Thanks Amanda. I think the only thing that will improve things for my Sister is if she loses the bf. She's long had a bit of a problem with alcohol, and things have got much worse since bf has been on the scene. My Mum has my Nephew nearly all the time now, and she's not a well woman. We have him when we can, but with our three, it's difficult, particuarly as Nephew and one of my boys don't get on that well. My Sister really needs to wise up and start being a responsible parent.