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Drove past my dd walking alongside major road yesterday when she was supposed to be at nursery!

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SwimmingUpHillThroughCustard · 09/02/2006 12:27

dropped her off at 12.30 an went out to try and sort car out(bumped it earlier in day)..driving back up main road to where i live (nothing around it, just a road/Bridge that go's over the river)and i drove past my daughter with another 8 children and 2 carers from her nursery

my point?..firstly she's full of cold and id requested she not play out in playground today, then, there were 9-10 children all under age of 4 with two adults??i am told that they can take 8 each if they want??!!but how to they keep that many children safe walking along a main road?..it only takes one child to bolt and the others are left with one adult with one pair of hands!
Lastly, when i filled in nursery contracts and it came to the bit about 'outings'..i clearly specified that any outing must be first authorised by myself on each and every occasion.

MY GOD..i am so annoyed, upset and shocked by this..am i totally out of order for feeling like this? is this the norm with most places??

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Enid · 09/02/2006 12:30

erm...

I personally think its nice for them to go on the occasional trip. Mine do and they hold onto a rope.

I dont think going outside is going to do her cold any harm. If she is THAT ill then maybe she shouldn't have been at nursery in the first place...

BUT if you had signed something then it was a bit off of the nursery not to check with you first.

Beetroot · 09/02/2006 12:30

agree wit enid. on all points

puddle · 09/02/2006 12:32

I'd talk to the nursery about

  • the fact you'd specified you needed to consent to each trip and
  • levels of supervision - sounds ok inside but not out on a road.
Polgara2 · 09/02/2006 12:33

When dd1 was this age and went out at playgroup we had to have 1 adult to 2 children, ie one in each hand. I would be very annoyed if they had taken her out when you had specifically requested they notify you first though. Are you happy with other aspects of nursery in general?

Clayhead · 09/02/2006 12:34

AFAIK, it has to be a ratio of 1 to 2 with outings from a nursery/Pre-School (3 and 4 year olds).

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SwimmingUpHillThroughCustard · 09/02/2006 12:35

and the fact that they took them to walk along a main road, when there is a well equipt playground as part of nursery as well as a small park not two minutes away is not odd?

by dd said they walked so far, then just walked back, i asked if they sang songs or anything and she said no x & y were talking to eachother about the houses??

and i know we cant keep them wrapped up, but apart from the cold she was ok until last night when she was awake coughing and a trip to gp today says she has developed a chest infection?
ok, not intentional neglegence on their part, but i asked them to keep her in FGS..
so it seems i am seen as being unreasonable wanting to know my child is where i left her?

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oliveoil · 09/02/2006 12:35

hmmmm

Well I am on the other side of the coin and I find it tedious that they have to check with me and get it in writing to take her/the class 100 yards to the park.

But if you have clearly specified otherwise I would phone them and ask for an explanation.

Polgara2 · 09/02/2006 12:38

You're not being unreasonable at all, I was the same, would always want to know if they took her anywhere, fundamental surely. Not everyone has the same viewpoint on things I know but I would feel the same as you.

Enid · 09/02/2006 12:39

sorry dont agree about the chest infection

if she was that poorly and they had to keep her in I presume that would have meant that none of the class would have been able to go on the trip (as she would have needed a carer). If that had happened at dd2s nursery I wuold be cross with the mum for sending someone that sick.

Getting a bit of fresh air will NOT have caused a chest infection.

I dont think my nursery ever asked for permission from me tbh or maybe they did originally and I just said 'whatever'.

littlemissbossy · 09/02/2006 12:45

My DS's preschool had my permission to take him on outings but it was in a pretty rural area, not too much traffic... so I can understand your concerns.
However, you're not going to like me saying this, but perhaps the staff have done this to prove a point i.e. if she's full of cold why take her to nursery in the first place?

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SwimmingUpHillThroughCustard · 09/02/2006 12:48

enid, she wasnt on deaths door, but because we go on holiday next week i wanted to avoid her getting any worse.
there are several other memebers of staff whom where still inside the nursery when she was taken out, so it would not have been a problem here staying in as i requested at dropping her off..so if thats the case..they've just disregarded my wishes altogether so they could do a bit of house hunting taking along a group of bored under 4's with them?
but because i clearly specified i have prior notice of any outings and quite accidentally 'bumoed' into my daughter whilst i was driving along the road, quite a distance from the nursery, i think they have acted terribly..you may disagree

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tissy · 09/02/2006 12:48

also there may have been a point to the trip (I dunno, counting cars, trees looking for red front doors, whatever) that has passed your dd by- my dd(4) often misses the point a bit (head in the clouds) and doesn't know why we're going somewhere

nitfreecod · 09/02/2006 12:49

Mine do and they hold onto a rope.

yp heave ho

Enid · 09/02/2006 12:49

yes I am sure they werent house hunting

probably 'doing' houses or somesuch project

Enid · 09/02/2006 12:49

lol

mine have a rope

I so wish I could see it

harpsichordcarrier · 09/02/2006 12:49

my dds nursery went out to look at houses this week, to talk about the different things the houses were built from (sorry that's lousy grammar) - might htey have beem doing something like this?

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SwimmingUpHillThroughCustard · 09/02/2006 12:50

littlemissbusybody - no they encourage me (and others i assume) to take her when she has a bit of cold as it was so difficult getting dd to settle there, they would rather she be there than upset her by missing a week or something..i would like to think that someone who chose to care for children would not make such a terrible point anyway?

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harpsichordcarrier · 09/02/2006 12:50

and they combined it with the story about the three little pigs
quite clever I thought

oliveoil · 09/02/2006 12:51

dd1 does 'traffic surveys' (read: a group of 3 year olds yelling CAR every now and then and waving a clipboard).

I am sure there was a reason for them being out as tissy says.

Beetroot · 09/02/2006 12:51

if she is that illshe should be at home imo.

alexsmum · 09/02/2006 12:51

wouldn't class that as a 'trip'-just going for a walk.which you would do if you were looking after her at home?
and if sick, should be at home.

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SwimmingUpHillThroughCustard · 09/02/2006 12:52

sorry, i may well have missed the reason they were lookng at houses, but when i asked about the outing on collecting dd, they didnt say any such thing, just that they went out for fresh air?..but the playground is right outside the dorr?..the park 2 minutes away..the library 10 minutes away, but along a safe pedestrianised lane??

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SwimmingUpHillThroughCustard · 09/02/2006 12:54

to re-iterate - she is not 'that ill'..she has cold and as we are going abroad next week didnt want it to get worse and spoil her fun..there is plenty to do indoors and more than enough 'teachers' to leave her in the nursery

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misdee · 09/02/2006 12:54

'but because we go on holiday next week i wanted to avoid her getting any worse. ' should've kept her home then.

nitfreecod · 09/02/2006 12:55

hate wingeing about nusrery threads