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Is it reasonable to want to know why ....

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rickman · 02/11/2006 23:45

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NAB3 · 04/11/2006 18:01

Try and stay calm. Go in with an open mind. Remember you owe her nothing, you are the children's mother she is just your ex's gf. Think beforehand what the problems are and what you want to ask. Maybe tell her what your ex has said and get her to explain it. You owe them nothing so don't worry about coming between them. Good luck, and don't drink too much. Who is having the kids?

Carmenere · 04/11/2006 18:01

Rickman this is a welcome turn of events. Credit where credit is due, she must be reasonably evolved to be willing to talk to you herself and on neutral ground. Good Luck
And remember NO ONE can take the place of a mum. The best you can hope for is a decent woman to help care for them when they are with their dad.

Loobie · 04/11/2006 19:00

I have skim read this thread and see you are probably out meeting this women now so my input might be pointless now but will give it anyway lol
I think i can remember some of your earlier threads regarding your break up with ex etc. The fact that this women doesnt have her dd with her and that there is background info you are not aware puts my back up immediately,it usually takes a fair bit for a child to be kept away from the mother.To have her sleeping with your dc,well i would personally be doing my nut by now about it all.I totally agree that until you are happy with her she should under no circumstances have lone care of your dc,i have volunteered tohelp out at dd nursery and have to be police checked to volunteer,i am a nurse FGS but still have to screened togo help at nursery!

This is a huge reason why i am so glad ex-p is so far away with his lousy gf,and she wont be near my dc,even if they moved closer she would be around my dc over my dead body,she has had 9 children!! 1 of whom passed away in infancy,she has 3 of them with her,the latest to my ex-p,another 2 with their father,another 1 with his father,another 1 with her grandparents and the last 1 with his father in location unknown to ex's gf!!so in a nutshell she had 8 children to 7 different fathers,only has custody of 2 of them,the others are all over the country and he went on to have another with her ! You can see why i am so glad to never have to come up against what you are at the moment rickman!!

Surfermum · 04/11/2006 20:10

Good luck Rickman. I think it's great that the two of you are meeting. Maybe there's nothing to hide and he was just being stubborn about telling you anything. I hope so.

Bucketsofburntdinosaurs · 04/11/2006 20:38

I think it sounds like a great idea, hope this goes well for you Rickman, . A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing, it's so much better to get it from the horse's mouth, even if you find you can't stand the woman . Fingers crossed it will lead to you and your ex being on better terms too.

nikkie · 04/11/2006 20:41

Good fro you, hope it goes Ok!

BATtymumma · 04/11/2006 21:04

are you back yet.

really hoping you have found its all inoccent and there is nothign to worry about...even that the pair of y9ou get on. i think that would be the best outcome for you all in teh long run.

let us know how it went

colditz · 04/11/2006 21:06

Gosh you are brave rickman

SherlockLGJ · 04/11/2006 21:13

Oh God I wish I hadn't clicked on this......I wanna now, how she gets on.

I have seen a picture of our Rickman and she is a stunner, so I hope she walked in, head held high.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 04/11/2006 22:32

shes been there along time . I bet they are getting drunk together and slagging ExDH off . LOL well I hope they are .

SherlockLGJ · 05/11/2006 08:19

LGJ drums her fingers, and waits...~~~~~~~~~

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 05/11/2006 09:54

It was obviously a late night . I hope thats a good thing .

Carmenere · 05/11/2006 09:56

Or they have all spent the night in the cells
I do realise that is in bad taste, but I am sure the Rickman is not, I 'm sure she is just knackered.

BATtymumma · 05/11/2006 09:59

OOh i am really anxious to know what happened, i am really praying it went well but at the same time have this horrid feeling that Rickman hasn't rushed on to tell us how great it went.

WAKE UP AND TELL US!!!!

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rickman · 05/11/2006 12:05

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Carmenere · 05/11/2006 12:12

I am delighted that this has gone so well.
As my sister just said to me on the phone 'well men were just God's first attempt at human beings, she ironed out the problems and then created women'

BATtymumma · 05/11/2006 12:16

great it went well.
i'm really pleased that at the very elast your mind is at ease a little.

PMSL @carmenere's sister, that is fab! wil have to remember that one

Bucketsofburntdinosaurs · 05/11/2006 13:27

Yaaaaaaaaaaay!!! Hope that clears the path for a much more pleasant family life for you.

nikkie · 05/11/2006 18:55

Yay!
You must feel so much better for that (despite the hangover) and always fun to annoy the xh!

Miaou · 05/11/2006 19:01

Oh hooray! I had this thread on watch from last night

Hope your ds is ok rickman

WhizzBangCaligula · 05/11/2006 19:02

Ooh, can't wait to hear the full details!

Miaou · 05/11/2006 19:02

ooops sorry, should be dd2

Clarinet60 · 05/11/2006 21:45

Good, I had a feeling that's how it would go. I think you two will end up liking each other far more than either of you like him. (This happened to me once with a distant ex)

Surfermum · 05/11/2006 21:48

Good for you Rickman.

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rickman · 06/11/2006 21:37

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