F**kin' Mother .. She just did it again .. And I hung up on her ... GULP

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Twiglett - that is soooo annoying, my Mum did not like the name I was thinking of for ds, she regularly hinted at this - I became so irritated I named him that! To be fair she has never said anything against the name now that it is official.

What is 'that' name, anyway? Why doesn't she like it? The baby will make the name their own, anyway.

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I have a mother who thinks she can say what she likes to me "because I'm your mother". I've had to tell her on more than one occasion that, yes, she can say what she likes, but, if she does, she'll have to accept my reaction, which might not be pleasant. My parents, when asked by friends what we'd called DS2, always followed the name with the phrase "I'm sure we'll get used to it". Hmm.

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It's a lovely name. Really lovely. It's up to you and dh, no-one else AT ALL. But you know this and it's not about the name, it's her attitude that upsets you isn't it? I do understand, I don't always have the easiest relationship with my mum either. It's also horrible when members of your family move from the specific (don't like that name) to the personal (you always do xyz) too isn't it? Much sympathy. I think it was you who said mothers know how to push your buttons because they installed them. True, true. (even if you didn't say it).

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Beautiful names ....
Not so beautiful mother though
Why do people often feel that they are entitled to give their opinion / advice even when it's not requested.

By hanging up on her - do you think she'll shut up now ??

Have you ever hung up on her before, twiglett?

Oh God Twigglett, I'd be just a furious. How insensitive can you get ?! My mother is of the 'out of sight, out of mind' school of thought, whenever she calls it is to tell us about her new kitchen/bathroom/house/car/flooring choice etc. Um, 'hello?! Remember us, your GRAND-DAUGHTER, STEP GRAND-SONS, DAUGHTER & SON IN LAW, you self obsessed wi**h?!'. Drives me up the blinking wall, I swear.

I think you did the right thing, and FWIW I think Madeleine Grace is beautiful. Tell her to shove her opinions where the sun don't shine unless she wants a negative opinion on every move she ever makes or has made !

Sorry, cam out in sympathetic rage for you there twigglett

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twiglett, i think it's a gorgeous name!

Listen to your dh

There is no dealing with an interefering old bag really, is there? .

I think you should NOT ring her back immediately!!! Glad your sister said good for you.

Madeleine Grace, and Maddy, are lovely lovely names, AS YOU KNOW, so next time she starts just hang up straight away!

Twiglett - my dd is called Madeleine so I thoroughly approve!!!!

Put that baby name book away NOW! If she thinks she can manipulate you over this, where will it stop?

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Madeleine is lovely!!
Fast rising in popularity, from No. 82 to No. 69 in Girl's names in last 5 years (see stats ).
Glad to hear your sister already gave you support. Maybe next time remind your Mum's that she's entitled to her opinion, and you're entitled to completely disagree. Easier said than done, I know, esp. when you're preggo and feel sensitive to everything.

It's a gorgeous name. I can't help thinking she was making up the bit about the nature programme.

I remember that newly-empowered feeling when I hung up on my mum once. It feels so great when you're doing it.

Choosing your baby's name is, IMO, one of the joys of parenthood. Unless an opinion has been solicited, everyone else should eff off. Mother or otherwise!

Twiglett, I think you handled it perfectly - including putting the phone down. There is a limit to how reasonable anyone can be with someone who is being unreasonable. I think you should continue to put the phone down - maybe saying 'Mum, we must agree to disagree over this adn I don't want to discuss this any more. As I said, I don't want to discuss it. " until - maybe - she gets the message.
Don't change the name because of her. Of course it is a lovely name, but more importantly, it's your and your dh's choice.
Try not to dwell on it, your sisters will understand, you are in the right and she can't make you do anything no matter what she says.

Love this thread... particularly WSMs "'hello?! Remember us, your GRAND-DAUGHTER, STEP GRAND-SONS, DAUGHTER & SON IN LAW, you self obsessed wi**h?!'" I may well borrow that...

Please tell me we're not all going to turn into our mothers when we're older are we?!!! Stuff of worst nightmares - I'd HATE to think I would ever treat ds the way my mother treats me...

Gawd, me too Georgina, me too....

However, if I do, I'll see you down the Waggon and Horses, propping up the bar with a pint of strongbow, smoking Lambert & Butler like they're going out of fashion.

I must point out that when she is with us my Mum is simply lovely, attentive and playful with the kids. She was a pretty reluctant (and surprised) grandmother and still has a bit of trouble growing out of her 'second youth phase' she's been going through since I was 15 !