help needed for dp urgent

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its approaching the 10th anniversary of my dps brothers death the 31st of march and dp is finding it really hard to cope with i need help and advice as to what i can do for dp to help him at this time

Know how you feel. My dh's mother died nearly 20 years ago. Some years he is snappy all day and other years it goes by unmentioned. I don't have any real suggestions on how to deal with it. However, we always make a donation to Cancer Research around the date, which at least makes us feel that we might help prevent someone else dying in the same way. Could you do something similar?

I dont think that there is very much you can do TBH, it is going to be a sad day for him no matter what.
I think that if he tried to forget it in any way then he may only feel guilty for that, he needs to think and remember his brother and anniverseries are an acute time in which to do this.
Just let him be.

i can understnad what you are both saying the problem is and even his mum says the same he still hasnt come to terms with the death yet at the funeral he just drubk himself into obilivion to block it out and that is what he still does now

Does bereavement counselling help anyone? If it does, it can't be too late as he is affected so much by his brother's death.