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The SOUP support group (Sufferers Of Obviously Unhinged Parents)

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fastasleep · 24/04/2006 15:55

Named by FoundInTranslation, started in honour of Greensleeves :)

Join up and we can sob, moan endlessly and get furious together!

I'll start off eh, to cut a long story short my parents are insane my mum is an alcoholic, although unfortunatley alcohol has this way of setting her off and making her completely paranoid and very abusive...

my Dad's now an alcoholic too, but he stopped talking to me when I was eight, never got an explanation (he's also a pyromaniac with scary fetishes!!)

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Hausfrau · 24/04/2006 15:59

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Tortington · 24/04/2006 16:55

my mums a nutter with real mental health issues - no one can help and i've tried them all
a combination of depression hooked on sleeping pills for decades, my dads death over 28 years ago, tinnitus, and a dodgy phone with crossed wires - really! she could listen in to other peoples conversations - instead she think aliens are listening to her and sometimes it gets so bad i travel 300 miles to fetch her down here.

but does she send a birthday card to my kids? no.

should i expect a woman who is as nutty as a nut thing on nut day to remember to send a card - when she is obviously busy with aliens? probably not.

spacecadet · 24/04/2006 17:11

my mum is a control freak with ocd, but i still love her, my father who my mother divorced when i was 8 is a loony, hes a dr of plant pathology but who sadly has drunk his life away and beat me up as a teen when i lived with him, he pushed me downstairs 1 day after giving birth to my still born son.

spacecadet · 24/04/2006 17:13

custy thats really Sad
my father has never remembered my kids birthdays, im surprised he knows who i am.

SoupDragon · 24/04/2006 17:14

Oh bugger. Thought it was a fan club for me.

Greensleeves · 24/04/2006 17:18

This is brilliant Grin

My mother is an evil old cow. She is selfish, controlling, manipulative, devious, cruel, infantile and lazy. In my opinion she has Borderline Personality Disorder (a la Joan Crawford - she is EXACTLY the same as her in that film). My stepdad is a weird hollow shell of a man whom I will never understand (nor do I wish to) but he can be very nasty and two-faced. My dad used to be a hard-drinking, occasionally violent, vain, selfish, anal bastard Grin, but has grown up quite a lot and we have a pretty good relationship now - he's very good with my kids, although he still has his moments. He's a recognisable human being, anyway, which is good going for our family.

Greensleeves · 24/04/2006 17:19

Sad spacecadet that's appalling. What a bastard.

foundintranslation · 24/04/2006 17:30

hello! :)

My parents are lambs compared to some of yours, but still, sadly, unhinged enough. My mother is a champion martyr, bully and emotional blackmailer, prone to rages (e.g. once I got back from a driving lesson to find my stuff chucked around my room), and my father is completely spineless where she's concerned. When their attempts to bully me into leaving dh, then dp, failed, they wrote me nasty letters, rang up screaming and crying and in the end cut me off with much high drama at my graduation. They have nothing to do with me and I'm excluded from the family, but they still want emails on birthdays. I've had to run after them to get them to meet ds, whom they've shown pracically zero interest in :( :( :( - we're meeting up on 19 May and I'm sh**ting myself.

foundintranslation · 24/04/2006 17:32

(haven't seen them for 6 yrs btw [gulp emoticon needed]

alicemama · 24/04/2006 17:38

My mil is obviously unhinged but in the eccentric, amusing kind of way.....most of the time, does have the odd moment of trying to guilt trip dh over us moving 40 miles away. But its nothing compared to what some of you have to deal with......I promise never to winge about her again

Well not as much anyway !

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fastasleep · 24/04/2006 19:06

Oh god spacey the twt* did you report him? Angry Lowest of the low he is!!!

Greeny your mum and dad (the hollow shell one anyway) sound pretty much like mine!!

We have something in common apart from being vastly funny Wink

FIT you certainly qualify.... 6 years, blimey that's gonna be horrible... keep in touch!!

Custy you must feel so drained sometimes Sad give give give and get nothing back right? Parents are meant to be like that not the kids!!

Alice you don't qualify... Grin

Soupy, everyone on flipping MN would be in your fanclub love it would be a huge thread lol with lots of dodgy links!

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SleepyJess · 24/04/2006 19:09

Oh God, can I join! My mother hasn't spoken to me since Easter Sunday because I said her dog smelt bad!! (She did! She rolls in poo a lot and I was worried about it getting on my carpet where DS has no choice but to crawl around as he has cp and can't walk! )

My mother got up, put said dog and lead and left. Have not heard from her since. Unhinged or what!! Shock

SleepyJess · 24/04/2006 19:09

Oh God, can I join! My mother hasn't spoken to me since Easter Sunday because I said her dog smelt bad!! (She did! She rolls in poo a lot and I was worried about it getting on my carpet where DS has no choice but to crawl around as he has cp and can't walk! )

My mother got up, put said dog and lead and left. Have not heard from her since. Unhinged or what!! Shock

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fastasleep · 24/04/2006 19:10

Pmsl my mum loves her doggies over all else too :)

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SleepyJess · 24/04/2006 19:11

My sister and I have realised that she loves her dog far more than she ever loved us!! Shock

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fastasleep · 24/04/2006 19:25

Yikes foxinsocks(love the name) at least your mum gets help, kind of... that must have really sucked growing up..

do you remember the incident? I can't imagine seeing something like that as a kid! Sad

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Jen1209 · 24/04/2006 20:19

I had my father sectioned at the start of this year after many years of mental health issues. He is seriously unhinged and was living with my 92 year old grandfather (social services thought this was ok until my dad decided to ring me 4 times a day to tell me the voices in his head were telling him to kill himself and my grandfather)

He blames me for his heart attack and my parents divorce (HA 13 years ago when I was 13 and divorce 8 years ago!)

He gave me £8000 for my birthday last year - and the cheque cleared (he was going through one of his better stages at that point)

I now have nothing to do with him (I had to tell him that after he had been sectioned he was not going back to my grandad's and we had a solicitors letter saying so) except for contact with the social workers. I will mainly not be telling him that I am pregnant. :(

My mother is fantastic - my best friend.

Jen1209 · 24/04/2006 20:19

I had my father sectioned at the start of this year after many years of mental health issues. He is seriously unhinged and was living with my 92 year old grandfather (social services thought this was ok until my dad decided to ring me 4 times a day to tell me the voices in his head were telling him to kill himself and my grandfather)

He blames me for his heart attack and my parents divorce (HA 13 years ago when I was 13 and divorce 8 years ago!)

He gave me £8000 for my birthday last year - and the cheque cleared (he was going through one of his better stages at that point)

I now have nothing to do with him (I had to tell him that after he had been sectioned he was not going back to my grandad's and we had a solicitors letter saying so) except for contact with the social workers. I will mainly not be telling him that I am pregnant. :(

My mother is fantastic - my best friend.

Jen1209 · 24/04/2006 20:19

I had my father sectioned at the start of this year after many years of mental health issues. He is seriously unhinged and was living with my 92 year old grandfather (social services thought this was ok until my dad decided to ring me 4 times a day to tell me the voices in his head were telling him to kill himself and my grandfather)

He blames me for his heart attack and my parents divorce (HA 13 years ago when I was 13 and divorce 8 years ago!)

He gave me £8000 for my birthday last year - and the cheque cleared (he was going through one of his better stages at that point)

I now have nothing to do with him (I had to tell him that after he had been sectioned he was not going back to my grandad's and we had a solicitors letter saying so) except for contact with the social workers. I will mainly not be telling him that I am pregnant. :(

My mother is fantastic - my best friend.

Jen1209 · 24/04/2006 20:20

I had my father sectioned at the start of this year after many years of mental health issues. He is seriously unhinged and was living with my 92 year old grandfather (social services thought this was ok until my dad decided to ring me 4 times a day to tell me the voices in his head were telling him to kill himself and my grandfather)

He blames me for his heart attack and my parents divorce (HA 13 years ago when I was 13 and divorce 8 years ago!)

He gave me £8000 for my birthday last year - and the cheque cleared (he was going through one of his better stages at that point)

I now have nothing to do with him (I had to tell him that after he had been sectioned he was not going back to my grandad's and we had a solicitors letter saying so) except for contact with the social workers. I will mainly not be telling him that I am pregnant. :(

My mother is fantastic - my best friend.

SleepyJess · 24/04/2006 20:30

Eeek sorry for banging on about me and my mum's falling out over the bloody dog.. it's crap in comparsion to the some of the stuff on this thread! :(

spacecadet · 24/04/2006 20:35

fastasleep-when my mother found out she wanted to call the police, i wouldnt let her because i was frightened, i ran out of the house after dad attacked me that night, a local couple found me wandering along the road and phoned the gp, they then took me back rto my lodgings, i wasnt evewn suopposed to be at my dads abyway as social services had removed me at 16 and put me in suppoerted lodgings.

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fastasleep · 24/04/2006 22:24

Oh spacey Sad you must have been in a horrible place that night (iygwim) Sad wish I could've been there to help you out! Would you like someone to beat him around the head with a bat? Am sure DH would willingly oblige!! (not allowed to say that on here really am I!)

SJ - I get totally fed up with mum and her dog antics!! Even though she's done much worse lol

Jen good on you for being brave enough to get your dad sectioned :) I really admire that, I'm not sure I would have thought of it, and god knows what would have happened if you hadn't! I probably should have kept my pregnancy a secret too, then my parents would have wanted nothing to do with me ! I made all the classic mistakes!! Thank god you have a lovely mum though eh :)

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