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I'm a SAHM and my life is a breeze ... care to comment?

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Twiglett · 11/07/2006 10:59

It really is no bother at all

5 year old and 2 year old .. 5 year old at school 9 till 3.30 .. 2 year old sleeps for 2 or 3 hours every afternoon

Have lots of friends ... do lots of stuff .. currently have 2 x 2 year olds in the house and have ignored them enough to make 2 lots of muffins and be on here .. yesterday DD and I went to meet some lovely people in a park for a picnic

Yes get angsty / bored / frustrated at times .. but used to feel like that when I was working too

c'mon ... flame me .. I'm ready for ya !!!!!

PMSL

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morocco · 11/07/2006 11:32

lucky thing
I have this guilt issue so if life is a breeze at home (eg my Thursday routine for you: both kids in creche in the morning while I do keepfit, then have lunch in cafe then kids back in creche while I have a massage) then I feel overwhelmed with guilt for not being at work and being productive and earning money while poor dh slaves away at work.
sob

Angeliz · 11/07/2006 11:34

I feel like that too Twiglett (original post- haven't read the whole thread yet).
Yes at times i am tired, crowded, but 99% of the time i love it. I feel it is the happiest time of my life and when people say 'enjoy them while they're young' which is ALOT up here, i always know that i do.
I actually am a bit fearful of years to come as i think these are bound to be the best years of my life.

(That's not to say i haven't got plans for the future though when i get a little time to myself)

oliveoil · 11/07/2006 11:34

aha but twiggy:

cast your mind back to when you had a 3 year old and a baby? crappamundo yes?

I can't cope some days with both of mine, am rubbish.

tenalady · 11/07/2006 11:35

OOOh, Cant say im in bliss land but glad to see your days are happy. My ds4 can be a handful probably something to do with the fact he missed school by 3 days because of his birthday so he is running rings round me.

Bozza · 11/07/2006 11:35

5 and 2 definitely much more of a breeze than 3 and baby IMO. But twiglett's DD was a very good sleeping baby IIRC.

Angeliz · 11/07/2006 11:36

I may have a different opinion in a few months when i have 17 month old and new baby![shcok]

oliveoil · 11/07/2006 11:37

I cannot WAIT until next Feb when both dd1 and dd2 will be in playgroup.

Then I could have a bit of peace for once.

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Twiglett · 11/07/2006 11:37

like all of these kinds of threads (life's so hard / life is so easy) this one works for a

MOMENT IN TIME

that's just it .. I don't think some people get it to be honest ... nobody is ecstatic ALL the time .. nobody is happy with their lot ALL the time

the times you are you need to hold on to for the next time you feel like shit

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SoMuchToBits · 11/07/2006 11:40

I have made friends from school, and chat to them in the playground, but most of them either work, or have younger children at home, so are spending a lot of time doing activities with the younger ones. I have had one school mum friend round for coffee, but have not been invited back yet. I do have a friend who still comes round once a week after school with her children (someone we met at music club, and ds still plays with her oldest girl - his "girlfriend!"). Other than that my main social outlets are the band I play in one evening a week, and a few joint friends of dh and myself whom we mainly see at weekends.

So the weekdays can be a bit lonely, although I have enjoyed the school library project, and am thinking of volunteering to help in the school on a regular basis next term, as it would give me more social contact. I am very rarely bored, as I can always think of things to do, but I would like to see more people IYKWIM.

oliveoil · 11/07/2006 11:40

I like having one at a time, when they are both together I am just a referee. But I have been told that they will get on "when the little one gets a bit older"

Is this correct?

niceglasses · 11/07/2006 11:41

Yep, think I am missing adult contact and that is making it harder. Most of my peers stopped at 2 and are therefore mostly back at work or their youngest one in playgroup and don't want to spend their kid free time with me and my two mad things. I think adult company very important - must try harder!!!

Tortington · 11/07/2006 11:41

can't they read all the harry potter books yet?

Bozza · 11/07/2006 11:41

Actually twig you have just made me think. And I think 5 and 2 are good ages for my kids. DD is adorable and funny although stroppy as well. DS is enjoying school and coping much better (was so tired the first term). They play together great so much of the time. They both have friends that they love (and I like the Mums too ).

Bozza · 11/07/2006 11:43

olive mine tend to get on better if they are left in a room on their own to get on with it, than if I am actually there with them IYSWIM. DD is also terribly jealous of DS.

poisson · 11/07/2006 11:46

MINE IS TOO
even wiht dh away most of the time adn beign a governor and mag an all

niceglasses · 11/07/2006 11:47

I think you're right btw Twiglett - if you feel happy you have to hold onto that - we only tend to remember feeling down, but you have to celebrate feeling good. For some mad reason I think we are maybe all waiting for it to go Pete Tong when we feel like this, or maybe its just cynical ole me.

poisson · 11/07/2006 11:48

oh i haev had a lovely morning
d s3 and i tookt he others to shcool then park and rode into townawher we mooched aroud the market
had my eyebrows done
bought a belt inthe animal sale ( huzzah)
went to a book shop to get a present and he had a mini milk

joelallie · 11/07/2006 11:52

Good for you Twiglett...

I love my life too inspite of various trials and tribulations. My kids are the very very best.

Issymum · 11/07/2006 12:12

I work full-time outside the home, but in June I took off two weeks in term time to cover whilst my nanny was on holiday. Just like Twiglett I have one in Reception and one doing four sessions (2.5 hours each) at pre-school. I expected, my nanny expected, even he mothers at my daughters' school and pre-school expected that I would find it a real struggle. It wasn't. I found being an SAHM physically hard work (I'm used to sitting on my backside all day at my desk), I think I got more than my fair share of boundary-pushing from the girls as having me there all the time was a novelty, encountering all those bl**dy Porsche Cayennes on the narrow roads on the school run drove me demented and going through all the routines for the first time was challenging, but generally it was fine. And finding myself at 3pm in our sunny garden, having a long drink and natter with another mother whilst we watched the children play rather than being in another meeting or on an interminable conference call was very, very pleasant.

(I have to admit that I did cheat - our cleaner wasn't on holiday!)

Raggydoll · 11/07/2006 12:14

fgs twiglett there might be men reading this - please try to keep up the image of nightmare kids and endless chores that the rest of us have worked so hard at creating....

Bozza · 11/07/2006 13:50

issymum at least your nanny had the decency to have the two weeks off in June and not February. Would not have been quite as enjoyable IMO. I love the summer with kids.

Scummy · 11/07/2006 13:54

Dear, dear me. You'll pay for all this fun and laziness in later life, you mark my words. And don't think you can come running to me when you're old, fat and penniless, please.

iota · 11/07/2006 13:54

have to agree with the others - having a toddler and a baby is too much like hard work as a SAHM - but if you think 5 and 2 are good ages, wait til you get to 7 and 4 - it's even better - they dress themselves, they bath/shower themselves, they can get their own drinks etc etc.

Pruni · 11/07/2006 13:56

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Tutter · 11/07/2006 13:57

haven't read thread but hurrah! a 13mo is still pretty much full-on attention-wise, but i LOVE it, and look forward to just a teensy bit of slobbing once he's a little more self-sufficient (and - touch wood - before another one arrives).