Advice on searching for 'birth' mother

[islandgirl]

I am contemplating searching for my birth mother, and wonder if anyone had a similar experience. I have wonderful parents, and am not doing it because I Feel I am lacking anything, but because as a mum myself I feel guilty that I have never tried to get in touch with her. I have always known I was adopted, and have my original birth certificate and birth parent details, but don't really know where to go from here, and am guite scared about starting!! You can never turn the clock back can you.

Hi all. Spent last weekend with my birth mother, and it was the most wonderful and very happy time. We look similar, and cry and laugh at the same things, and I am really positive about the future.
She hugged me a lot as if she really couldn't believe it, and is was good to finally have some questions answered - just little things like what day I was born, and what time, and why she gave me my name, etc! She is so delighted to have me back in her life, and for her it is a dream come true, and I am so pleased that she is a lovely person, and is happy to have me in it!
I do want her to be a part of my life, but it will take time to adapt, and we are still taking it slowly, and not rushing to our next visit. It is so much better talking to her on the phone now I have met her, and certainly more relaxed. Mum and Dad are still really encouraging and although it must have been hard for them , I couldn't have asked for more support.
Once all the emotion of Christmas is out of the way we will meet up again, and just take things from there.
I have no regrets, and hope things will continue to go as well as they are.

missed this thread, lovely to read though and inspiring. I met my birth father ten years ago and am still in two minds as to whether to meet my bm, I am not keen but my twin brother wants to, I feel like she is a complete stranger to me as is bf, still after all this time.

It was nice to find siblings though !

Islandgirl, I am so happy that things have turned out like this for you.

I am on the adoption contact register and have the name of the lady who can trace birth mums, but am still dithering about making any further progress.

islandgirl - I am sooo happy for you. Your mum and dad sound absolutely wonderful as well - what a great outcome. xx

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Good on you IslandGirl - so glad it's all worked out. Thank you for sharing your journey. It must have been a rollercoaster...

It's fantastic that you're able to say 'no regrets' - that's fab. It's funny typing this, and seeing your first post of 20 April which starts "I am contemplating searching for my birth mother" ... Wow! What a journey you've been through in just 7 months since then. Thank you for sharing it with us.

Well done and I'm so pleased things are going well

You are all lovely and thankyou for all your positive comments. It is hard to believe that so much has happened in such a short space of time, but I got my confidence to do it from you, and your shared experiences are very humbling.
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