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Procrastinators, get your pompoms. Let's cheer each other on and kick the procrastination habit!

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ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 16:08

Inspired by the thread in AIBU... This is a thread where chronic procrastinators can get together to share tips, hold hands and try to break the habit of a lifetime! We all have our reasons for procrastinating (some conscious, some less so) but this thread is our chance to talk to people who understand the stress and help each other make positive changes.

Useful links from the original thread (thanks to all who shared):

This is the best description of procrastination I've read, written by a chronic procrastinator. This is his attempt to suggest strategies.

This is an excellent website from Carleton University in Canada - the page from the Procrastination Research Group. There is a blog with the key posts - useful for understanding and tackling procrastination. The work on goal focus is quite practical.

This post from BBC suggests apps you may find useful.

It might be useful to say hello and identify the key areas we procrastinate in below. Also think about small steps we can take to change that.

Good luck fellow monkey-minders! Thanks

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ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 16:21

Right, so to introduce myself with my shiny new name :o I'm a mum and a freelancer working from home and I have procrastinated forever. I joked about it on the last thread but truthfully it has caused me massive pain, stress and under-achievement at various points in my life. I really don't want to pass on my bad habits to DC.

Main areas I procrastinate in:

  • Hoarding / clutter clearing - I really want to do this but can put it off indefinitely.
  • Health - my diet and exercise need to change, not least because when I'm stressed I'm prone to health anxiety and a change of lifestyle would make that easier to rationalise away.
  • Financial paperwork - my Achilles heel since I set up a business a few years ago. I'm CRAP at it and it is literally the most stressful bit of my job.
  • General housework and organisation - I just want things to be more streamlined.

I think I'm going to start with financial paperwork because I've thought some of that through already. Actions to take are:

  • Gather all paperwork together in a box (especially focusing on receipts)
  • Begin filing it (get a file and dividers, hole punch, pockets etc.)
  • Start a basic comp file to record all expenses, mileage etc. or use calendar.
  • Find a new accountant (I have a couple of names - need to call one in particular.)
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AWholeLottaNosy · 25/02/2015 16:32

Brilliant, well done for creating this!

TwatFaceBitch · 25/02/2015 17:00

Thank you for setting this thread up Flowers
I genuinely don't have the time to read the links and write a long post at the mo, but I will be back, as I know I need the support.

ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 17:01

Thanks Lotta. At least you understand the effort it took not to put it off Wink

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ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 17:02

Good to see you TFB come back when you can!

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AWholeLottaNosy · 25/02/2015 17:28

I thought it would be useful to reproduce these tips from Tim Pychyl, a procrastination researcher at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada,I'm sitting in the hairdressers getting me roots done so I thought I'd use the time productively..! I thought the tips were really good.

Why you procrastinate

Before diving into some tactics to stop procrastinating, you should know why you procrastinate in the first place.

According to Pychyl, procrastination is fundamentally a visceral, emotional reaction to what you have to do.

When you put pressure on yourself to accomplish certain tasks, according to Pychyl you “have this strong reaction to the task at hand, and so the story of procrastination begins there with what psychologists call task aversiveness”. The more aversive a task is to you, the more you’ll resist it, and the more likely you are to procrastinate.

Pychyl, in his research and during our interview, identified a number of task characteristics that make you more likely to procrastinate. Tasks that are aversive tend to:

Be boring
Be frustrating
Be difficult
Lack personal meaning and intrinsic rewards
Be ambiguous (you don’t know how to do it)
Be unstructured
The more negative emotions you show toward a certain task, the more likely you are to procrastinate, and according to Pychyl, “any of these [characteristics] can do it”.1

As Tim wrote in Solving the Procrastination Puzzle, “[t]he key issue is that for chromic procrastinators, short-term mood repair takes precedence. Chronic procrastinators want to eliminate the negative mood or emotions now, so they give in to feel good. They give in to the impulse to put off the task until another time.” Then, “not faced with the task, they feel better.”

10 tips to stop procrastinating.

  1. Flip a task’s characteristics to make it less aversive

Tasks that are aversive are usually a combination of boring, frustrating, difficult, meaningless, ambiguous, and unstructured. But by breaking down exactly which of these attributes an aversive task has, you can take those qualities and turn them around to make the task more appealing to you.

Tim gave the example of a task that is boring and frustrating. “You’re able to look at it and assess it and say, ‘Oh, this is so boring and I find it so frustrating’, so you make a little game out of it. How can you make it interesting? So I might play a game of, ‘How many of these could I get done in 20 minutes?’. And you find something to do–some competition within it, and so all of a sudden you make it interesting”, and much less boring and frustrating in the process.

Similarly, by making tasks less difficult, meaningless, ambiguous, and unstructured, you can mold what you have to do to be more desirable to you. When you notice yourself procrastinating, use your procrastination as a trigger to examine a task’s characteristics and think about what you should change.

  1. Know the ways your brain responds to “cognitive dissonance”

Whenever you realize that you should be doing something but that you aren’t (psychologists call this separation between your actions and beliefs cognitive dissonance), you can respond in one of several ways to feel better about yourself. In his book, Pychyl identifies a number of unproductive responses people have when they procrastinate:

Distracting yourself, and thinking about other things
Forgetting what you have to do, either actively or passively (usually for unimportant tasks)
Downplaying the importance of what you have to do
Giving yourself affirmations, focusing on other your values and qualities that will solidify your sense of self
Denying responsibility to distance yourself from what you have to do
Seeking out new information that supports your procrastination (e.g. when you tell yourself you need to have more information before you get started on something)
Of course, the best possible response to cognitive dissonance is to change your behaviour and get started on whatever you’re procrastinating on, but that’s often much easier said than done.

To push back against these biases, recognizing them is key. Then, Tim recommends that you “list the things that you commonly say or do to justify your procrastination”, and use these biases as triggers that you should respond to your behaviour differently.

  1. Limit how much time you spend on something

One of my favorite tactics that Tim recommended is to limit how much time you spend on something. He spoke about his German colleague who limits how much time he allows academic procrastinators spend on an assignment. “He will limit the time they can work on an assignment. ‘Okay, we’re working today and you’ve got twenty minutes to work on that assignment, and you may not work any more.’ And so they go: ‘I’ve got twenty minutes. I better make the best use of it.’” And they do.

Limiting how much time you spend on a task makes the task more fun, more structured, and less frustrating and difficult because you’ll always be able to see an end in sight.

There are some huge productivity benefits to the idea as well. When you limit how much time you spend on something instead of throwing more time at the problem, you force yourself to exert more energy over less time to get it done, which will make you a lot more productive.

  1. Be kind to yourself

According to Tim, when you procrastinate “negative self-talk comes out in spades”, which is completely counterproductive.

When I interviewed David Allen, who wrote the terrific time-management book Getting Things Done, one stat he mentioned still sticks out in my mind: that 80% of the thoughts you say to yourself in your head are negative. And it’s pretty difficult to procrastinate without deceiving yourself.

The reason you deceive yourself when you procrastinate is simple: at the same time that you know you should be doing something, a different part of you is very much aware that you’re not actually doing it, so you make up a story about why you’re not getting that thing done. (This is the cognitive dissonance I mentioned in tactic #2.) Be mindful of how kind you are to yourself, and watch out for times when you try to deceive yourself.

  1. Just get started

People, as a rule, overestimate how much motivation they need to do something. After all, usually you just need enough motivation to get started. For example:

To work out, you don’t need to be motivated for an entire hour to finish a workout; you just need to be motivated for the 10 minutes it takes you to pack up and drive to the gym. Once you’re at the gym, you’ll always work out.
To clean out your basement, you don’t need to be motivated for the entire afternoon; you just need to be motivated for the five minutes it takes you to transition from what you’re doing now to getting started.
To go for a swim in a cold pool, you don’t need to be motivated for your entire swim; you just need to be motivated for the 30 seconds it takes you to jump in and start swimming.
One of the biggest recommendations Tim had was to simply get started. “Once we start a task, it is rarely as bad as we think.” In fact, once you get started on something, your “attributions of the task change”, and what you think about yourself changes, too.

  1. List the costs of procrastinating

The costs of procrastinating can be enormous; as Tim put it in his book, “[w]hen we procrastinate on our goals, we are basically putting off our lives.” Since procrastination is very much an emotional reaction to what you have to do, activating the rational part of your brain to identify the costs of procrastinating is a great strategy to get unstuck.

In his book, Tim recommends that you make a list of the tasks you’re procrastinating on, and then “[n]ext to each of these tasks or goals, note how your procrastination has affected you in terms of things such as your happiness, stress, health, finances, relationships, and so on. You may even want to discuss this with a confidante or a significant other in your life who knows you well.” At the end of the day, “you may be surprised by what they may have to say about the costs of procrastination in your life.”

  1. Become better friends with future-you

According to Pychyl, we’re “not very good at predicting how we will feel in the future. We are overly optimistic, and our optimism comes crashing down when tomorrow comes. When our mood sours, we end up giving in to feel good. We procrastinate.”

Research has shown that we have the tendency to treat our future-selves like a complete stranger, and according to Pychyl, that’s why we “give future-self the same kind of load that we’d give a stranger”. (This is also the reason you have 10 food documentaries in your Netflix queue.)

The solution to this? Become better friends with future-you. Here are a few of my favorite ways:

Create a future memory. Interestingly, research has shown that all it takes to delay gratification is to imagine your future. This is easy to do–for example, if you’re debating between writing a work report today or next week, create a future memory by imagining all you will be able to get done next week if you start the report now.2
Imagine your future self. Research has shown that all it takes to increase your future-self continuity is to imagine yourself in the future. The more vivid the future feels, the better.3
Send an email to your future self. Seriously, do it. FutureMe.org lets you send an email to yourself in the future at a date you specify. A great way to bridge the gap between your present and future selves is to tell your future self how your current actions will make your future self better.

  1. Disconnect from the Internet when you have to get something done

Interestingly, even though his book has only ten chapters, Pychyl dedicates an entire chapter to the importance of disconnecting from the Internet when you have something important to do. In fact, one of Pychyl’s studies found that 47% of people’s time online is spent procrastinating, which Pychyl calls a “conservative estimate” since that study was conducted before social networks like Facebook and Twitter became popular. “There is little doubt that our best tools for productivity–computer technologies–are potentially also one of our greatest time wasters.”

“To stay really connected to our goal pursuit, we need to disconnect from potential distractions like social-networking tools. This means that we should not have Facebook, Twitter, email, or whatever your favorite suite of tools is running in the background on your computer or smartphone while you are working. Shut them off.”

That might sound harsh, but according to Tim, “if you are committed to reducing your procrastination, this is something you really need to do.”

  1. Form “implementation intentions”

Tasks that aren’t clearly defined are ambiguous and often unstructured, which makes you a lot more likely to procrastinate with them. The cure? Form implementation intentions for those tasks.

That’s basically just a fancy way of saying that you should make your tasks more concrete, by thinking about when, where, and how you’re going to do them. Tim is a big fan of implementation intentions. “I have to make sure that I’m not lying to myself right off the top with making a broad goal intention. ‘Yeah, I’ll do that writing on the weekend.’ Well, both the timeframe and the task are defined too broadly to be meaningful at all.

“So, one of the very first things is start making a more concrete and start tying it to something in the environment. And so, these are called implementation intentions. Move from broad goal intentions to specific implementation intentions. So that’s a cognitive technique, where you’re going to do some thinking around: “What am I going to do when?” And that pre-decision is really important.”

  1. Use procrastination as a sign you should seek out more meaningful work

You procrastinate a lot less with meaningful tasks that are intrinsically rewarding. For that reason, Tim recommends reexamining your work if you find yourself constantly procrastinating with what you have to do.

“Sometimes I would say procrastination is just a symptom that your life just doesn’t match what you’re interested in and you’re putting everything off because all of your goals are kind of falsely internalized and you’ve got no intrinsic motivation in any of this, and so maybe you should do something else.”

In every job there are going to tasks you find aversive, but when you constantly find yourself procrastinating because your work is aversive, there may be other jobs that are more aligned to your passions, that you will be much more motivated and productive in.

Plateofcrumbs · 25/02/2015 17:34

I wasn't on the original thread but I suffer from a debilitating procrastination problem so am joining in!

I'm on maternity leave at the moment which suits me fine as most of my time is taken up by things I can't put off. But I'm already panicking about going back to work and how I will cope when I simply don't have the option of staying late to deal with stuff I could have done earlier but dithered about.

The few times in my life I have managed to just get stuff done it feels so glorious, why the hell can't I just do it all the time? It seems so simple.

MajesticWhine · 25/02/2015 17:44

Thanks for setting up the thread, and great links.

As I said on the other thread I have a big problem with procrastination. It is only recently as a postgraduate trying to complete a thesis, that I have realised just how much of a problem it causes me. I have always got away with it before. It is driven by anxiety, a fear of incompetence and an intolerance of discomfort. The irony is that I am a counsellor and I work with students, who very often come to me with problems with procrastination. So even though I try to help them, and sometimes do actually help them, I haven't really managed to solve the problem for myself. I'm definitely making progress though. I think the monkey theory and "how to beat procrastination" link in the OP has helped me more than anything else I can think of.

Another link, for people with serious time on their hands, is this one , it's an entire CBT-based self-help course based on overcoming procrastination. It's free, and it is really very good, although predictably, I didn't finish it.

MajesticWhine · 25/02/2015 17:50

On the pom pom front, I did what I said I was going to do today (as promised on other thread), and spent an hour on the nasty aversive task. And finished it. Yay! BiscuitBiscuit (those are pom-poms not biscuits)

ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 18:29

You are very welcome!

They are really good tips Lotta thanks. I feel like Tim gets us. We need a pic of Tim. If he's a hottie AND can cure my procrastination I will offer myself to him like a platter of nachos Grin Ditto Monkey blog man.

Majestic that CBT stuff looks really good thanks. The discomfort dodging is a big thing for me so will pay special attention to that.

So plan is that after bedtime for DC I will set my timer for fifteen minutes and start the financial filing. I have to stop when the timer goes. Hoping this will make it feel like a game.

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ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 18:30

ps go you Majestic for slogging through the nasty task Thanks

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MajesticWhine · 25/02/2015 18:50

ProcrastinateNoMore, that blog post you linked by Timothy Pychyl about goal focus vs. process focus is absolutely fascinating. It's quite complicated. I think I might be a person who needs to focus more on the process and the minutiae of the task. But according to the research, as my deadline becomes more urgent, then I will need to be more goal focussed. My therapist used to get me imagining the outcome of achieving my goal to try and motivate me. Didn't work. Now I can see how that piece of research makes sense of that and explains it. The goal seems too far away and unachievable and that feeds into my fear of failure.

AWholeLottaNosy · 25/02/2015 21:08

Majestic thanks for that CBT link. I've been having a read and I like their definition of procrastination

What we mean by procrastination is...
...making a decision for no valid reason to delay or not complete a task or goal you’ve committed too, and instead doing something of lesser importance, despite there being negative consequences to not following through on the original task or goal.

Sums it up perfectly! 'No valid reason', 'despite there being negative consequences'

AWholeLottaNosy · 25/02/2015 21:29

There are so many things I'm currently procrastinating on but I'm too ashamed to admit to them on here... Sad

CheeseBored · 25/02/2015 21:31

Marking place (for later)

ProcrastinateNoMore · 25/02/2015 21:32

You don't have to share them unless you want to Lotta but you won't find any judgement here. We've all been there says the woman who still hasn't done the fifteen mins of financial paperwork Hmm Maybe you could post some of your breakdown of how to tackle one of your main things you procrastinate? Or just pass on anything you've found that works.

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Rummikub · 25/02/2015 21:40

Hi may i join?
I'm a lifelong procrastinator. In almost everything. Household, health, Decluttering.

I love this post.

waitbutwhy.com/2013/11/how-to-beat-procrastination.html

AWholeLottaNosy · 25/02/2015 22:17

Ok here's one. Last year I lost my Kindle Fire. I bought a new one but it's been sitting in my drawer as I'm not sure how to deregister the old one and re register this one. I'm sure it's not rocket science but feel a bit defeated by it. Pathetic I know!

akaTFB · 25/02/2015 23:00

Hello again. I've read the first 2 links, and I can definitely identify with the monkey.

I feel that I have slowly got worse over the years, I use to love planning and managing for the future long term, I use to love the feeling of being in control and comfortable. But circumstances and finances slowly destroyed any of my control over the future, and life became live day to day dredge to get through. More responsibility was put on me, but also more demands I couldn't fill, were requested of me. Until I broke and depression and anxiety filled everything in my life until I relinquished all responsibility. Now it's like I trying to pick up the reins again but when I reach down to grab the them the move further away. It's so easy to let someone else be incharge of your life, even if they are doing all wrong and you want the control back.

I know sometimes I can get into the dark woods and more often then not get into the flow. I love it I feel so good.

What really throughs me back tho is when I decide to do the list but problems arise, like I ring to sort something out but they can't do whatever it is at there end so I have to call them back tomorrow. I move down the list and achieve the rest but I don't feel like I made it to the happy play ground because there is that one thing I didn't sort, and it needs doing tomorrow, I feel more empty and trying to get back to the entrance of the darkwoods the following day seems even harder.

I think I might be a perfectionists, as if I don't think I can achieve it to my exact standard, then what's the point. If I do something it has to thorough.

Paper work at home is my biggest down fall. It never use to be. But then homework studying,working from home have always been a problem. I have wasted so much money and courses I have never finished and one online one I never even started.
Take me out of the house and Put me in a work environment and I'm fine and very efficient.

Yesterday was a good day and I got into the flow. Today was ok not as good as yesterday. So tomorrow I am going to try to do two important things tomorrow. These I have put off for months.

Sorry for the long ramble Blush it might not even make sense. But it felt good to write thoughts down as they came.

Flowers to all of you, especially those who have written so much and brought the links and we quotes together on here.

I fucking hate procrastination

Rummikub · 25/02/2015 23:01

Oh sorry it's already been linked. In my haste not to procrastinate and to share I made an error!

MajesticWhine · 25/02/2015 23:06

Hey Rummikub - don't worry about linking it again - it's a great article.

Rummikub · 25/02/2015 23:16

Thank you :)
Actually think that's another reason I procrastinate, I don't like making mistakes and am a bit of a perfectionist. I am astounded by a good friend of mine who got s through life with the attitude of that's good enough. And she achieves much more than I do of course.

antimatter · 25/02/2015 23:28

Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!

So much good stuff written down on this thread. Need to re-read tomorrow!

MajesticWhine · 26/02/2015 15:15

I'm doing some checking up on everyone

AKATfb - you done those two important things yet?
ProcrastinateNoMore - how's the financial paperwork?
Grin

I'm off to try and get myself into the dark woods.

Rummikub · 26/02/2015 15:25

Can I count dishwasher and laundry on now. A few hours later than I'd wanted. But least its on!

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