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quod

both my cousin and OHs cousin got married the weekend after my due date

it was good as we had good reason to refuse both invites (both weddings 4 + hours away from here and 2 hours away from each other)

it also meant that we had a lovely first weekend with just us.... and no family, because all our families were at the weddings.

PERFECT!!!!!!!!

Ooh, tricky....erm...

I guess the thing to do is to tell them that, whilst you will make every effort to attend, they shouldn't expect you to have any role in the wedding and to understand that there may be a situation where it is not possible for EITHER of you to be there! You can't really ask/expect them to change the date (which of course you wouldnt do coz you are far too lovely) so if it was me I would make sure they know that that's not what you want them to do!

Glad the doctors appt went well, sounds very thorough! Always find it incredible how the system is so different depending where you live or even who your doctor is!!

Nannyl the thing is we would really want to go, DP and his brother are pretty close. And I would be surprised if DP wasn't asked to be heavily involved or best man, in an ideal world. Bebe we have said we don't expect them to move it, and that we would come if there is any way we could (luckily it is local so no huge trip or anything). Thinking about it, unless I was actually in labour DP could go. But it's the unknown of it all - plus the extra stress for DP's parents who are quite heavily involved in the wedding planning and I imagine will want to be pretty involved with us too!! It just could all be a bit nerve-wracking nearer the time if it all goes off at once!

Any progress Quod? Hope they can move it a few weeks forward or back. If not, as you say it's pretty likely your DP will be able to at least make an appearance. What rotten timing!

They've decided to leave it where it is. Slightly annoying attitude now of our pg being an inconvenience around which we must crisis-manage so as not to disturb the wedding! DBil has insisted that he should be there when DP shares the news with his parents next week (which he has been really looking forward to) 'so that we can work out how we are going to deal with the wedding' . Can't it just be unadulterated good news just for a little bit?! Maybe me being a grumpy pregnant lady but I think it's gone a bit too far in the direction of us being accommodating now!

There was also an undertone of us being a bit unreasonable for not forewarning them that we might get pregnant before they got to arranging it! Given that they got engaged the same weekend we conceived and have booked the wedding with lightening speed I don't feel like we've been particularly unreasonable about not sharing the news earlier!

How ridiculous! We canvassed our proposed wedding dates with our close relatives before we made the final booking, just in case they had other plans. But you can't expect people to do that when TTC a baby!

How completely ludicrous! As IF you would consult them about TTC!! Its not like you could say to them when they got engaged 'Congratulations, but don't be planning anything 9months from now because we are going to go and have unprotected sex tonight with the hopes of making you an Uncle'! I agree with AC we checked our wedding date with our nearest and dearest before we confirmed anything with venues. Totally rubbish timing for all this shenanigans! You poor thing, put your feet up and have a hot chocolate or something equally yummy

To be honest I think they got in a flap, found a venue they liked that only had a couple of available dates and just went for it.

Pretty sure we got in there with the conception a whisker ahead of their engagement but not sure I'm going to bring that up!

Er guys is this right - minipie has had her baby? Three weeks ago at 34 weeks - and obviously she's in the SCBU. I just saw a post by her in breast and bottle feeding.

Have I missed a post by her? Where is the [terrible friend] emoticon?

wow, never new MP had had her baby

agh quod.... well hopefully baby will be here by the wedding, and you can go as one big happy family.

things arnt great here..... officially another HG pregnancy nightmare.

i saw the dr Fri, Sat, Mon, phone Tues, Wed, midwife today, dr tomo. basically in the evening im managing to keep down a tiny amount of food drink which is just about keeping me out of hospital..... but during the day i vomit everything and feel horrendous.... just taking things day by day

my mum has stayed this week so i havent had to do anything but i dread her going on monday as i will have 4 days to get through by myself. (she has to go, its her aunts 90th birthday party) she will come back the following week, thankfully.

otherwise no real news, i have done nothing and gone no where except my bathroom and the drs!

Oh Nannyl you poor thing :(

I didn't know about Minipie either, maybe she's been too caught up in SCBU to come on MN much. Hope they are both doing well. She wasn't expecting an early delivery from what I remember?

Bebe it would have to have been "if you want to book anything that will require our presence on a particular date it will need to be either a date within the next 8 months - alternatively await monthly TTC updates."

Nannyl that's bad news, you have my complete sympathy. I've had terrible sickness the last few days. I think I had a bug cause it's cleared up completely but while it lasted it was absolutely ghastly and I was miserable. My mum was looking after me too. Hope you cope alone while you have to x

Maybe we should have sent out embossed 'possibly hold the date' cards on naice stationery to our nearest and dearest. 'Mr and Mrs Quodlibet Kindly Inform You That They Are Henceforth Having Unprotected Intercourse With The Intention Of Procuring An Infant, (hopefully to arrive in July 2013 or possibly any month after that)'

Actually maybe there is a gap in the market...

Is it really ever ok to be having sex and not warning people though? No contraception is 100% effective.

Mr New DP and Ms New DP Kindly Inform You That They Are Henceforth Having PIV Intercourse Which may or may not Result in the Conception of an Infant at any Time from [9 months from now] Onwards.

You would need a business card version as well obviously..

The Birth even!

Hello stranger - welcome back! I wouldn't worry about just chipping in whenever you have time Whywait, I guess we all have less time on our hands now we're not just sitting about desolately crossing off the days till we could TTC #1! Can't believe your LO is a year old! A whole year of parenting is such a lovely achievement, looking back on all those milestones. Have a great day tomorrow.

I'm now 26 weeks and starting to feel uncomfortable - which is worrying as I obviously still have a long way to go! Thank goodness it's not twins! [mischievous]

Morning everyone! Happy birthday Teddy!!

Went to visit my friend's newborn yesterday - I think seeing an actual real life baby gave DH and I quite the reality check! We spent the rest of the night exchanging nervous laughs and looking up how to make up formula on the Internet!

Welcome back Whywait, how has your first year treated you?

I have just spent 5 days with my sister and her 16wk old - seeing the 'round the clock' care has made me nervous too AC. All of a sudden the pg is evidently going to result in an actual small person!

My MS has ramped up a gear (although Im sure what I have is extremely mild compared to poor Nannyl) and has made me feel pretty ick for the last couple of days - got quite a full on working week this week and a bit worried that it'll be a problem.

Oh wow 5 days - we were only there an hour! I had a little hold of the baby, it was funny to have one wriggling on the inside and one on the outside. It will be great when they are tearing about together.

Sorry to hear the MS has got you. Those first few weeks are horrible. Don't fancy a repeat any time soon.

So I've got my scan appointment through for Xmas eve! Hurrah! I am so pleased to have it done before the holidays. Booking in appt on the 15 December too.

In other news - I put an offer in on a house on Monday. DP hasn't even seen it but there was a mad rush for it and I think it's a goodun. Waiting to hear back from the agent today once the vendor has deliberated her many many offers - cross your fingers for me.

Nannyl I saw on another thread that you are really not well . Sending good wishes and hugs your way.

Does anyone have an update on minipie?

hello all

waves to whywait

great that you have got your scan quod.... what a wonderful date to have it

I have no real news..... just very very sick again

my mum has gone home this week.... DD has gone to nursery for the mornings.... i collect her at 12.45, bring her back for a nap (until 3) then just have 2 hours to get through with her.
how i feel changes hourly.... occasionaly i dont feel too bad.... more often i feel ill, or horrendous. Luckily OH looks after DD and gets her to nursery so i dont have to get up until i feel i can (normally about 10ish) and i have another nap when she does.
i have the same problem as last time.... I am averse to just about every food and drink that there is..... its a nightmare as i force myself to eat knowing i will just vomit it..... i havent eaten a meal for 3.5 weeks now.... and im sure that is also making me very very tired.... i figure if a well person didnt eat for weeks they would feel bad, just because..... grrr, sorry will shut up moaming now

hoping it will get better after Christmas

Minipie has posted on the premature babies thread that she is now home with her DD. It sounds like things are going well albeit it's early days.

Any news on the house, Quod? House hunting in London is pretty mental, up here in Bradford the housing market is moving like a lazy slug but my dsis was looking for an affordable two bed flat in the City and they were pretty much selling as they were looking round them. She did find a lovely place in the end after a lot of searching, and it seems to have already gone up in value since they bought it earlier this year! So it's a great place to buy.

Nannyl sorry to hear you are feeling so crappy. Don't worry about moaning 'tis the stuff WIIT threads are made of! Anyway you are entitled it sounds horrendous. How is dd liking nursery?