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serenequeen · 08/06/2004 13:22

here is the situation.

some of you may know that we have been attempting to move house for quite a while (previously discussed on mumsnet, but i can't find the thread now).

we told the estate agents and our solicitors some while ago that if we hadn't exchanged contracts by 4th June we would have to postpone our move until October (due to the fact that i'm currently nearly 33wks pg - baby due at end july) - wanting to allow 4 wks between exchange and completion to make sure the stress on us (we have a toddler as well) was minimised.

our buyers have had trouble with their buyers and to cut a long story short are now running behind schedule. last week we reluctantly agreed to move our deadline to this friday 11th june. have just been told by the estate agent that they will not be able to exchange contracts this friday, but will "definitely" be able to do it by next friday, leaving us 2 wks between exchange and completion. of course there is no guarantee whatsoever that we would be able to exchange next week either.

needless to say i'm getting a lot of pressure from the estate agent to agree to this - e.g. it's very usual (he says) to have only this amount of time between exchange and completion. i'm getting irritated by the hard sell, by the lack of understanding of our situation (most people aren't in an advanced state of pg with difficulty walking some days) and by the fact that we are getting this grief even though we have been consistent right from the outset about what our needs were in terms of timing. that's the sale of our house.

on the purchase side, we are ready to exchange subject to agreement on the fixtures and fittings (also discussed before on mumsnet - can't find that one either) and to consideration for items highlighted from the building survey needing immediate attention.

the seller has been quite adamant from the outset that they are taking most things with them (including the bath from the second bathroom) and what they are leaving they are charging hefty prices for. so far they have refused to consider lowering the price of the house in consideration for a breached damp course and woodworm infestation (house not already priced to reflect that this type of work might need to be done).

dh and i have estimated the costs of not coming to agreement on either of these things and think the additional cost to us would be in the region of £15,000. since we also have my maternity leave to fund for 3m, i'm very reluctant to raid our savings for this much money, especially as we had earmarked it for improvements of our own, not for just making the place habitable, iyswim.

so wise mumsnetters, should i give them the extra week, pull out now, or stick to our plan b of potentially moving in october? (of course our buyer and seller might call the whole thing off if we don't move till october).

thanks in advance

ps - has anyone else noticed they can't find things on search atm?

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janinlondon · 23/06/2004 15:12

SQ What has happened?? Have I missed an update somewhere else?

Batters · 24/06/2004 10:06

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serenequeen · 25/06/2004 08:53

hello again everyone.

i have been a bit sheepishj about posting here over the last few days, because despite my words at the weekend we did in fact let things go a few more days into this week - we do really like the house after all. unfortunately the buyers at the bottom of the chain have been useless - to the point of lying about their mortgage offer materialising (it hadn't). everyone else ready to go (had even reached agreement with our vendors on the festering sore of the fixtures and fittings ). by wednesday my stress levels had gone through the ceiling so we pulled the plug on a move next week yesterday and are now trying to negotiate a moving date in early oct.

thanks again for your interest and comments

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dinny · 25/06/2004 08:57

Serenequeen, just wanted to say we are in exactly the same position. Our sale has dragged on sooo much. We've set a cut-off point for exchange for 1st July as we need a month between exchange and completion to find a rental property (EEK). It's so stressful, isn't it, dealing with this crap and toddler and being pregnant. Just not knowing where you're going to be. Think you have done the right thing pulling plug. We will probably be doing the same next week. Hope you feel calmer now you've decided to not go with completion before the baby.

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LIZS · 25/06/2004 09:44

Sorry it hasn't worked out for you yet. Think you are doing the sensible thing now deferring and hope you can now feel less stressed before the baby arrives.

Marina · 25/06/2004 09:46

Sorry to hear you have been forced to defer and hope it is at least now helping the stress levels to diminish. Boo to your lying chain-wreckers and a decent weekend ahead for you, sq, you really deserve it.

berries · 25/06/2004 11:34

SQ, we saw our house in April & moved in (finally) in November When we got there, wicked witch hadn't moved out (hadn't even booked removal firm). We ended up paking for her the day after we were due to move in. We had a first time buyer for our house, she was going into rented accomodation, so it wasn't even a long chain, she was just a complete PITA. Anyway, (get to the point), 11 years on we are having massive building works done & doubling the size of the house as we love it so much we don't want to move again. Sometimes it is worth just gritting your teeth because it's worth it in the end. BTW this house needed quite a lot done to it as well, most of it has been done gradually/cheaply over the years, now we're having the final push.
Take care of yourself & try not to think about it too much now, I'm sure it will all be worth it.

serenequeen · 25/06/2004 13:02

OH MY GOD WE HAVE JUST EXCHANGED CONTRACTS!!!! [GRIN] [GRIN] [GRIN]

WE ARE NEVER MOVING HOUSE AGAIN!!!!

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Marina · 25/06/2004 13:06

So, for a move in October or July sq? Congratulations, you're there!!!!

littlerach · 25/06/2004 13:07

Hurrah - now keep everything crossed for us!!!

dinny · 25/06/2004 13:14

Congrats, SQ. I am sooooo jealous. We've just been informed of yet another delay/more expense.

berries · 25/06/2004 13:35

congrats - hope it all happens quickly from now

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serenequeen · 25/06/2004 14:05

thank you! we're moving next friday! i have told dh that when he is back from glasto he is full-time on moving!

good luck, littlerach and dinny.

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serenequeen · 25/06/2004 14:07

ps - the estate agent ignored everything we said about pulling the plug and kept egging everyone else on...

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sis · 25/06/2004 14:39

Oh wow serenequeen, that is brilliant - espially after all the stress, delays and hassles! I guess you'll be too busy packing to mumsnet for the next few days

prufrock · 25/06/2004 14:55

Oh hurrah - So glad it's finally all worked out

Tinker · 25/06/2004 20:15

Hurrah! . have been following this thread but had nothing constructive to add. But now I do - 'Hurrah!'

WideWebWitch · 25/06/2004 20:18

Oh that's great news sq!

LIZS · 25/06/2004 20:30

wow, that's a turn up for the books. Good on you and hope the rest progresses smoothly.

suedonim · 25/06/2004 21:58

Wow, SQ!! I hope your 'flit' goes smoothly - designate yourself the Removals Superintendent and sit back and give lots of directions to everyone else.

ScummyMummy · 26/06/2004 00:39

Acearoonie! Wonderful news, SQ.

tigermoth · 26/06/2004 09:24

bingo! fab news!!!