Earings on younger boys, yes or no?

[Blandmum]

on lads less than 16?
Yes or no?

Better or worse than on girls?

I wouldn't personally choose this look for boys but think when they get old enough, I would let them choose. It's just another way of expressing individuality. Now trying to work out when 'old enough' would be.

no different to girls imho
I would have thought 11/12 would be the right age to choose

I don't like it at all - worse than girls. It shouldnt' be any different to girls really,I know that, but somehow it is. Social conventions I guess!

Saw a little boy in a pushchair the other day with a diamond stud in one ear. I'm not sure if he looked like a thug but he certainly looked ridiculous.

DH had one for a few years in his early-mid 20's. However, he had to take it out in order to be taken seriously in his profession (city/finance). Whilst I wouldn't worry too much about DSs having one done after they're 16 (say) I think I'd like them to take it out before they try to get a job!

I think it is probably what you're usd to, like everything else
it was very common when I was growing up
boys used to do it with hot needles to prove how 'ard they were
I wouldn't think twice if I saw a man with one

I'm not think about them on men, more on boys under 14?

Don't really see how you can do this to express your individuality if 'they all do it'.

But this sort of thing is often about expressing differences from adults or other youth groups, isn't it? Oh great I sound like a vicar trying to be down wiv da kids now...

Whether it's right or wrong, the truth is that society views male children with earings as thugs. I would not like to put that upon a child by allowing him to 'chose' to have his ears pierced at a young age. As mothers our role is to guide our kids and this is one thing that imo kids need a bit of help with.

See your point. I suppose on of the things that worries me is that the 'difference' that they are trying to highlight often means 'I don't want to work, and you are not going to make me'.

Not always, you understand, but lots of them.

Nope - don't like earrings on young children at all - male or female. It worries me when I see six month old babies with earrings which they cannot possibly understand and will at some point have a go at removing. Scary.

Once they are old enough to understand and ask it becomes a more debatable issue. My 5 year olkd niece has earrings which she wanted and asked for. Don't think I could have taken her though. Would have wimped out and said - ask me next year.

My sister and I saw a lad once with a pair of ripped jeans, 4 earrings, a nose ring, a german army jacket, a basball cap, army boots with no laces, shaved head with a little green tuft...blah, blah...and a T-shirt saying "I demand my right to be different".

I hate earrings on boys or men.

In fact, I've just realised, I hate all jewellery on men. A wedding ring and a watch is about my limit.

I bought dh a celtic cross made of mother-of-pearl on a leather string. I hunted everywhere for one that wouldn't look like horrible tacky bling-bling male jewellery. I vastly prefer the goth pierced look to the gold-dripping drug-dealer look - but on the whole I'm not much for either of them.

Oh I'd forgotten goths. For some reason I don't mind jewellery on them. But that's because I discount them as objects of sexual attraction, iyswim, and look at them as aesthetic creatures instead.

no no no no no

NO

to answer MB's original question

Caligula, you have described my goth sixth former to a tee!

Nice kid, great fun

I don't mind 'rebelion' in older kids....goes with the teritory I think. Worries me in younger kids I think.

I have a bot of a soft spot for the geeky goths with piercings (used to be a bit of one myself ), but the idea that you would let a child 'chose' to have his ears pierced is allowing them to be seen as a thug or a cave - and as an adult and parent I have to ask why on earth you would want that? Martian's point was spot on.

chav not cave - obviously!

On boys? NO!

On men? Well, I suppose some can pull it off.

...so to speak.

I have seen toddler boys with earrings. Hate it, worse than girls.

Earings on any male old or young baby or oap NO NO NO

Dont mind earings on male or female tbh, but I guess its down to that old chestnut, how old should your kids be before you 'mutilate' them.

NO NO NO NO to boys

Yes on girls over 13yrs. (Guess what age i got my ears pierced?!)