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Oh, b*gger, the annual sense of swimming uphill through custard descends on the Inferiority Complex

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motherinferior · 01/10/2006 11:02

It's probably seasonal. And/or hormonal. I certainly have bog-all to complain about: my children are NT, charming and stunningly beautiful (and DD1 leaves me notes saying 'Mum I love yoy xxxx'); my partner is really very nice, I suppose, and is finally solvent - indeed earns more than me now; my own work-life balance is broadly OK; my career, although not brilliant, is quite reasonable not least because I can now stop doing as many paid-by-the-day editing jobs I did, and work on a trade mag a couple of days a week. I have friends who'll babysit and/or can now afford paid options.

But it's still...custardly. And endless stream of the yellow stuff. I am simultaneously possessed by the urge to bog off from all of them for a weekend, and utter horror at the thought of leaving my delightful Inferiorettes. My career, although quite reasonable, is not brilliant. Sorting out babysitting is still sorting it out - it's very different from the kind of family support some people have - and in practice we just don't go out much. I'm fed up. In a somewhat wallowy way, of course. I want a sodding break.

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Enid · 03/10/2006 12:41

if you were undiagnosed G & T you have more therapy homework to do

otherwise you get bored

MrsScareyFish · 03/10/2006 12:41

snort.

welshmum · 03/10/2006 12:53

Oh MI me too. I'm sure it's got loads to do with having to get up every day in the dark as small boy currently favours 0545 as a wake up time. It's getting me down - even though I do get an extra 30 mins when DH does it.
You won't want to hear this but husband (34) of an old friend of mine died very suddenly a week ago, leaving her with 2 kids of 4 and 2 and in a foreign country with no income unless she knuckles down and continues freelancing.
I know it's a cliche but it could be worse.

Cappuccino · 03/10/2006 13:33

oooh Enid I'm actually having that

I have to sit down and actively Worry for half an hour a day

it's my homework

Dannie · 03/10/2006 13:55

In a curious coincidence, the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies is looking for a press officer.

Enid · 03/10/2006 14:31

aha! really?

god I could do that

WideWebWitch · 03/10/2006 14:39

lol at Senora's "why don't you jack your job in to spice things up a bit?" ha ha ha ha. I think we all need a bit of excitement/drama sometimes, I reckon sometimes I start arguments to get some, oops.

and lol at JackieNo and slippers. MI, how are you feeling now?

MrsScareyFish · 03/10/2006 14:40

lol at enid
hey i went ot eh the chirop today who is very nice
she was in court recently on a serious charge of helping a violent boyffriend run formt he police
( long story) anyway she pead guilty, got cimmunity service BUT hsemanaged ot be asked out TWICE by her legal team

now THAT a silver lining

Dannie · 03/10/2006 16:01

Enid it's on their website (and thanks for the CBT recommendation. D'you think you get a staff discount?

ggglimpopo · 03/10/2006 16:21

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expatinscotland · 03/10/2006 16:22

Oh, I'll give you drama.

One of the tutors wants me, badly.

And I find him fanciable.

I want to suck his lips.

I won't, of course, but I'd like to.

He's even younger than DH, but not by much.

Hung like an upright hoover, too.

ggglimpopo · 03/10/2006 16:31

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sunchowder · 03/10/2006 16:42

Priceless Expat!

sunchowder · 03/10/2006 16:48

I am also in custard-funk. The timing could not be more perfect.

The garage door is broken, DH had to run the garbage bags though the house and out the front door. This will not get sorted unless I handle it.

DH is taking DS for his driving test today and using MY car. Our only working car with air conditioning because I haven't sorted out the insurance on DS's car that we fixed up for him.

DS's phone cell phone bill came in a large envelope. He sent and received more than 3000 text messages last month. Is this NORMAL? He is 16.

Huge tri-fold science fair project due for my DD. Have had 3 girls sleep over in order to work the project. Made homemade muffins and asked them to go to bed before 2:00 AM. They were up at 9:30 this morning, haven't been able to convince them to spend anymore time on the project, still need to add graphs.

Went to cook last night and ran out of propane, can't use my stove top. I called propane company to come and see what the hell is going on, I must have a leak. Dinner was a joy last night.

Oh, by the way work full time. And I know I should be grateful and I am, just frustrated and want my DH to do more, MUCH more.

Also have not had sex for at least a year. This is killing me altogether.

moaningpaper · 03/10/2006 16:59

I don't mind swimming through custard

I just hate the fact that I wake up the next morning at the beginning of the race again

And I look after my kids Monday-Wednesday and by Tuesday morning I am bored of them and my patience has run out and when DH leaves for work I want to thrust the children into his arms and walk out to somewhere exciting, like ... well anyway really where there are grown ups, or newspapers, or nice coffee and a bagel

And then they go to bed at 7pm and scream most of the night with night terrors or bad dreams or just being a baby and we haven't been out together in the evening for nearly 2 years because we can't leave them with anyone because watching the screaming/terrors is barely managable for me and dh never mind anyone else

then I go to mother and toddler groups and try to start conversations but run out of things to say because to be honest I find most mums dull too - I know I'm TERRIBLE

moan moan moan

dinosaur · 03/10/2006 17:09

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moaningpaper · 03/10/2006 17:21

To be fair, it isn't that I find mums dull, it is just that they have the ten-scond attention span before little Johnny cracks his head open on their chair and then we can't hear each other talk

It would be fine if the children didn't keep bothering us ...

FioFio · 03/10/2006 17:22

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edam · 03/10/2006 17:23

MI, did you get my email re the 31st?

Btw, you are very, very good at what you do....

moaningpaper · 03/10/2006 17:24

The highlight of my day is listening to Alan Titchmarsh singing "Let's get grubby!" on CBeebies

Does that do it for anyone else ... ?

SenoraPostrophe · 03/10/2006 17:27

But you haven't been listening hard enough, mp. It's "Let's get mucky" I think you'll find.

SenoraPostrophe · 03/10/2006 17:27

or if it isn't it should be.

moaningpaper · 03/10/2006 17:29

Isn't it "Let's get filthy?"

If only it was Tommy Walsh ...

Cappuccino · 03/10/2006 17:32

I'm sure that when mi started this thread she didn't expect to have to contend with the idea of getting filthy with Tommy Walsh

ewww

moaningpaper · 03/10/2006 17:36

I'd like to swim uphill through custard with Tommy Walsh

then it wouldn't seem so bad