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csa, income support ,i dont understand help!

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 14:02

i have split with my dp (dds dad) he has moved back in his mom and dad, i have had to give up work and i have made a claim for income supoport and i got a letter this monning from csa and they are coming to see me on wednesday,
i stupidly put on the form that he (dp) was not her dad becauase i didnt want him to pay maintenence through csa i want him to buy stuff for dd each month i.e nappies clothes and stuff that she needs and i cant afford, wot do i say to them will they let us do it this way or will they insist that he gives me money via them (csa) beacause if we do it through them i will lose out from my income support i heard that what ever he gives me for dd they will take it off me through my income support, any acvice greatfully received (used to be shireensmom)

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:09

thank you maisystar bye XXXX

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Nutcracker · 19/04/2004 15:10

I have 3 kids Nik. Don't know how much i'd get. Did they stop your WFTC as soon as you applied for IS ??

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:10

no he was still going to get married i stupidly was going to stay with him i felt sorry for him

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Nutcracker · 19/04/2004 15:11

Oh dear. Am so sorry you are in this situation Nikcola. You seem like a genuinely nice person and shouldn't be having to go through all this. You are only young to aren't you ??

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:12

i had to stop the wftc myself, when i nade my claim for is they adviced me to stop it do you both work then?

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:12

im 20

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Twinkie · 19/04/2004 15:13

God Nicola - I know you are yound but you sound so niave - why did you feel sorry for him - he seems to have it all - you doing what he wants and being controlled and his family in his life also controlling you - if anything he shuold feel sorry for you - shame most men don't have this ability though!!

Nutcracker · 19/04/2004 15:13

No dp works and gets about 60 quid on top of his wages and then i get the child tax credit part i think, which is 91 a week.
If they stop it and then i have to wait for IS i will be in big trouble.

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:14

as from may they are changing income support it will half be income support and the other half child tax credit, u have to ring up for a form i havent got mine yet, im still thinking about moving to brum just to get away from it all

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Nutcracker · 19/04/2004 15:15

Moving is only a good idea if it's what you want really. Do you have any other family than your Aunt in Brum ??? Where do your parents live ??

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:17

i am niave i no, i ve had a shit life im not complaining it could of been worse but ive been with him since i left care at 16 and he has allways looked after me im just scared of being on my own

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:18

my mom and step dad live in tamworth and my dad lives down the road but we dint get on that well he doesnt agree with me having a half cast child

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Twinkie · 19/04/2004 15:20

Are you close to your mum and stepdad - at least if you move it means that you will be out of danger to a degree - you must be terrified!!

Where do you live now??

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:20

i live in luton

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Nutcracker · 19/04/2004 15:20

If you decided to move to brum/tamworth i would be more than happy to help you sort it out. I have the numbers and address of most H/A's here and in Tamworth. Just let me know if you want help.
It wouldn't hurt to apply to them anyway even if you aren't sure about moving. Then if you got offered anything you could decide then.

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:22

i only really speak to my mom for dds sake, we dont get on that well i got one bonus to were i live oppersite me is the care home where i used to live so they are allways there 24 hours a day

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Nutcracker · 19/04/2004 15:23

I have to go out now but will check in on here later. Hope you are o.k

Nutty XXX

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:25

nutcracker, i might just do that, im gonna go and see if i can find somone cheap to sign dds passport photo and get that sorrted out, my mom dont help everytime she sees a programme on tv about a dad taking ther child to another contry she rings me and tells me about it, my aunt lives in erdington by the way.

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:26

ok bye, thanks for all your helpxxxxx

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Twinkie · 19/04/2004 15:28

Nicola - anyone can sign her passport - someone who used to work in your care home, the guy in the corner shop - anyone who has known her for 2 years and is employed!!

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:30

ok ill pop over ther and ask them thank you thats save me £30 i would of given to the doctor

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Soapbox · 19/04/2004 15:31

Twinkie - not everyone can sign the passport - needs to be a professional person. SO teacher, doctor, accountant, solicitor etc. But some people charge to sign it e.g. doctors. All the allowable professions are set out in the passport application form.

Soapbox · 19/04/2004 15:34

Oh and make sure yopu fill it on correctly. When they are signing a childs passport they have to sign saying that they know the applicant (i.e. you Nikcola) and not the child. But the photo is signed as a likeness of the child (as normal).

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nikcola · 19/04/2004 15:34

wot asbout the manager of the home ?

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Twinkie · 19/04/2004 15:41

DP signed DDs and he is a Fund Manager and I signed his and I am a PA - I have signed quite a few Sbs daughters too and I most certainly would not say I am a professional - they just need a place of employment.