Do you have a social life with other 'couples'?

[Twiglett]

how

we dont exclude single people=!!

its good to go out together, to remember why you like your dh

Yeah we have a few couples we socialise with, one couple in particular but I was friends with her before they started going out and then my dp was friends with him before WE started going out. Make sense?

I have loads of mates that I go out with on my own. Would hate to only have mutual mates.

No!!
My idea of socialising is to go out with a group of single, childless friends and get wrecked.
I can hardly stomach the polite mumsy, couply talk in the playground let alone in 'my time'.

who sasy they have t o be couples you knwo through haveing kids

it's funny but i have a real thing about becoming friends with people/couples purely because we have children in common... just because your children are friends does not necessarily mean that you as dults have to be friends... dh always thought i was anti social when at the height of attending playgroup i dodn't go out with all the mums for coffee and have mumsy coffee mornings... i suppose like i said i'm quite lucky that all my friends have started sprogging the same time i did...

scotchick.... our weekends/holidays wouldn't be complete without a drop in... (normally we are the hosts as like Cappuccino has already mentioned... we're a tad lazy at stepping out of the door...)... similarly so it freaks me out, the thought of not seeing a couple + kids during thye weekend....

when we get together with our friends the conversation is far from polite and mumsy
most people in are crowd are couples but not all - most have children - but not all.

When we get together we send the children to the garden or basement or somewhere we are not and the conversation is adult

Ah, now, Mr Inferior and I hardly ever go out together. Seems a bit pointless, really, to waste the opportunity of going out on someone I see all the time. I realise this is terribly Bad For Our Relationship, of course.

it's awful mi

how you manage to survive I'll never know

you do know that the relationship gurus recommend that you should get away for a weekend together every six weeks without the children

though I have never heard of anyone who manages it except women in the papers who go off to Tenerife and leave their children in a cupboard

Oh I like going out with dh, it's fun. We talk properly and laugh. But we don't have any couple friends because we've only just moved here. Hmm. That's my excuse. We had some couple friends in Bristol and Devon, it was nice.

Capp, my sister and her dh have just agreed that they will get away without their children once a month for the next while. I dream of it but can't see us being able to do it but I absolutely would if we had the money and childcare (sister will use her day nanny). How lovely would that be?

Oh gawd you lot make me feel like such a weirdy

Dh and I rarely go out together, and if so it's for meals for just the two of us.

I have friends who I go out with, dh likes his own company and isn't too bothered about going out.

I think it would be different if I was in Germany where all my friends from school/uni are.

I find that friends I've made here are good friends, but it's not the same as the friendships made in my wild old days.

I'm sure it's just crap fiction from US tv rubbish that makes people feel inadequate that they don't have a constant stream of friends round etc.

dh tends to see his mates after work or at footie - I see mine mainly during the week or at weekends when dh is away/working. Rather shamefully, we have to book time in the diary to see each other and go out otherwise we'd never do it!

Twig I don't think dp and I have ever been out together in the evening since ds was born

nope

we could do but we'd have to pay for a babysitter on top of whatever we were doing and it is weird having someone else in your house and ds would play them up and

anyway

we just don't. We do socialise with other couples in the daytime or early evening (with children) and I go out with the women from those couples, by myself in the evening sometimes. Other than that we just take turns to do things seperately.

Have lots of friends who are couples, regularly do dinner dates with one or more of them, either at each others homes or more rarely in a restaurant. We are fortunate that a lot of our friends we both like each half of the couple. We both go out on our own though, I go out w girlfriends once a week, and book group once every 6 weeks or so, and DH sometimes goes out with his mates or colleagues

When I was going out with DDs dad, we went out in couples every fecking Saturday

They were all mid 30s, and I HATED them.

I wanted to go out with my mates on a Saturday, get smashed and dance on tables not go for one drink in the Jersey, mini bus to town then a curry. WOOOO HOOOO Plus the women had shit dress sense

Now, I go out with my friends and meet my boyfriend later, we go out together or like last night we met up with another couple and had a great time

Even if she is a brazen hussy who dresses like Liz Mcdonald

Used to go out with lots of couples from school. Get trollied together and all stumble home.
Monday morning at the school gates was fun.

Have 3 kids and now realise I have been either pg or bf for over 3 yrs. So not been drinking much.
Dh's mates probably think I am dullest dullard ever!

DH is out with his mates again tonight.

DH is out a lot come to think of it.

Its saturday night and I am sat at the pc!
My life is sober and dull. {sad}

Anyone got a corkscrew?

no unless you count family!

My dp is a bit gay and he loves women and they love him so we tend to love the women and find the men a bit dull.
Apart from my dp because he is all gay and women love him!

lots of university friends, some of whom (like me and dh) were university couples, some only half iyswim. Then dh and I have a few friends that we each see independently - mainly colleagues or ex-colleagues - some have other halves but dh or I tend to socialise with them singly. but in groups. if that makes sense.

very like PandaG in fact

I definitely thought this was a question about swinging.
(to which - no - but, to dinner or drinking with other couples? yes but not exclusively, and not the same couples every single time. Actually we are crap about going out or arranging things at all and generally DH goes alone to gigs while I muck about on PC and drink wine, we are both happy)

no, would rather eat my own arse - next thing you know your buying a fondue and swapping car keys,

i have mates
he has mates

we dont have mutual friends - have tried - i cant do middle class housewives who are kind of forced into my space. neither of us like it.

I thought you meant socialising as in meeting up in town with the kids on a saturday and going to the park.

I go out with my friends, I don't want to drink with men, they are knobs.

snort !! i l;ike the great presumptions on thdis thread

1. if oyu liek a pair of other poepl you are middle class 2, women ( yes US) ar incapable ofholding a witty conversation when they have or dont have kids
2. a group of poepel over 30 ibnvolve casual sex!!

shame on you WOMEN that you dont htink we have anything ot tlak baout!

well iwent out last ngiht wiht dh anda nother couple of pals who came here for dirnks first. i knwo her through preschool and dhknows him through rugby

w e went ot a party where we may have karaoked, toasted marshamllowsa nd got hammered

woo hooand i am 36. does this pass the fondue test?

pmsl @ colditz

I am far happier going out with my female friends rather than forcing our partners to come along and spending the night torn between making sure DHs are socialising (anti-social bunch) and trying to talk properly

I am feeling better today .. I have these momentary glitches every so often when I assume everyone else has sociable, sophisticated lives behind my back