Just wanted to say I am very sorry that you have been personally upset by the other thread. I thought I'd post here rather than prolonging that one.
Mumsnet is mostly not like that, though occasionally a thread does flare up, and - virtual or not - people do get hurt. Sorry you were in the firing line, especially as a newbie. I hope you won't hold it against us, and will carry on posting here.
Roisin