Can anyone help me ... i need advice on housing ......

[Scoobydooooo]

Yes i am in the crapiest of situation & have spent the whole morning crying whats new hey!

Well we are in private rented & have been for the past 2 years in this house, we have a assured shorthold tenancy which ends on the 1st september 2006 the lanlord had served us with a "section 21" notice for eviction on the 18th september we are on the council housing list & i have been speaking to them on & off now since about april, i only have 25 points & we need 95 they have said.

I get on really well with the landlord & he has been very nice & understanding but he does want to move back into his property & is hoping to on the 18th BUT i have phoned the council again today & they have told me come the 18th i do not have to leave & he will have to take me to court la la la la i do NOT want to go to court, i am extremley down & really struggling with this how situation i dont know where to turn but i honestly have sat here today & thought i can not go through this anymore...

My HV still visits me at home because i have PND & i see my docotr about twice a month i can not take this stress its wearing me down & i feel like running away, it has put trmedous amount of stress on mine & dp's relationship.

I have tried everything i have even written to the MP he was very nice & he did try but the council just fobbed him off.

So what the hell can i do now? i just can't go on like this.....

my email is

[email protected]

ps i think that place is £1.50 or £2.00 for 2 hours of play for children

Rainbow Tots - Knaphill near Woking, Surrey
Rainbow Tots is an exciting new venture offering soft play and fun, for under fives, opening on Tuesday 5th September 2006 at the Knaphill Scout Hall. Children are encouraged to come in fancy dress for the launch day as there will be a competition for the best outfit, plus there will be a magician supporting the launch with a magic show in the morning (Amazing Richard Special).

The idea is to provide toys and fun in friendly and safe surroundings, with a bouncy castle, ball pool and sit & rides, as well as a separate baby area. Snacks and refreshments will be available in the café area and an enclosed grassy garden can be used on sunny days. There is ample free parking and children can play in a safe, fun and friendly environment.
got this it the info

Opening Hours: Tuesdays and Wednesdays 10am ? 4pm Fridays 10am ? 3pm
Location: Knaphill Scout Hall, Waterers Rise. Map: Waterers Rise, Knaphill

Features: Bouncy Castle - Ball Pool - Baby Area - Ample Free Parking - Snacks & Refreshments - Fun, Friendly & Safe
Pricing: non walkers £2, walkers £3 for up to 2 hours of play

had a look at band yes yes definetly you should be in band c at your mums go down there asap,

update in case its not working Again
when you check, its working perfect now,,,its late
im looking to see how many higher bands have bidded
on the2 im bidding on so far only lots of d bands
so its who got the best date

after they decide whos won all the first lot of houses thrn they publish what band they were in and their priorty date

some of the C bids could be the same bidder they cant have 2 houses if u know what i mean,

Cornwall Avenue Byfleet has 1 C bid on it
Sparvell Road Knaphill has 1 C bid on it
Ash Road Barnsbury has 10 D bids
St Fillans Maybury Hill 8 D bids

Walton Court Woking has only 3 bids because is horrible !1 lived on walton rd for a while

Theres not at lot ther at all really in way of houses
ive been looking around for advice hommilness
advice or organasations i noticed theres loads there for one parent family, single, mental health etc but nothing says for family

theres shelter says it covers woking

Shelter West Sussex & Surrey Housing Aid Centre

Service offered
Telephone service offering advice, information and advocacy on any housing problem including homelessness, eviction, rent/mortgage arrears and repairs. Appointments by arrangement, please phone on Public number beforehand. Drop - In service at Barton House on Tuesday and Thursday, and at Crawley BC on Thursday.

Target group
Anyone with a housing problem.

How to contact

1st Floor
Barton House
Broadfield Barton
Crawley
RH11 9BA
Map

Telephone
01293 419255
Fax
01293 418950
Email
[email protected]

Hey Emma, Thanks for all the info, i will email you later & we can sort out meeting up at that knaphill tots thing it sounds great, i will email you my mobile number as i will not have email after tonight.

Have to run got to take ds to nursery & go to the tip, great fun

speak to you in a bit x

Can anyone help me with a question i have with regards to a letter i have recieved this morning?

It is with regards to the property they have offered me that i have turned down due to the safety issues with my son & this property being on the cornor of one of the busiest roads in the area...

In the letter it says if i refuse the offer under local policy a further off will be made.

What is local policy does anyone know what this means please?

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Hmmm sorry scooby don't know.

I refused the offer of a masionette because it only had one gas fire to heat the whole house, and Dd2 was badly asthmatic and they removed me from the list as they said it wasn't a good enough reason.

Scooby
I would take it to mean that it is a policy which is particular to your housing assoc ie they have agreed that you will be due a further offer even although you have refused 1st offer.
I think that it means that other housing assocs may not operate the same policy.
Does that make sense??

Yes that does make sense thanks for the help i am just waiting for the woman to call me back, i just wanted to know what i was talking about before she starts firing questions at me left right & centre & make sure i make the best of a truly awful situation, all i care about is my kids so i need to do the best for them.

Nutcracker - I am very surprized they turned you down on that account especially when it is a childs health not goos in my opinion, the goverment are now very strict with the way they can act now because of children.

Well the women never phoned me back so i called them again, she answered the phone this time & i said i had been awaiting her call to which she said in a rude & abrupt voice, well you have turned the accomodation down so i have told your case manager, she then said she is on leave so will not be back till tuesday

In the meantime my family is flippin homeless but do they give a shit? NO

So thats my case manager & the housing manager away, no one else to deal with, good job i have my mother otherwise we would truly be on the street with no where to go!!

I am now so discusted with the way myself & children have been treated that i am quite speechless, my battle has begun & i am going to write a stinking letter to them next week once i get my pc all plugged in again after the move, i am going to state the way we have been treated & made to feel is unacceptable & all the conflicting advice & non helpful staff is just discusting. My family are not a piece of shit on there show we are human beings

Sorry for my rant i am just soo angry now.

Have emailed you emma

Hiya havent heard anything from u .
hope u ok , ill keep this thread bumped,
bidding closing tommorow
emma

Hi Emma, have you had any housin luck yet????

Any news from scooby????

Wondered how she was getting on with the family!!!!

Hi everyone just a quickie as on my sisters pc will be getting internet on thursday.

We are having the most terrible time ever, all been ill with sickness & diherrea, dd is so ill & upset, ds has gone totally down hill his behaviourer is beyond belief, me & dp are falling out now & we are all living in utter chaos.

I have phoned & phoned the council they have totally ignored me they do not give a shit about us at all it is utterly discusting. I cried & cried last tuesday cause ds is wetting the bed & dd is not sleeping at all.

I have phoned again today but told they will call me back, won't hold my breath for that.

I have doctors tomorrow & health visitor is visting soon, she is phoning today.

I heard back from the counciller sue & she has said she has written to the relevant people & will be in touch soon.

I hope your ok emma & thanks for asking after me both of you, i will be back on thursday i hope as i am struggling to cope.

Dd is crying so must go now.

Take care xx

Have just followed this entire thread and am horrified at the way you have both been treated.
If bidding finished yesterday, when will you know if you have 'won' a property??

I really hope it works out for your both.

Hello everyone,

Now back online thank god!

No news here, no offers & no phone calls still. I have written a letter of complaint outline how discusting i think it is that myself & my family have been treated, i have sent this to the Chief Executive of the council so now i will await his response!

Any luck with you Emma?

I had not even thought for one minute that i would win on the bidding last time round as i am sure there are hundreds in front of me, this next 2 weeks i am not bidding on anything because they are utter horrible & in the worst areas i refuse to live there, i know once we get somewhere it is for good so i need to make sure it is somewhere we can live & will be happy.

Just taking everyday slowly, feeling a bit fedup but trying to get on with it.

Went back to doctors on wed & have some more sleeping tablets which are working a treat so at least one thing is good. Also still on my antidepressants which have been helping me alot over the past 4 weeks & really working thank god because without them i would have crumbled by now & be in a nut house

Oh Scooby, sorry to hear there is still no news for you!
Are you still living with your parents? Has your ds started school/nursery locally? Would houses be available near his school/nursery or would you have to move him? I really feel for you, all you want is to settle down and get on with life, I cannot believe it is such a struggle.
I hope things start to look up soon!

Hi scooby, glad your back online, at least you'll have a bit of sanity!!!
Hope your council aren't waiting for one of the crappy houses that no one wants.
They might use these as the ones to give to people like yourself.
Hope not.
Keep calling your council, and follow each call with an email or letter just to make them keep looking at your file.
So glad you got help for your depression.
No way could you have carried on as you were.
Keep in touch.

Well another few days later & everything still the same.

Dp came home from work yesterday & said he felt more depressed than he had in years, we had a chat but also ended up having a bit of a row because of all the stress & pressure.

It's sort of ok trying to deal with the fact we don't have our own space & everything is just a nightmare but our biggest problem is ds this has effected him more than anyone else & it litterally brings me to tears to even sit & think about it.

Ds is only 4 & so so confused, he has always been a challenging child but as long as we had strict routine & total stability for him most of the time is was fine but obviously now it is just beyond belief, his behaviourer is so hard to control, he has started hitting me, shouting at me & having complete screaming fits, he also does not listen to a single word i say to him. To say it has been hard is just a tad of what has been going on.

Unfortuantly though we have to carry on there is no other way we can do this, i have kept his bedtime routine, his lunch, dinner & bath routine & also he goes to nursery everyday so that is still the same the bedtime was the tuffest & it has taken all these last 2 weeks, with screaming, shouting & just point blank refusing to go to bed, but i think we are finally here just about

I have written to the chief executive of the council just explaining my families journey with the council & how discusting i think it is the way we have been treated etc etc & have recieved a letter back today saying thank you for your letter dated blah blah we have started an investigation & will be in contact shortly. So who knows, i know we will get nothing from it but i feel for mine & my families sanity that i wanted them to know how wrong it is that they treat people like this & that i am not going to back down like they have wanted me to right from the start.

I will let you all know how i get on anyway, we may go away to mils & pils next week for a little break we are just deciding but they have offered to have ds for the whole week on his own if i would like a break so i am thinking about it but they are 200 miles away & i have never spent a night without ds so am finding it hard to let him go.

I hope that no news from Emma is good news, it would make me feel alot better to know one of us is on the right track

xx

Hi scooby, good to hear from you.

Sorry things are so bad for you all.

Won't your son get even more confused if he goes to stay somewhere without you????

I couldn't imagine having any of mine away from me at night.

The thought makes me feel sick.

Have you explained everything to your HV?

Maybe if she sees how your son is, then she could write a letter on your behalf.

Could you see your GP ?

It might be that he has behaviour problems (due to everything that you've all been through).

Please don't take that the wrong way, as i'm not meaning to be nasty in any way at all.

You may be able to use it to your advantage with the council.

He'll probably settle down, once you get your own place again, but in the meantime tell your GP and HV how he's got loads worse.

It's worth a try and you have nothing to lose.

Keep updating, as i'm still waiting for the happy ending!!!

Take care.

Oh Scooby, I really feel for you...

My dd is nearly 4 and I have had to put the form in for school - how do you do that when you don't know where you will be living?
The uncertainty must be so awful...

I am sorry your dp is depressed, I hope things will begin to look up for you soon!!

Where are you scooby, its been a while since you've updated as to how things are going!!!

Any news of a house yet????

Hi fussymummy,

Well all still the same, i recived a letter back from the chief executive but by his letter it just sounds like he is sticking up for his workers, the only thing he was concerned about was the fact people have not been calling me back & also the fact that he accepted my priority date was wrong but he said only by 2 days i believe it's by about 2 weeks.

My priority date has been changed & i have been in daily contact with the housing manager he is now the only person i will deal with as i feel our family have been treated wrong by our case manager & said i would not be dealing with her anymore, he said this is fine.

I have been contacting him through email & bombarding him with questions, he has now said they will make us one more offer of temp accomodation & if we take it or not our banding & priority date will still be the same.

They will only offer us private rented temp accom as if they put us anywhere else because we have children we can only stay there for 6 weeks max & this is obviously going to go on for a while yet!

I am in 2 minds about moving into temp accom as it just means more work cleaning & sorting when we have to leave again, i also have to take our ds into consideration because this has effected him enough already so i need to try & keep things as stable as possible for him so staying her at my mums might be the better option, not sure yet but we will have to see.

We are ok here & just getting on with things my ad's have helped me alot & i am so glad i toke the advice from my HV about going back on them. My HV is coming to see me on wednesday she is so lovely & said she will be here till the end when we hopefully eventually get housed.

Things have been ok we went away to dp's parents up north last weekend & that was a really nice break even know it is a long journey it was worth it, i let my hair down & got very very drunk but it was a good laugh.
We are off there again for a long weekend on the 17th so it will be nice to get another break, they are great with the kids.

Just trying to keep myself busy, been visiting friends & doing lots of things with ds, also we have decided to save money like mad people so that when we do move we have some money behind us to buy things we want like furniture & house stuff, this gives me something to work towards & makes me think this is all worth while.

I have been bidding again this week & the list ends tomorrow evening then if you do not hear within a week it means you were not the winner, new houses go on again on tuesday so i will just keep bidding.

I heard from emma by email, she is still stuck in the same place, feeling very sorry for her struggling & am hoping she gets something from this weeks propertys only time will tell.