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I gave my 5 yr old Vallium, am I going to jail?

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teawith2sugarsplease · 13/07/2012 09:56

Seriously, if anyone has any inside knowledge of what is likely or may happen please let me know.

His school nurse is coming in an hour and I may tell her.

Why did I do it? because he's been screaming for 4 hours each day after school, making himself actually vomit with screaming, he's scratching himself up.
He's Autistic, barely verbal.
It's been going on for weeks,I'm sleep deprived, it's not nice for him to be in such a state.
The vallium did help as I knew it would.
It's not his prescription though.

It seemed like the only option.

I'm thinking they may call social services,

what's gonna happen to us?

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Birdsgottafly · 13/07/2012 10:59

www.guardian.co.uk ? News ? Society ? Drugs

She admitted to doing it regulary and he was on a CP plan.

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 13/07/2012 11:00

Boney, that's hardly the same thing!

The OP is already scared shitless, was that post really necessary? Hmm

OP, I have found the National Autistic Society to be very helpful. They have a phone helpline here It's confidential, and will probably give you much better advice than anyone on here can.

Birdsgottafly · 13/07/2012 11:00

If it was Jayden-Lee Green, the child died.

boneyjonesy · 13/07/2012 11:04

This is a different case but no doubt you are right and there was a lot more to it than that.

phlebas · 13/07/2012 11:04

OP, I don't know if you post on the SN board but it does provide fabulous support. I have a non sleeping child with ASD, same age as your ds actually, it is so hard.

Talk to the school nurse, it might help but tbh I am suppressing hollow laughter at all those posters saying SS etc will be falling over themselves to provide 'support' because yeah right that's how the system works for disabled children & their parents (or not in case anyone was wondering).

Dawndonna · 13/07/2012 11:05

2mg of diazapam is highly unlikely to do any damage. HOWEVER it is known that people with ASDs do tend to process drugs differently, so there may be more of less of a reaction than there would be with a neurotypical person. There may also be more of a hangover effect.
As others here have said:

  1. Try not to get in too much of a tizz
  2. Get some help from ss or National Autistic Society.

Hope things improve for you.

3littlefrogs · 13/07/2012 11:06

It is extremely unlikely that he will have suffered any harm.

You need to tell the nurse the truth because you need help and support.

I hope you will get the help you need; you are clearly at the end of your tether.

SoleSource · 13/07/2012 11:10

phlebas Took me three years to get help from SW disability team. I had to go through hell. Even now we get very littkle to some but I am grateful for what we do get. Nobody has staed that SS will fall allover themselves. You have made that up. They will help they have to. I have no experience of CP team but I guess they might speed up the process. Sorry you don't get anything.

MariosTash · 13/07/2012 11:17

Tell her the truth and she will help you get the help it sounds like you really need.

QuickLookBusy · 13/07/2012 11:23

You won't go to jail and your Ds will not be taken from you.

Tell the truth and they will help you and your son.

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teawith2sugarsplease · 13/07/2012 12:46

a social worker is coming later today as 'it's at crisis point',

so I'll tell them the truth

:'(((

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SoleSource · 13/07/2012 12:49

You'll be OK! It will get the ball rolling. i wish there wasn't so much fear of social services.

Dahlen · 13/07/2012 12:49

Hang on in there and just be honest with people. They're there to look out for your child and in this case that will mean giving you some much-needed support. Hope you feel better soon.

SoleSource · 13/07/2012 12:51

You are looking after him by asking for help. You have recognised what you did and the severity of the need. This will also be looked upon favourably. Just let them into your home and co-operate all the way.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 13/07/2012 13:01

The important thing to remember is that you did not do something with the intention of hurting your son. You made a judgement based on some external evidence that it would be safe to give your son a small dose of Valium to calm him down as he was distressed and self harming.

In the cold light of day, it was not the right judgement to make, but your motives were to help your son not to harm him. It is reasonable to ask them to help find a better solution to your son's distress.

QuickLookBusy · 13/07/2012 13:02

Well done tea. I hope you get all the help you need.x

UnChartered · 13/07/2012 13:19

good luck for this afternoon tea

make sure they hear and listen to you, and please come on over the SN boards - a better bunch of strangers is hard to find

LemarchandsBox · 13/07/2012 13:24

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SoleSource · 13/07/2012 13:26

Just co-operate no matter what, be prepared for that. x

AnyFucker · 13/07/2012 20:44

good luck, sweetie x

SoleSource · 14/07/2012 01:25

How was today? Are you worrying? Come back and 'talk' to us.

lisaro · 14/07/2012 02:34

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puds11 · 15/07/2012 17:35

Hey op you ok? How did things go?

SoleSource · 16/07/2012 20:53

We can help, even if you didn't call the SS. We are here x

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teawith2sugarsplease · 17/07/2012 22:52

Hi, I just got discharge after 4 days, I went to a psychiatric unit that night.

Social services said they can't provide respite, I'm back at home on my own, only different is I'm doped up on antidepressants.

Trying to get through it ... x

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