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Todays moral dilema

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Beabea · 28/10/2006 20:39

I have a friend visiting who breast feeds her 1yr old son. As he is not with her on this trip she has had to express some off. Should she have thrown away her milk or fed it to my 5week old son.

It doesn't quite sit right with us but we can't really say why.

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hunkermunker · 28/10/2006 23:52

Now you are talking bollocks, I'm afraid.

Well, you are still talking bollocks.

hairymclary · 28/10/2006 23:52

I ate whatever I wanted when I was breastfeeding and my ds was fine.
What do you think happens if a nursing motherh as a bug? should she stop breastfeeding in case her newborn gets it?
what a ridiculous thing to say.

QuootieSpookypie · 28/10/2006 23:53

I think Hazlenuts points sound plausable... the milk for a 5 week old, and a one year old are bound to be different. Also, the risk of cross infection. im ed that your all ed.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/10/2006 23:54

hazelnut, I understand what you are trying to say, but its just not true, or even likely. Breastmilk is always screened anyway.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/10/2006 23:55

Quootie - it really isnt.

There are issues with HIV etc - but - a woman with HIV (and she WOULD be tested) would not be donating, and as i said - the milk is screened.

hairymclary · 28/10/2006 23:57

milk does change. but it isn't BAD for a younger baby to have it.
if that was the case then milk banks wouldn't be able to take anything from mums of older babies, which as we know isn't true.

hairymclary · 28/10/2006 23:58

why is a baby any more likely to catch a 'bug' from someone else's milk than from their own mother's?

milk contains all kinds of lovely antibacterial properties, antibodies to 'bugs' and other good things.

theHAUNTEDhazelnut · 29/10/2006 00:00

3andnomore Oh and why would there be more evil thngs lurking in another womans Breastmilk than forinstance cowsmilk or FF (which is cowsmilk derived???)

It depends on how you are in health, what you eat, if you are taking meds.

Cows milk would be screened and god knows what else before its made into FF milk.

3andnomore · 29/10/2006 00:02

BUt Cowsmilk is a completely different protein and actually that is to do with the cows digesteive systems...for humand cows protein is a bit to complex!

hairymclary · 29/10/2006 00:03

so HH, if a mum gets ill should she stop breastfeeding?

3andnomore · 29/10/2006 00:04

But then, I have been ill with a bug when my son was only lil the thing is that protects is, that whilest you may have the bug in your system and even milk you also produce all teh antobodys...so, indeed one does a Baby a favour to feed them whilest oe is ill!

theHAUNTEDhazelnut · 29/10/2006 00:06

hairymclary milk does change. but it isn't BAD for a younger baby to have it.
if that was the case then milk banks wouldn't be able to take anything from mums of older babies, which as we know isn't true.

I see now you are saying it does change.

Where have I said it is bad for the 5 week old baby to have.

I said it could be bad.

All milk bank milk would be tested before giving it to another baby!

3andnomore · 29/10/2006 00:07

Haunted Hazelnut, PLEASE visit the Kellymom website and read up on the facts and not the myths of breastfeeding and then come back!

Greensleeves · 29/10/2006 00:07

"I would not think her milk would do your 5 week old son any good!! Her milk now would just be drinking milk to her year old. Your son needs the best milk possible, her milk would be nowhere near the standers/quality he needs."

You said that

theHAUNTEDhazelnut · 29/10/2006 00:08

hairymclary so HH, if a mum gets ill should she stop breastfeeding?

In some cases of illness yes!!!!

3andnomore · 29/10/2006 00:08

link to kellymom website and all the important info!!!!!!!!

QuootieSpookypie · 29/10/2006 00:08

Yep, but the dilemma was about unscreened milk.

hairymclary · 29/10/2006 00:08

i have always said it can change. it does adapt and change.
but it does NOT deteriorate and it is NOT bad for a younger baby

hairymclary · 29/10/2006 00:09

sorry HH,but you are very misinformed.

give me an example of when a mother should stop breastfeeding

3andnomore · 29/10/2006 00:10

But anyway, the hypothetical mum was not ill, her Baby was older and the other one, that could have possibly received some valuable breaatmilk is FF'ed!...so, what si your argument? Do you think that cowsmilk or FF is better than BF of the average woman?

hairymclary · 29/10/2006 00:11

the only thing I can think of that could make a mum need to give up breastfeeding is if she contracted HIV.
and that's a bit different to just having a bug

3andnomore · 29/10/2006 00:12

admittedly if HIV and in a western culture where payiong the price for Formula or availability of donated Breastmilk is possible and easily available, then yes, in those cases it's better maybe not to bf, to avoid the virus passing...but in 3. world countrys forinstance a child still has a better chance by being bf'ed by their HIV+ mum the recieving underdiluted insifficuent nourishement of Formula

QuootieSpookypie · 29/10/2006 00:13

LLL :

Myth 24: Nursing a baby after 12 months is of little value because the quality of breast milk begins to decline after six months.

Fact: The composition of human milk changes to meet the changing needs of baby as he matures. Even when baby is able to take solids, human milk is the primary source of nutrition during the first year. It becomes a supplement to solids during the second year. In addition, it takes between two and six years for a child's immune system to fully mature. Human milk continues to complement and boost the immune system for as long as it is offered.

hairymclary · 29/10/2006 00:16

3andnomore, yes you're right. if a baby is being exclusively breastfed then often the advice to an HIV positive mother is to continue to breastfeed (genereally in 3rd world countries)
I remember this from the person on here who posted aboutt he possibility of contracting it and giving up bf her 10 month old.

anyone know whath appened with her?

QuootieSpookypie · 29/10/2006 00:21

I was told by HV that D & V would impair BFing.