neighbours from hell update

[buffythenappyslayer]

dont know if anyone remembers but i posted about the probs weve had with our loopy neighbour.i even changed my name on here incase she comes on here!(previous name was stephanie21).anyway,just wanted to give an update.my kids go to the same school as hers,and dd1 came home and said we are now being blamed for something else.apparantly,her kids are getting taken into care!anyone who was on my previous thread will no how serious things have got,(she accused us of getting her attacked,but the police found out she had lied).anyway,this latest thing,i just dont know if to believe it or not.her dd told my dd that her dad hits her and that its my fault they are getting put into care (cant work that one out,did i make him abuse his kids or something?)i never knew anything was going on,the only things i can comment on are that she cant control her kids,also she stands in the street screaming at her ds and hits him.she says her kids have various diseases but then they make miraculous recoveries.she is an attention seeker,and i do think her kids are suffering because of the way she treats them.but i would never wish anyone to have their kids taken off them.i did mention to dd3's social worker (dd3 has cf and thats why she has a specialist social worker)that i was worried about her kids,and i think she got someone to pay her a visit.but surely unless there was something really horrible going,they wouldnt take their kids away would they?i do feel sorry for her but i cant help but feel gulity that this is happening.im also finding it hard to believe that social services would come and tell her they are taking her kids away,surely they would do assessments etc first?this woman has caused my family so many probs (all on previous thread) but why do i feel so bad for her?im also wondering if it is true,maybe she is telling her kids they are getting put into care to make them say its our fault?(thats the sort of thing she would say to her kids).any advice anyone???

Like you say she is an attention seeker.

Sounds like another ploy to get attention to me... Is she really like to tell everyone that social services are going to take her kids away? I would think it is the sort of thing you would want to keep quiet about!

thats what im thinking.i think shes maybe doing it to try to turn people against us again.i really hate her for all the things she has said and done (she said it was my own fault that one of my babies died when i was carrying twins,then went on to say shes been having an affair with my dh!)
im hoping that the housing are going to evict her as she is harrassing constantly,but if this is true,imagine how bad i'll feel if she gets evicted aswell.

Playing the blame game is common to those who are too immature to take responsibility for their own actions. I work in a college and I have lost count of the number of times I have been blamed by my students for everything under the sun, when the real issue is they are lazy, violent sods who have no social skills whatsoever.

So I suggest you tell your children that everyone is responsible for their own actions.

You did not choose to hit her children.
You did not choose to accuse an innocent person of violence.
You did not choose to lie to the police.
You did not choose to spin fairy stories about diseases.
You did not choose to harass the neighbours. (She's probably weirdly jealous that your daughter has a real disease)

All these actions are hers therefore the consequences for these actions are hers and hers alone.

Good luck, I really feel for you.

dont know what to advise other than whats already been said. i was wondering how you were getting on as i have followed your threads.just wanted you to know that. i really hope things improve soon the woman obviously needs help, you are not to blame at all.

told dd1 and ds1 that if herkids said anything to them today,to ignore them and go and tell the head master.(hes aware of all the probs weve had).
they came home and dd1 said that neighbours dd hasnt said anything to her,but just kept giving filthy looks.told her to ignore as we havent done anything wrong.
was sat in garden today with dd3,and neighbour came outside.she could hear us (we put the 6ft fence up so she couldnt have seen us).i was playing with dd3,and neighbour started crying very loudly!(attention seeking again me thought!)then she kept saying 'why me,why me.what have i ever done?' and carried on blubbing!i started getting miffed with her,but kept playing with dd3,she then shouted 'dont you care that you've wrecked my life!'
erm...dont see how i have!she stormed in and slammed the door so i couldnt even say anything back!she apparently walked down to school crying and walked home crying aswell.thing is,people know what shes like so dont ask her if shes ok.yesterday i felt guilty,despite not having anything to do with it,today,i feel angry.how can she accuse me of doing anything?ive kept quiet whenever she has done/said things and i have gone through all the right channels to get things sorted (police and housing),yes i spoke to dd3's social worker about them,but if they are having their kids taken away from them,surely its because the kids arent being treated right,not because i have said i was concerned about them?(sorry i know im repeating myself!)
what can i do?i dont know if she is just doing one of her attentiion seeking things again,i mean if shes nasty enough to say she was attacked and cut her own face to try to get us into trouble,then shes capable of telling people her kids are going into care.
ive told the kids not to play outside in the garden incase she comes out again,but why should i keep them in?hiding away makes us look guilty i think.this whole thing is getting me down.i just want her to p*ss off and leave us alone.ive got so much to worry about what with dd3 and ds1 (hes got behavioural probs,blind in one eye and has mild epilepsy),i just cant be doing with this woman turning people against us.im usually very laid back and placid,but this is just getting me so angry i want to really hurt the woman!
sorry for my rant!!and thanks for all your support guys,it means alot that people are actually bothering to listen to me,and give advice!

What a drama queen.

I'd be tempted to anonomusly send her brochures for drama classes.