being judged.

a body unravaged by childbirth, wolfing children's teas

and that is just for starters.

what nonsense, did none of you have lives before children???

I love my ds. But i certainly don't think my life is pointless without him. Losing him would be an agony. But life without him was rich and mysterious and exciting just as it is with him in it, but with more care.

Weirdos.

sophable!

I have to admit that I often felt (in the past) a bit sad at the idea of women being happy not having children until I realised I was coming from the stance of being a mother myself and that's when I realised, it's my stuff and maybe on some level I was maybe projecting an unconsious fantasy about what my life would be without kids. I often wonder where I'd be now had I not had kids but at the end of the day, I'll never know.