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Parents who take their nannies on holiday

123 replies

TheDullWitch · 30/08/2006 21:27

Noticed a lot of this on holiday. This writer seems to think it s a bad idea. I came across one mother who was moaning about hols with young kids, then I noticed next morning at breakfast she'd brought her Filipino nanny!

it's here

I kind of think it stops you being a proper family, however convenient.

OP posts:
Joolstoo · 31/08/2006 09:20

ha! ha! shall I get the popcorn? it's a bit early ...

Greensleeves · 31/08/2006 09:20
WideWebWitch · 31/08/2006 09:24

I was wondering where cod was...
Don't email, post here

morningpaper · 31/08/2006 09:24

Honestly, you lot are never happy

You moan about how HARD and DIFFICULT your lives are and how people without children NEVER understand and then you piss all over parents who are trying to make their lives easier!

You are all barking

Jimjams2 · 31/08/2006 09:24

I know 2 people who have worked as holiday nannies. One said it was hell, she was treated like a slave and would never do it again, the other was Dustin Hoffman's holiday nanny, said he was really lovely, she was treated really well and had a great time (and a free holiday).

hunkermunker · 31/08/2006 09:24

Don't be shy, Cod. I'm sure you won't say anything inflammatory.

expatinscotland · 31/08/2006 09:25

Hmmm, so feeding my child and getting up w/her is martyrdom.

There's a novel spin on the definition!

Jimjams2 · 31/08/2006 09:26

The person who made me laugh, spent a good 15 minutes telling us how DIFFICULT it was to go on holiday with the children, how he couldn't bear more than 10 days because they were such HARD word, then he put them in kids club all day. We sniggered.

Jimjams2 · 31/08/2006 09:26

expat you know I'm with you

LucyJones · 31/08/2006 09:27

QueenPeaHaead - if yuou hadn't taken a nanny would you really have let yourself be 'ruled by the timetable of a 7 mth old' - I take holidays to mean no timetables, routines go out the window. 7 month olds won't keel over if they nap in pushchairs, don't have purees at the exact same time each day...

hunkermunker · 31/08/2006 09:27

No, it's not martyrdom. But it can get a bit drudgy. And you enjoy cooking, EIS - for me, I'd rather remove floating eyelashes from alternate eyes than cook - but I do it.

expatinscotland · 31/08/2006 09:29

Yes, kids are drudgery. Shock of the world there! Damn, and here I was thinking most of life is just that - getting up to go to work, loading the washing machine, folding clothes and putting them away, paying bills, organising car repairs, etc.

FFS.

iota · 31/08/2006 09:30

my dh doesn't see the need for childcare on holidays - he like to spend time with the kids ( me on the other hand would be happy to see the back of them)

ocd · 31/08/2006 09:33

well go do as you want but i had an odd experence here where tow old pals of mine from univ ( one a pg woman and one a dad with two kids who lives abroad) came for lunch.
dad rang up " can i bring my mammy" ithought he said ( he is Scottish)
your mum? said I?
"no my nanny".
s othere were on hol in GB staying an hour away with their foreign nanny. two kids aged 2.8a dn they brought the nanny over to look after the kids at our very child friendly house.
My mate and i remarked afterwards that it wa very odd. Kind of distance parenting- at lunch time they said coudl nany sit near the twins so she can help them wiht their food as parents kind of sat back adn acted like aunts or uncles.
now their set up is odd as his wife is from Japan adn the nanny is thai. both parents work all day so the kdis naturally go to the nanny when they are upset. We thought that maybe the nany could have had the day off fgs adn they really coudl have coped wiht two poxy kids alone.!!

thsi is VERY different to ther nanny situations i haev seen in engladn where the muma dn anny are a team really. ( no names mentioned!!)
as a former au pair i htink this is the best kidn of rel - where its like an older sister adn younger siter realtiosn ship. Nannying is different howver as the ages can be much nearere of the emplyer

*ANYWAY8 to get back ot the point i htink holidays are hard if oyu haeva HUGE age range like pph said.. id feel odd wiht a stranger there 24 - 7 but ia m sure you get used to it, i think for fmailies of two priamry shcool aged kdis its TOATLLY iunnecessary.

WideWebWitch · 31/08/2006 09:34

But what's wrong with removing some drudgery from life? Getting up at 5am, as I did this morning, IS vile. And if I could have paid someone to do it this morning I would have done. I'm spending the rest of the day with them, I feed them, I work to clothe and house us, I spend all weekend with them, I love them and care for them, why's it wrong to have some help with some of the boring horrible bits?

Oh well, off out now so will catch up later.

ocd · 31/08/2006 09:34

aslo the poor kids who on holiday were in "club" all day every day - parents shoudl eba shamed

Gobbledigook · 31/08/2006 09:34

Let's guess - cod thinks it's ridiculous too. I do.

I'm with expat (as usual).

hunkermunker · 31/08/2006 09:34

EIS, never mind.

oliveoil · 31/08/2006 09:35

Hunker's holiday sounded like my weekend 'off' in Wales - dd2 awake both nights till 4am, dd1 joined in on the second night as she obviously thought she was missing out on the annoying child action.

I wouldn't want a nanny though, I am far too much of a control freak

morningpaper · 31/08/2006 09:36

aslo the poor kids who on holiday were in "club" all day every day - parents shoudl eba shamed

EXACTLY! I remember from my old children that a holiday is not a holiday unless you are being dragged about old cathedrals all day and thrown around the back of a car on "moutain roads" vomiting into a carrer bag

These poor children who have games and crafts all day don't know they are born

Gobbledigook · 31/08/2006 09:37

Aha, she posts

I don't know why, I can't really rationalise it, but I think it's OK for a partner or visiting grandparent to get up early adn leave you in bed for an hour but I wouldn't want to pay someone to do it. DOn't know why, it just doesn't sit comfortably with me.

Agree that nanny not at all necessary once the youngest is about 2 or 3.

hunkermunker · 31/08/2006 09:38

MP, were you on holiday with me as a child?! PMSL!

Only my mum did genealogy, so we also got dragged round graveyards searching for tombstones of long-dead ancestors... I use to sob in the corner over some poor 5yo's grave

LucyJones · 31/08/2006 09:39

holiday clubs are fun though...
being stuck with Nanny whilst parents bugger off isn't quite the same as being entertained and being with other kids all day

moondog · 31/08/2006 09:39

I dunno.
Having a nanny would have made my life here in YTurkey 9and in Wales)very much easier.

It's not the sharing drudgery that bothers me (God,I'm all for that!)
It's thje idea of a stranger in the midst of my family.

No thanks!

ocd · 31/08/2006 09:39

Mp its not an either or is it?
parents can play with their kids

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