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would you still have children

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jco · 03/02/2006 22:35

here's a question for you ladies, In your next life would you still have children if you could remember your experience of motherhood from this life?????

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festiveface · 03/02/2006 23:17

what is it you enjoy?

theres stuff i love but i find it all a big stress and a worry alot of the time

WestCountryLass · 03/02/2006 23:18

Of course!

Aloha · 03/02/2006 23:19

Their lovely faces. The way they cuddle you. The very interesting take they have on life. They way they fill up your life at a point (for me) when it might be getting rather dull. Their sheer beauty and goodness and newness. The interesting new skills they develop every day.

Of course it's sometimes exhausting and grim and irritating and pushes you to the limit, but the love keeps me going - just!

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:19

agree festiveface big time stress

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:20

why did my asterisks not make it bold

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waterfalls · 03/02/2006 23:21

I would just rather not come back at all, when I go I truly wanna RIP

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:21

i'm not asking if you would still ahve the kids you have now, of course we all adore our babies. but wouldn't you just like a life thats all for you!!!

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waterfalls · 03/02/2006 23:22
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Aloha · 03/02/2006 23:23

No, I don't want a life that's all for me. In fact, having children makes me want to live more for their sake if that makes sense. Of course I'd like a few days just for me, but not a whole life. That sounds lonely.

moondog · 03/02/2006 23:23

jco..you need to asterisk every word.

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:24

REST!!! PEACE!!! what do those words mean!!!!

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Caligula · 03/02/2006 23:24

I think also the sense of achievement and perspective. I agree they're a big stress and worry most of the time, but they also put all the other big stresses and worries I've ever had into perspective. Bosses, obby shopkeepers, late trains, tiresome events, pale into insignificance besides the worries I have about my children. And make it easier for me to cope with day to day life.

Some tosser London Underground bloke/ dodgy plumber/ road-rage van driver simply pales into insignificance after you've handled a tantrum in Safeways by a two year old. You feel like you can handle anything if you've dealt with that effectively.

onefootinthegravy · 03/02/2006 23:24

I've forgotten about my previous life - it seems such a distant memory - what DID I used to do with all my time???
But definately would do it again!!

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:25

ta moondog

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:25

hey i did it!!!!!

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Miaou · 03/02/2006 23:28

hehehe .... I did start early and I am having more...and I would do it all again too!

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:31

i feel like a mean old mum!!

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paolosgirl · 03/02/2006 23:48

Definintely! I'd have gone for the third - we lost our 3rd, and I wish now I'd got pregnant again. Now DH is 43 and I'm 37, and I sort of feel we're getting too old.

Tortington · 03/02/2006 23:56

i would make sure i had money first. and i would opt to be comatose for the first 5 years. or as its imaginary land i would have them delivered to me already 5 years old.

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jco · 03/02/2006 23:58

custardo, i have a five year old you can have, i'll send him round in a taxi!!!

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pebblemum · 04/02/2006 00:04

Jco has a point. I love my kids and would have some in another life but would start later

I had ds1 when i was 19, became a single parent at 20, met dh when i was 22, got married at 24, and had DS2 at 25, i'm now 28. It feels that for the past 10yrs I have put my dreams aside and although i love my children i wish i had lived a little before starting a family. I've always wanted to travel but when you have kids you have to arrange holidays that they will have fun on, driving acoss America would not suitable for my boys. I know I can do all this later when they are all grown up but i worry that by then i will be too old to do half the things i want. Reading this back i sound really selfish but im not really, i just have a few regrets thats all but i am happy with what i have got and wouldnt change my boys for the world.

I expect if i had waited until now to start a family I would be saying the complete opposite, wishing i had started earlier

Tortington · 04/02/2006 00:04

deal, i'll do a swap for my pre pubescent twins - or a stoner 16 year old

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jco · 04/02/2006 00:06

errr actually custardo think i'll stick with my 5 year old!! teenagers scare me!!!

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sparklymieow · 04/02/2006 00:08

Yes I would have kids again, but later, i had Ds at 18, DD1 at 21 and dd2 at 22.