Parents who take their nannies on holiday

[TheDullWitch]

Noticed a lot of this on holiday. This writer seems to think it s a bad idea. I came across one mother who was moaning about hols with young kids, then I noticed next morning at breakfast she'd brought her Filipino nanny!

it's here

I kind of think it stops you being a proper family, however convenient.

yees mien did a few faternnons altho ds2 wasnt so keen
id not do it all day of a fmily holiday htough

Well anyone who drags their small children round old cathedrals and expects them to enjoy it has a lot to learn about children!

Isn't put them in a holiday club just like an extension of going to nursery?? Aren't holidays about paddling in the sea, building sandcastles, exploring rock pools, going on boat trips, eating chips on the harbour.....???

yes g

and watchign the french row
obligatory on all campsites ime

nor ows in greece - or disbaled peolpe oddly

CHILDREN DO LOVE NANNIES THOUGH, NO MATTER WHETHER YOU AGREE WITH IT OR NOT

shit sorry I have just been doing my shopping delivery and forgot to take caps off

Agree Gdg - holiday clubs ok for some of time, rest of time rock pooling etc with parents much better. If you really want a child free holiday why not just leave kids at home with nanny!!

Are holidays 100% for children?

Aren't holidays about paddling in the sea, building sandcastles, exploring rock pools, going on boat trips, eating chips on the harbour.....???

Absolutely! And whittling sticks with Dick, Julian, Anne, George and Timmy, before digging up some treasure just in time for tea!

rock pooling etc with parents much better

UH much better for WHO exactly?

ROFL MP!

I love my children utterly and really enjoy spending time with them, but surely it's not weird to want a bit of time off every now and then?

I'm going back to work so I can eat lunch without having to change somebody's nappy halfway through.

(Btw, since we're all on this thread - how many bananas can one 2yo eat before they explode? DS1 has had three this am...)

Wow have gotten out of practise with Cod's typing and having trouble here.

Have reservations'bout nannies on hols too - God, surely 2 weeks with your kids can't be that bad.......but also like MD not sure I could handle someone in my house all the time.....

better for kids!! I dunno - holidays with small children 95 percent surely is about children enjoying themselves. Miserable children make pretty miserable holidays. I mean what's the point of dragging kids round somehwre boring for them, having to put up with 'i'm bored' etc and then getting cross at them cos of it.

For me holidays are about

a) spending time all together
b) getting a break from every day life and for me that means getting a lie in. If I had a nanny I'd very gladly get them to do the getting up in the morning and giving me a 2 hour break in the afternoon but as I don't dh and I take turns. Is that OK? Is it deemed acceptable because he's a parent rather than paid help?

Really am going out now! No, don't think hols are 100% about children doing what THEY want, just like I don't think life is about children 100% doing what THEY want.

PPH is certainly spot on in my case. I do have hang-ups about childcare of this sort. I can't get my head around the idea of having a paid servant co-existing with my family and taking care of my children instead of me - it would be so weird and awkward. This thread brings it home to me - taking such a person on a family holiday would be even more bizarre IMO.

pmsl at HM's ds eating 3 bananas this morning

Well I enjoyed it anyway. I enjoyed paddling in the sea adn the rock pools, we all enjoyed The Eden Project (you have to move a bit faster round it with the kids but there is something for everyone), Restormel Castle was good as the kids had hidden knights to search for, we swam in the pool a lot which everyone enjoyed.

I think when kids are small, yes, it's mostly about them - in the daytime anyway, we get ours to bed at 7pm even on holiday so we have child-free evenings.

I'm with you GDG

WWW, TOTALLY agree - all these children who are never allowed to be bored will get something of a shock when it turns out that adult life is the drudgery EIS describes so well below

I think it's an important part of childhood, actually, being bored witless!

well i for one would love a bit of help even if it was a paid servant

agree being bored good, but not too much on holiday....

Yes well I think that is paddling in rock pools is your idea of a good time then that will definitely set you up in good stead for 'enjoying' the sheer mindnumbing tedium that is the Eden Project

I think if a good parent will find interesting things in any situation for their child

OH agree re being bored too. I wouldn't say mine are 'bored' (too young to be bored I think) but after a week away they have spent 99% of this week playing on their own. They are currently under the dining table pretending it's a boat.

DS1 is playing by himself too atm. He's good at it. That and the bananas - he's asking for a fourth now...

In all seriousness, I have not really enjoyed a holiday for five years now, either due to pregnancy/vomiting, the presence of babies - which to me means never relaxing I'm afraid - and children who are appalling sleeps, so DH and I don't even have evenings together, and there is no point getting drunk because we will both be on night-time child management duty all night, and as we co-sleep the worry of drunkenly rolling on a baby is always there.

So if other parents can pay someone to give thema bit of a break, I have no feeling except sheer envy. Good on them.