...but a lot of people are worried about OP (I**m). I have posted and lurked here for very many years but this does seem to be only the (very) (no bad feeling intended, at all) useful few are allowed to be able to continue to offer advice on a desperately traumatic situation. Please don't make Mumsnet cliquey... Where do we go to continue support, please? And make sure she's OK? Like many others, she has been constantly on my mind for the past near on week.