I think judging people for their life choices is right - it is certainly the lifeblood of an internet discussion board

[Twiglett]

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Wrong wrong wrong

I tend to think of our lives as a jigsaw puzzle with many different pieces.

You shouldn't judge until you have at least seen the full picture.

Although having said that I do judge people who smoke around children, whatever the full picture is

Fruit shoots and sausage rolls and I am with you....

Fulfilling your own prophesy Twig??

i think hearing different points of view is wonderful. ( dc excepted)

no they dont.

Not sure that I agree with the first part but definitely with the second.

I often think that the issue is whether you judge secretly and don't let anyone know your true feelings in rl or if you wade in and let rip.

I think that we all make internal judgements about the choices other people make, I know that I often do, but I would very very rarely vocalise that judgement because I'm aware that often I don't know the full story and my conclusions may well be wrong.

if you refuse to have an opinion then you don't add anything to a discussion though

It's such a thick knee jerk reaction to squeal 'Don't judge!'
If anything,it injects my judging with extra vigour.....

I will voice my opinion here much more readily than in rl although that is starting to change as I become more confident of myself in rl too.

I think judging on choices is okay, but only if those choices are 100% freely made by someone in possession of the full facts etc etc etc. But life is not often like that, is it?

I think there are limits to what can be explained away by having more info/circumstances etc.

Sometimes judgements have to be made, thinking of issues of child protection here so admittedly quite extreme.

I also think that part of the role of a society is to judge, to offer understanding but also to help to impose limits on acceptable behaviour.

I do judge some times - althou yesterday I was shopping with my nan and she was doing the whole old lady staring at the child screaming thing! - I said 'nan' and immediatly thought of MN! lol.

to be fair thou she was smiling as after 6 kids and 20 odd GC's she knows how shopping with children can be. so as bloss says really you should wait until you know the full story (I do try but it doens't always work out that way esp on here)

interesting point custardo makes in a flippant way. when DO we start taking DCs' points of view seriously?

I mean, if DD (nearly 7) came up to me and said "daddy I think all governments are SILLY we ought to get rid of them all and let everyone govern themselves", I'd know she hadn't really thought it through. But what if she said that when she was 17?... 27?...

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oh I SEEEEEEE...... Slaps head!!

Can I just say I feel really, really stupid now.
I'm going to go and lie low for a bit...

Great bit of talking at crossed porpoises there...!

Depends as people often don't know the full circumstances.

For example, I was told earlier tongight that me being a single mum was my life choice which is obviously bollocks.

still a valid point though unquiet - are there some people whose opinion we automatically discount (like MIL) because they can't possibly know what they're talking about.
btw if your 7yo said all that, sign her up for oxbridge & get her running the country.

no, don't think we should. It is perfectly possible to have an opinion on something without judging other people's lives.h