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would you still have children

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jco · 03/02/2006 22:35

here's a question for you ladies, In your next life would you still have children if you could remember your experience of motherhood from this life?????

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Tortington · 04/02/2006 00:10

mee too - much later

Tortington · 04/02/2006 00:10

and just one

sparklymieow · 04/02/2006 00:11

oh yes, i would only have 1 child.

sobernow · 04/02/2006 00:18

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Tortington · 04/02/2006 00:18

a new one - cant choose.

sparklymieow · 04/02/2006 00:20

new one too. I couldn't choose between my kids now. I love my kids and they are all different. But knowing what i know now, I would have done things difference

hunkermunker · 04/02/2006 00:24

Yes. But oh, just got weepy thinking that in a future life I wouldn't have my two DSs, they'd be some other children Am still rather hormonal though!

But I wish I hadn't been told I'd never have children four years before I got pregnant, because it kind of weighed on my mind

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Meanoldmummy · 04/02/2006 00:33

so far.....definitely. In fact my life would be considerably easier, because I would know for certain that nothing else was as important or as incredible as having children, and that all the agonising about career advancement and self-definition and body image was a load of old hogwash

ghosty · 04/02/2006 01:31

Yes, but I would marry a billionnaire so that I could have a full time live in nanny, a personal trainer and liposuction

eidsvold · 04/02/2006 09:23

yes BUT would have started earlier although I did not meet dh until a few months before I got pregnant with dd1 so guess I would have needed to meet him earlier too.

mszebra · 04/02/2006 10:05

honestly don't know

LoveMyGirls · 04/02/2006 10:22

i would def still have my children (dd1 - 6 and dd2 - 4mths) but i would have had them a bit later although i dont think i would have liked them to have a smaller age gap... its a hard one i wish id been able to have more freedom before i had my children. i was 16 when i got pregnant so had only been left school about 6 months and i was still controlled by my parents so i've never had full freedom without worrying about anyone except me. i would really like that sometimes.
i have excellent support from friends and family so i get the odd weekend here and there but its not the same and i will never know adult life without children/ responsibility. i love being at home with my children though they are beautiful and im amazed everytime i look at them.

ssd · 04/02/2006 10:27

yes, and I'd have had them at the same age and stuck at 2!

freshstart · 04/02/2006 10:27

i would have started later

megandsoph · 04/02/2006 10:29

yes but later.

cori · 04/02/2006 10:31

I would definetly and would probably start younger and have more (if i was richer that is). I had DS when I was 32.

veuveclicquot · 04/02/2006 10:44

Yes. Having DD is the best thing I've ever done in my life by a long shot. I've earned 6 figure salaries and lived all over the world, but my DD is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I want another but DP won't let me. Nothing can compare with having your own child/ren.

harpsichordcarrier · 04/02/2006 10:47

god yes
but would make the most of those child free years.....

mousie · 04/02/2006 16:27

well, i wish i could say yes definitely. i guess i wouldn't be without them now, but god the exhaustion. weekends are the worst. I would have had them, maybe a bit later (though i was in my thirties anyway!) and definitely would have had a bigger gap - mine are less than two years apart. I would also have kept workign I think. Being a sahm (partly result of having them close) has absolutely done my head in and getting back to work not as easy or obvious as it should be.
i think i have definitely put off a lot of my single friends from having kids! but think that is no bad thing especially in the cases where it isn't an option (either fertility troubles or man troubles). this is a bit negative, but it take it the question was meant to be answered honestly...

meggmoo · 04/02/2006 16:27

No question it would be a big fat yes. Timing would be different that's all.

FrayedKnot · 04/02/2006 16:31

Funny isn't it how the younger Mums say they would have started later but the (ahem) older Mums would have started earlier!

Grass is alwasy greener I suppose.

For various reasons it took 7 years for me to persuade DH to try for DS and another 2 to have him, so I feel that we wasted some time.

However I had got to the stage where I had done lots of "me" things in life and I was wondering what my purpose here was iyswim.

Meanoldmummy · 04/02/2006 16:34

yes, but I would want them to be the same children

juuule · 04/02/2006 18:25

Oh, absolutely.

JoolsToo · 04/02/2006 18:29

all you mums saying you would start earlier - I can tell you I'm glad I did start early - even if it was more of an accident than planned