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Cake Watchers

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 13/04/2016 19:30

I have had enough of trying to be thin. Or even a bit thinner. I'm not massive but I am bigger than I should be. Its just too hard to lose weight. And I'm getting older - 41. And DH doesn't give a damn (God love him) Who has accepted their bodies, embraced their chubster self and stuck two fingers up at the world of thin? Come on women give some support to my fatty selfSmileWink

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Thefitfatty · 15/04/2016 19:48

Some days I think I look toned, other days I don't. I have a c-section shelf, stretch marks on my belly and thighs and a bit of cellulite under my ass. But I do exercise, especially weight lift, and the stronger I get, even if it doesn't lower the weight on the scale or drop a clothing size, makes me feel good.

I will always tell people to get active. Its such a confidence changer and a fuck lot easier then dieting

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 15/04/2016 20:14

My worst area is my legs. Especially my mega chunkster thighs. Not sure if exercise would help, but might make me feel better! Good for you.SmileSmile

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Thefitfatty · 15/04/2016 20:26

I always used to hate my chunky thighs, but I would say my stomach has taken over as my most hated area. I have diastasis recti so I always look pregnant

SuffolkNWhat · 15/04/2016 20:31

Signing up!

I'm 5'4 and a size 18 on the top, 12/14 on the bottom so very top heavy.

My boobs mean that exercise is hard and at the moment I'm just trying to get to a BMI that'll allow me to get my reduction done on the NHS.

DH adores my body and I have started to not care what anyone else thinks!

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 15/04/2016 20:37

Ooh, I forgot about this thread. I'm so happy Cake Watchers caught on! not that I was sad enough to sit there for 20 minutes trying to think of a witty name oh no

I'm the opposite to you Suffolk I'm a 10/12 on top and a 16 on bottom. I look great sat behind a desk Grin

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 15/04/2016 20:37

haha - strike out fail

GarlicShake · 15/04/2016 20:42

I'm just trying to get to a BMI that'll allow me to get my reduction done on the NHS.

That sounds slightly bonkers - going by your self-description, a fair amount of your BMI must be in the boobs you wanted to reduce!

But maybe don't? Unless they're giving you a bad back or something.

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 15/04/2016 20:55

By the way, does this thread disappear after 90 days? Should I ask MNHQ to move it somewhere else if people are interested in keeping it going? Just seems to be a real need for honest open discussion about all of these issues. I've definitely found it helpful.
Not sure where they'd put it, I have been on MN a little while but still not quite sure how it all works!

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 15/04/2016 20:58

Thefitfatty just had to google disatis recti, poor you that doesn't sound very pleasant, and all the more credit to you for carrying on with exercise.

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Thefitfatty · 15/04/2016 21:02

Please request a move! I've no idea where though. Fatties being fatties may deserve its own forum!

SuffolkNWhat · 15/04/2016 21:05

The amount I have to lose is the amount they'll be taking! It's utterly bonkers. I do have a lot of back pain which is why I want them done.

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 15/04/2016 21:05

Ok I'll try! Yes loads of topics for losing weight blah blah, no fatties thread! Will let you know.

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minatiae · 15/04/2016 21:09

Me. I still look good in my eyes and that's all that matters to me. I'm not massively overweight, I'm 20lbs overweight, but I've repeatedly lost and gained those 20lbs and now I'm done with it. They can stay. It seems to be my natural weight.

BikeRunSki · 15/04/2016 21:13

I've lost and gained the same 2 or 3 stone 100 times since I was 15. I've 45 now and about 1-1.5 stone heavier than I ought to be, but I settle at this weight without too much deprivation and I was happy with it. Then 2 weeks ago an overweight verging on obese friend of mine dropped dead of a heart attack. This has triggered me into cutting down the junk and exercising more.

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 15/04/2016 21:14

OK i think I've asked them to move it somewhere appropriate and rename it Cake Watchers! Will let you all know what happens!

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Thefitfatty · 17/04/2016 06:38

Hmmm, doesn't seem they've moved it. Ah well! Lets try and keep it alive. :) I find this site can be so anti-body positive sometimes it's nice to have some like minded people to talk to! :)

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 17/04/2016 07:11

I'm not sure I contacted them in the best way, I actually emailed them as it didn't seem like something that needed reporting as such, so I guess it may take them a while to respond.
If anyone knows a better way of getting a thread moved, please feel free! Am not much of an expert on MN!

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Thefitfatty · 17/04/2016 07:17

We could report it? That usually gets their attention, but I don't want to get it deleted!

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 17/04/2016 08:04

Ok I'll try Smile

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 17/04/2016 08:12

Have reported, fingers crossed!
Had a very hectic day yesterday with DS birthday party in our house, I kind of picked at party food but then had no appetite for dinner, so swings and roundabouts I guess. DH took some photos of me doing the birthday cake, I had a look at them and actually found myself thinking 'I don't look too bad...'
DH now away for 2 weeks so the monotony of single parenthood will kick in, and I need to try not to comfort eat.

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stugtank · 17/04/2016 08:53

This is what the diet industry fears - this attitude would put them out of business!

MizK · 17/04/2016 09:07

Great thread ☺

My BMI is 25.7 and I have agonised over my weight and diet ever since DD2 was born. Have yoyoed between my current weight and around a stone lighter....cried over gaining a pound, learned to regard junk food as some sort of magical treat and therefore craved it like nothing else, generally obsessed over how I look to the detriment of my happiness.

If I never lose another ounce I am determined to accept myself the way I am. I am tall, work out regularly, can run a few miles without needing resuscitation and have a cracking pair of boobs Wink I refuse to chase the ideal body any longer. Fuck it. I have better things to think about.

Thefitfatty · 17/04/2016 09:22

I went to birthday brunch on Friday. I drank a few too many beers, but I really tried to pay attention to whether I was full, or just eating for eating's sake. I actually ate very little compared to what I would normally pack away at an all you can eat brunch! I feel great.

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AuntieMaryHadACanary · 17/04/2016 09:51

MizK good for you! I definitely need to work on the fitness side, fitfatty has been inspiring me!
Any suggestions for things I could do at home? DH works away a lot, and between my job and being mum to my two DS its really tricky to fit it in.
We have just got a new huge trampoline, I did some bouncing on it yesterday but a) turns out my pelvic floor isn't all that great Blushand b) my boobs are really sore today! It is a mega bouncy trampoline and I'm not sure it was such a great idea! Shame, I quite enjoyed it in a childish way!

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MizK · 17/04/2016 10:14

Youtube is great. Loads of Jillian Michaels if you want cardio, also there is a channel called yoga with Adriene which has fantastic yoga for beginners, she has a 30 day challenge with short sessions of between 20 and 35 mins that you can do each morning. They really set you up for the day and aren't too intense for first thing.

Haha I have had 3 children so am far too scared to test my pelvic floor on a trampoline! Grin