Spent night in A&E after falling with 7month ds in my arms-dp being horrible to me

[jmum6]

I'm feeling really shocked today, so thought by telling you all it might make me feel better.

Right here goes:

Ds has been ill with cold which has gone onto his chest. Went to drs yesterday and was given antibiotics. Came home and locked keys in the car.

I had ds, his bag full of crap, our coats and and a big soft toy rabbit in my hands.
So I decided that rather wait for my dp to come home from work, I'd walk up to my sister (who lives 2 mins away) for a spare key. Couldn't get pushchair as was locked in the car, and couldn't go round the back of the house as the side gate is bolted.

Started to walk and had probably managed to walk as far as 3 houses up the road when I stumbled, I managed to right my self but not quite, and I felt myself falling forward. I ended up stumbling forward and then off of the curb, I tried to break ds fall, but as I hit the ground he 'bounced' out of my arms and into the road. Luckily no cars were coming but he landed on his head.

For a few milliseconds I thought he was dead as he was completely silent, but he was doing that silent cry thing he does when he's really hurt.

A neighbour saw me fall and helped me up and walked me back home. By which point ds is screaming, bleeding from the bump on his head, the backs of my hands and my knees are all bleeding too(looked far worse than it actually was). By then dp had got home from work and went mad when I managed to tell him what happened.

Kept saying, why hadn't I just waited at the house, why didn't I pick up my phone from the car ect etc. By now I'm having full blown panic attack and can't breath.

We went straight to A&E and the nurse saw us straightaway and gave ds calpol to help calm him down, they gave him some more after 15mins, as he's still screaming. Then the nurse came and took me away to their staffroom and made me a cup of tea. To try and calm me down as I was still having panic attack and couldn't breath or speak.

Then the dr saw ds, and examined him and said it's a good sign he was crying and hadn't been sick ect etc. After observing him they let us come home.

I know it was my fault but dp is now being funny with me and blaming me. It wasn't until this morning he asked me how my hands and knees were, and then just said he's got no sympathy for me.

So I've spent this morning worrying about ds and making sure he's got no other concussions symptons, playing it all over in my head and generally feeling weepy and crappy.

i thought he was 'useless' Snow?

Yeah thats only cos he's a man Pink! No injuries due to a drop on the head, just down to his genes. Lol
He is the same person that asked why i need to 'practice' my contractions......Urgh i despair!

oh you poor thing

i know EXACTLY how you feel, hope this makes you feel better....

A few years ago i went on holiday with my old family on their big motor boat (one of those multi million pound gorgosue motor boats )

any way one day in a marina we were moored up, and the wind was blowing the boat 'away' + it was high tide and no shelter so the boat must have been about 90cm from the edge...

we didnt have the bridge thing out (not my fault)and i arrived at the boat my myself with 2 year old and buggy.... (and bags full of crap etc ...

anyway he was hungry and there really was no feasible way of bringing the boat closer.... (also no phone reception in that bit of france and finding anyone to help would have taken ages and it tea time now

so as ive done lots of times i pick up 2 year old and jump across the gap... more of a large step, but with a bit more spring...

anyway the edge of the bit you stand on was wet and as i jumped i slipped .... i manage to launch myself at the boat and just make it onto the back.... while i smash my shin on a sharp edge of metal and my knee on another sharp corner(that the dingy boat sits on) and also hit the back of 2 year olds head on the boat as well (right at the back... right near the bit where if you hit hard enough you die)

i dont know who was more shocked.... me or toddler, but when he finally started screaming he did then calm down within about 15 mins... tho my leg was sooooo painful it actually took me about 5 mins to even move... (me and little one just sat there and had a huge cuddle)

luckily another child who we had made friends with in the marina came passed and went and found his mummy for me.

It was apparent that 2 year old was actually fine.... just anothr big head bump to add to the list...

My leg was not quite so fine.... tho when we were hone 48 hours i went straigh to A&E it took 3 drs to conclude it wasnt broken as looking at it and the swelling and the bruisng they couldnt believe it wasnt and wanted 2nd and 3rd opinion to be sure.

So i remember that sick feeling.... and it wasnt even my child that id dropped (although my instinct did not allow me to let go of him), but i also nearly dropped us both into a 20m deep bit of water that getting out from would have been VERY difficult.... and obviously we were only going on board so no life jackets either... we could have both drowned

luckily alls well that ends well... everyone agreed that if they were me in that situation they would have tried to hop across the gap that ive succesfully done holding baby LOADS of times before....

and back to you jmum6.... anyone else would have also carried baby down the road to get the spare key... you werent to know and it was just an accident

So your partner is very mean to make you feel bad!

Oh NannyL I understand that sick feeling well.

Thought for a horrible moment as I was reading that you had fallen in the water [holding breath emoticon!]

We are all fine today, and dp is back to his normal self - he obviously doesn't handle situations like that well. Will let it go this time!

Now just awaiting that call from the health visiter.....