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Let's convince Countess Dracula that it won't be so bad moving out of London

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Beetroot · 08/02/2006 17:28

Trying to think of somethign good to say
No really it is great, after you have got used to it.

People go to pubs more....

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Beetroot · 08/02/2006 22:00

yes, i did it becasue dh wanted to and in the end thought i was being selfsih by not doing it. Hated hated it while in the cuntry. Don't mind, infact enjoy living in the=is wee city

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Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:02

PS: Part of your job as parents is to bring your kids up in a terribly dull place so that they have to go out into the big world and make their fortunes...

PPS: Also if you grow up in teh country then your teenage experience is more varied, music, fashion, boys whilst if you grow up in London then you can specialise much too early. I had London mates who only knew anything about one sort of music - if that makes sense.

CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 22:04

ooh yes that does thanks

Beety I am kind of doing it for that reason but will prob go for small town not proper cuntry as you know

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Beetroot · 08/02/2006 22:04

very true Klaus

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Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:07

I am so happy here, I have a double whammy as I have moved back to the area where I grew up - same schools even, where I swore I would never return. But actually it has changed, the town is full of london emigrees.

I do have one word of caution - beware of commuting, that is the one downside. It maybe you already have that as your DH is a lawyer. But we never saw my dad and that takes a toll on the family, though that could have just been my parents

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Beetroot · 08/02/2006 22:08

where are you Klaus

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Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:14

~Guildford

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Beetroot · 08/02/2006 22:15

aha, that si almost London

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CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 22:18

Klauz same here is the area wher eI grew up, but dh has been offered a good well paid job there, I was goingt o commute but tbh we can have good lifestyle on his job as we won't need to buy property in expesive commuter area

Issymum · 08/02/2006 22:19

Guildford! Guildford can not be the country - I live there. If you close your eyes whilst heading down the A3, Guildford is just an extension of Fulham/Wimbledon/Richmond....

Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:20

Do it, do it - you could always rent and keep London pad if it all goes wrong.

Where would you be moving to?

My DP doesn't work in London which makes it great, he mostly works from home.

Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:21

Ok point taken, then in that case I would never move to the country - the thought of living in the real country with farms and paddocks fills me with dread.

Issymum · 08/02/2006 22:24

But I'm pleased to hear your so happy in Guildford Klauz. I'm a little bit more ambivalent, but I work full time (3 days in London), so although DD1 is also in Reception I don't feel grounded here yet.

Issymum · 08/02/2006 22:26

But, to get back to CD's dilemma, on balance, I wouldn't go back to London.

Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:28

Yes, being able to get involved with fundraising for the school has meant that I get to know loads of people. Also I know people in the same road !! In London I was lucky if my friends were on the same tube line.

Thats enough of my rather sickening parade of happiness. In my defence its been a long time coming.

CD, it does sound like you have made your choice.

Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:29

Just to check you are not DD1 is not at PD is she?

Issymum · 08/02/2006 22:31

No. We're in the catchment area for PD, I know parents with children there and we came within a whisker of sending her there, but pulled out at the last moment and sent her to a school on the other side of Guildford (cf a long and agonised thread on the subject..). I'm still not sure that we did the right thing and that we should have sent her to PD.

Klauz33 · 08/02/2006 22:35

Thats probably the reason why we got in as we only moved into our house in July so were first on the waiting list. We only found out that we got in two weeks before the end of the summer term.

Sorry for the thread hijack CD

ks · 08/02/2006 22:41

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moondog · 08/02/2006 22:42

Why should the equality within your relationship change???
I can put my hand on my heart and say if anything,dh is more respectful towards me as he knows how relentless it is being at home with two small children.

CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 23:02

I mean financial equality

we have always earned the same and split our payments in half

uwila · 08/02/2006 23:19

CD, can I have the job you are ditching?

Another pro: shorter drive to Dover for a quick ferry ride over to France for the day -- assuming you like northern France.

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2006 23:22

CD you know I used to worry about that too
I always earned more than DH and got a lot of my self esteem from earning money
or so I thought
until I stopped and I didn't give a Sh1t....
for us, it was only a problem if we made it a problem
we are still the same people
part of the same family
put in this way - I woujldn't respect dh any less if he stopped earning money, and I know he feels the same
and I certainly don't respect myself any less
everything is just shared

CountessDracula · 08/02/2006 23:27

no nor would I (if dh didn't) I just worry that as we have never experienced this it could be an issue...

brimfull · 08/02/2006 23:45

why would dd become a drug addict??

I live in country,have a teen dd,she is not a drug addict and neither are any of her friends.There is plenty of activities for kids if you look.

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