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Do you have a social life with other 'couples'?

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Twiglett · 09/09/2006 13:14

how

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ggglimpopo · 09/09/2006 14:19

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UnquietDad · 09/09/2006 14:44

He sounds like a top bloke, ggg. I think if someone's just got divorced then you can allow them the odd ghastly tarty girlfriend. Even people who appreciate good food like the occasional kebab after closing time.

Donbean · 09/09/2006 14:49

yes, our social life is entirely with other couples because A) they are lovely people and great company and B) because we are all in the same boat with children so none of us drink a great deal, none of us like to be out late and we have our kids in common.
Incidentally we have been friends with all of these people for years and years and socialised with them (and partied HARD) with them prior to us all getting wed and having kids.
We dont go out often but when we do its organised well in advance, we ALWAYS go for a nice meal and a couple of drinks, or they come to our house for a takaway, or we go to theirs.
We all really look forward to it and to catching up with each other. We also bob round for a coffee every now and then so yes, we do socialise very easily with other couples.

coderoo · 09/09/2006 14:57

lol @donnies "nice meaL"
do we ever go out for a yuk meal
tis liek "bred roll" well what else woudl it be
or frech fruit salad" - well i dont go fr rotten fruit salad
wonder if nice meal is the new "nice ham"

SueW · 09/09/2006 15:04

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Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:07

nice, pleasant unrushed, uninterupted meal is what i meant rather than my evil beast of a kid jumping all over throwing his wellies at the old bloke at the next table type stressed "get me out of here nOW" type meal....

coderoo · 09/09/2006 15:11

why tiwg
are you cross?

Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:13

?

Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:14

cod, have yuou just been on your hols?

coderoo · 09/09/2006 15:14

yes.

housemum · 09/09/2006 15:14

We have a group of us - 4 couples, 3 with kids - it helps that the blokes all went to school together and the wives/girlfriends luckily all get on - to be honest, when we get together it's often for a Chinese or Indian at someone's house, with the kids put down to sleep there and picked up comatose to go back in the car later (it probably helps that they've been doing it since newborn and oldest littlies are just 3 so don't know what'll happen when they are older, though we did meet up when my teenager was about 5+ and we managed to let her sleep then lift her).

Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:15

HAHa! did you go to France......

coderoo · 09/09/2006 15:16

no

greece
mossietastic

Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:18

Oh bugger!
A work mate has just got back from a posh holiday in a big house in France and she said that there was a couple there with 2 kids, he was a judge, she was a barrister and the more she described this woman the more i thought it was you.......ahhh well!

coderoo · 09/09/2006 15:20

im not a barrister or a judge
go d lawyers get everywhere dont they
they were on hol wiht us too.
i ahev three kdis
go on tlel us wot she said..............

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Twiglett · 09/09/2006 15:29

Just dawning realisation that WE don't go out with other people and maybe that makes us sad bastards

WE rarely go out as a couple at all actually .. probably less than 10 times last year

I go out with my friends sometimes .. probably once a month or so

I can't be arsed with it .. and feel fairly anti-social in the evening

I quite like having people round and the house is normally full of my friends from lunch onwards ..

not sure whether I should try to foster closer ties with couples or whether I'd resent it

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Twiglett · 09/09/2006 15:30

its a lot of effort going out isn't it?

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Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:36

so do i twig...feel anti social in the evenings that is, but i thought to myself that i need to get back into the swing of things and if its only once a month or so, its not so bad.
I prefer to do the mates come round for brew thing, dont think you are weirdy at all.

Donbean · 09/09/2006 15:38

It can be quite tying as well, we are very laid back about the whole thing and just go for pub teas etc, nothing fancy. We all know each other too well to be posh and have airs and graces lol.

Cappuccino · 09/09/2006 15:42

I think sometimes you just can't be tossed

and some people you only like one half of

and you just get out the habit

we like having people round

that way we don't have to be bothered stepping out the door

coderoo · 09/09/2006 16:43

tiwg i used to eb t he same
in fact dhs mates wondered if i existed
then ds3 hit 2 adn i wasnt so tired all the tiem
it did us good to go otu and get bladdered adn eat chips
really a laugh

bea · 09/09/2006 16:47

all our friends seem to be couples... they were all single at one point and have all kind of paired off... it's quite unusual for a friend to be married to someone new - iykwim...so it's really nice that we were all friends as individuals at one point and have just conveniently paired off!... also what's really nice is that we were all good friends before the children came along... it's just another coincidence that we now all have chidlren of a similar age... which is another convenient thing...!

it's very rare that we go for a weekend without seeing s couple or the whole lot of us... usuaully pop round for a cup of tea and let the kids trash the place... me and dh start to freak out at the thought of having to spend a whole weekend without asking anyone round as we might be forced to speak to each other.... eeeekkkk!

scotchick · 09/09/2006 16:54

I have a group of friends and further acquaintances - mum chums you know. However, there's only 2 or so whose husbands I actually like and there's no couple that me and my dh actually like both wife and husband. We have talked about what a shame it is but it's just the way it is.

Kind of like the idea of bea's life at weekends but part of me is a bit freaked at being so connected with other couples and their kids. Popping in somewhere for a cuppa with our kids is so not us.

I'm highly anti social though - am working on that!

CarolinaMoon · 09/09/2006 17:01

twig, why on earth should you? You've obviously got plenty of mates, and no wonder you don't feel like socialising in the evening if you've got people round all afternoon.

Are you worried it's not sophisticated enough or something?

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