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Going to womens aid tomorrow

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CKMUM · 11/04/2006 18:48

I tried to leave him before and didn't manage it. I've now arranged to go to a refuge tomorrow. Hope Iget to the station without him following me. Wish me luck. I am in a real state; I am so scared, he will be so angry if he finds me trying to leave

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Freckle · 11/04/2006 18:50

Making such a huge decision is the hardest step. Good luck and keep on going.

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CKMUM · 11/04/2006 18:51

thanks

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tortoise · 11/04/2006 18:51

Good luck.Hope it all goes well.my fingers are crossed for you.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 11/04/2006 18:57

Good Luck

I read your thread in January did you not make it then ?

How old are your children ? Do you need anything for them ?

Do you need clothes ?

blueteddy · 11/04/2006 18:59

Well done on making this huge decision. You are very brave.
Wishing you loads of luck.Smile

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CKMUM · 11/04/2006 19:02

No I didn't make it back then. I am determined it will happen this time though. I am taking as many things as I can manage but nowehre near enough stuff really. My youngest who is 1 is so sick all the time I have to take tons of clothes for just one day out. I have to get three trains. My eldest is two and very loud, won't manage to fold buggy and get it on train with two children and a big heavy bag so have to go on the coach that has wheelchair space so I don't have to collapse buggy. But this is virgin train, the wheelchair space is on the quiet coach and my children won't be quiet

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 11/04/2006 19:06

Tough luck on Virgin.

Sorry my DS is older than your children so his clothes will be no use.

Keep MN ing we may able to rally the troops.

Go to the local library, I think you get one hour of Internet for free.

pashmina · 11/04/2006 19:10

goodluck - keep calm tonight

KBear · 11/04/2006 19:16

ckmum - good luck, keep calm, deep breaths. Let us know if you need anything - there is tons of help on here. Here's to your new life. A happier one.

harpsichordcarrier · 11/04/2006 19:19

yes, CK mum tell us what you need.
what clothes/equipment?
good luck and sending love #
HC xx

tortoise · 11/04/2006 19:22

See in your past thread you might come to somerset.Can you say where you are heading? i have lots of boys clothes if they are any good to you.

waterfalls · 11/04/2006 19:28

Dont worry aboput the children being loud, just concentrate on getting away, good luckSmile

Caligula · 11/04/2006 19:33

Good luck CKMum, just keep thinking how good your life is going to be when you've got through this.

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CKMUM · 11/04/2006 19:42

I'm actually going to wales now, no places in somerset

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moondog · 11/04/2006 19:42

I've just taken a load of stuff to Women's Aid,hoping it would help women like you.
Yes,what do you need???

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CKMUM · 11/04/2006 19:47

I don't know what stuff will be available there but i've packed quiite a bit for the girls, i'm short of stuff for myself anyway

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 11/04/2006 19:50

What size are you ??

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CKMUM · 11/04/2006 19:52

10 or 12 depending on clothes

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 11/04/2006 19:53

I am no help to you, but we will keep this bumped for a while and see what happens.

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CKMUM · 12/04/2006 06:52

Because the housing people never do repairs I have had difficulty locking my door and they have left me with the house insecure for 3 days, he got in last night, saw my bgs packed, he won't let me go anywhere unless the children stay with him

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Mytwopenceworth · 12/04/2006 07:32

does he work? i mean, is he there 24/7? if not, you have a window of opportunity. You could phone the refuge and explain, they may be able to arrange transport. or you could phone the police - who may also be able to send a car (i have actually known this to happen - I dont know your story, but if, say, he has been violent and the police have this on file, you can use this to get their help to leave.). basically, if you let people know you are being prevented from leaving - that you are basically being kept against your will through threats and intimidation, then you may find they have ways to help people in that situation.

or -
whereabouts are you at the moment? if he does leave you alone, is there nobody (even an mner) who can pick you up? even if they cant take you to wales, they could maybe take you far enough away that you can get public transport in safety. if you are anywhere near me, i'll do it.

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CKMUM · 12/04/2006 07:34

i'm in oxford. its very kind of you but i don't feel it is fair to involve people in case they get hurt so I suppose the police is my best option

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ggglimpopo · 12/04/2006 08:30

Tell us what you need - and sizes and ages. Your children are what age and take what size? You? What toys do you need? Can we help organise stuff for you?

ggglimpopo · 12/04/2006 08:31

Is the local domestic violence unit helpful?

lionhearted · 12/04/2006 11:59

Good for you, and good luck.

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