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Now that there are so many new members on mn and so many name changers and so much pissing about

118 replies

Beetroot · 19/02/2006 18:12

Maybe it is best to just trust the ones you know?

Sad really, used to be able to trust and beleive most MNetters

Discuss?

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CountessCodsacnut · 19/02/2006 20:26

aarrgghh the L word!!!

RedRidingHood · 19/02/2006 20:28

Definately - at least I have met some new people tonight!

brimfull · 19/02/2006 20:28

I feel exactly the same callmemadam.It sometimes feels a bit like the school gates.

doormat · 19/02/2006 20:28

you still cant effin spell

kittyfish · 19/02/2006 20:30

I am a definite thread killer and rudly interrupt many cliquey conversations only to be ignored.

brimfull · 19/02/2006 20:30

see...I'm lost know!!!

mcmum · 19/02/2006 20:46

can i kill this one ? im back and my spud was mingin (for non geordie folk that means not at all nice)

mcmum · 19/02/2006 20:49

see i told you i always kill a thread. am i the only sad git that sits impatiently waiting for reply clicking on refresh button just in case its not working properly

RedRidingHood · 19/02/2006 20:50

No I do that too!!

mcmum · 19/02/2006 20:55

rrhood there you didnt have to press refresh i am on the ball tonight - now ive got a friend that is hahaha

mcmum · 19/02/2006 20:59

now ive done it twice - WAKE UP EVERYONE IT'S NOT 9;00PM YET

Elf1981 · 19/02/2006 21:07

I have only been a mumsnetter for about 13 months. I wouldn't class myself as an old timer. I class old timers as the names I recognise from the mumsnet books!
However, I do change my name when I am posting about work, becuase I know two other people who use mumsnet from work. I dont think that makes me untrustworthy.
I find it sad when somebody posts a thread and they're immediately called a "troll" because it's an off the wall question. I saw a thread a while back, somebody posted a question and somebody called them a troll as they'd searched for their name and couldn't find any other threads with that name. Turned out they'd only searched current posts, not archives as well, which I thought was a bit sad.

Miaou · 19/02/2006 21:23

Beety, I can see where you are coming from. It's so busy on here now that it's sometimes a bit difficult to keep up with what's happening. And I think we often gravitate naturally towards the mners we have built up a rapport with (on- or off-line).

But I tend to give newbies a fair hearing (particularly if they just dig in and join in the convos) - after all, some of the people I get on best with were "newbies" to me (ie joined after I did). However I ought to take on board your point about trust, I'm far too trusting for my own good really and one day soon I'll get my fingers burnt.

nooka · 19/02/2006 21:32

I don't really understand the trust issue. Mumsnet is a great distraction (too great at times!) but it's not somewhere I expect to make friends, after all one of the really nice things is being able to type exactly what you think (whilst being polite, of course!). I've had some great conversations, debates and support here, and post whenever I feel like it, but I don't want to be "me" here. I've never name changed in the year or so (I think) I've been here, but then I wouldn't do a meet up, or post pictures, so I think my danger of being "outed" is small

Passionflower · 19/02/2006 21:36

I agree nooka, I don't get the trust thing either. I'm more than happy to chat to people on-line but I'm not going to start lending them my stuff or a key to my house or anything.

nooka · 19/02/2006 21:55

My dh had an affair with someone he met in a chatroom, so I guess I am extra wary!

mcmum · 19/02/2006 22:05

i dont really trust anyone i dont know tbh, lets face it how many of us would be happy for our kids to trust people from internet chat room - i wudnt, my dh is not keen on my asking personal questions on here but i like having girlie chats and i hav a laugh at some` of threads - not serious ones though - ofcourse !

Callmemadam · 19/02/2006 22:52

ggirl, me too!

Hattie05 · 19/02/2006 22:58

Why do you feel you need to 'trust' anyone you chat to on the net?
Anyone could be anyone, no matter what they tell you, how much you think you trust them etc.

By saying its best to trust the ones you know, what exactly do you mean?

Trust that what they are saying is true?
Trust that if you send them £50 they'll pay you back?

I've been a regular here for three years, but changed my name about 6mths ago (maybe more cannot remember now). I don't think people would realise i'd been here that long, as i don't post an enormous amount, so is it fair to say people won't reply to me as my name isn't widely recognised?

fob · 19/02/2006 23:01

give all us a newbies a chance! it is a bit scary you know!

bourneville · 19/02/2006 23:04

I changed my name once having been posting for a while under my old name, because it was too similar to my real name and I'd been raving about mumsnet to loads of ppl and was afraid of them realising it was me on here iykwim. It's nice to have a place you can talk "privately" esp if it's about something embarrassing or awkward. I felt quite having to let go of my old name esp as other MNers may have got to know me, i suddenly felt anonymous and "new" again!

But tbh there is tons of personal stuff i would love to share/ask advice on that i just don't dare because my situation is too unusual and any rl friends happening upon it would recognise me straight away anyway.

Original poster
Beetroot · 19/02/2006 23:04

i deo give newbies a chance.

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Miaou · 19/02/2006 23:07

Re the "trust" thing:

I have sent/received clothes/toys from other mumsnetters, necessitating giving out my RL address and name
I have knitted a teddy for a mumsnetter who then paid me for doing so.
I have met up with a mumsnetter in RL
I regularly email other mnetters and will probably meet up with at least one of them soon

All of these involve an element of trust. I wouldn't have it any other way though tbh - I do think of (some) mumsnetters as my friends.

Original poster
Beetroot · 19/02/2006 23:11

miauo, i am with you here. I have never given it a thought before. But recenlty I have started to thik that I should be more careful...

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 19/02/2006 23:13

Unless......

So what does a newbie have to do to piss you off then beetroot?