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Just saw a 4 month old baby get her ears pierced - why????

216 replies

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 18/01/2006 15:48

Why on earth would you get your babies ears pierced???

Woman walks into Claires Acessories with her 16 week old baby and asks how old they have to be to get her ears done. Answer 4 months but must have had her jabs. Ok mom replies, lets do it.

Poor screaming baby has pain inflicted on her uneccesarily so mum can show off her oh so fashoinable baby.

Why????

I was so [shocked]

I could never cause my baby undue pain and discomfort. What makes people do this??

OP posts:
Meanoldmummy · 21/01/2006 01:17

JennyLee. How about a truce? I don't enjoy ill-feeling. I'll accept that you didn't mean any harm, if you accept that I wasn't just hounding you for fun, I genuinely took offence. Lets put it down to a misunderstanding and move on. What do you think?

Pisces · 21/01/2006 01:31

Children are not dolls. I think it is all a question of class and intellect.

Some Mum's consider it cool.

Let's make baby trendy and cool......... Whats up today, shall we get a free home for having a baby? Shall we not "bover" to work when we can get benefits?

Let's spend the benefits on getting baby's ears pierced. I feel like "somethink" to do! And I am sure it will make her more cute!

You have just got to feel sorry for those with the lower intellect and even more sorry for the children they are dragging up.

JenJam · 21/01/2006 01:37

haven't read the all of the posts, only the first 30 or so...

but i've read enough to feel very sorry and sad that a beautiful little girl has been 'gilded' unnecessarily, probably by an ignorant and stupid person

not against earrings per se, but am against mixing up dependents and accessories

also think the cultural argument is a load of old cobblers.

chav culture

makes me feel ill

nightowl · 21/01/2006 01:47

excuse me pisces. i take great offence to your last remark.

"Let's make baby trendy and cool......... Whats up today, shall we get a free home for having a baby? Shall we not "bover" to work when we can get benefits?"

how dare you.

i for the record, have a two year old dd and an 8 year old ds, neither of whom have any part of their body pierced.

and i claim benefits at present. i also live in a council property.

ive worked hard all of my life and am only claiming benefit because i got made redundant, i only have a council house because i couldnt afford to keep my mortgage on. anyone on here could suddenly find themselves in the same situation and i hope you are always fortunate enough to not find yourself amongst us benefit scroungers. may you never take a fall, god forbid that you would ever need some help to keep afloat.

nightowl · 21/01/2006 01:50

oh and please put your apostrophes in the right place dear.

dadofthree · 21/01/2006 01:53

ditto

sparklymieow · 21/01/2006 01:56

I actually took offence to this one

You have just got to feel sorry for those with the lower intellect and even more sorry for the children they are dragging up.

Because I have piercings and I allowed my 5 year old to have her ears pierced (not her nose or belly FFS) I am of lower intellect and am dragging up my kids. I will have you know that I have 3 kids, yes I am on benifits because my husband isn't allowed to work, due to a knee injury, we are in a no win situation, benifits want him back to work, the consulant refuses to sign him back to work. I have 2 disabled kids, who need me to drive them about to school, appointments and carers, as their dad has been banned from driving by his doctor. I am not thick and I am not dragging up my kids. I do the best I can for them, and its hard work, just because I have allowed my 5 year old to have her ears pierced doesn't make me lower than low and I did take offence.

nightowl · 21/01/2006 01:58

ok, we should be calm. because it was obviously said for a reaction. i shouldnt have risen to it. very sore subject with me.

sparklymieow · 21/01/2006 01:59

me too nightowl

Mytwopenceworth · 21/01/2006 02:01

deep breath sparkly! xx

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:01

i just love the way we get branded sparkly. why should we have to keep explaining ourselves all of the time?!!!!!!

sparklymieow · 21/01/2006 02:02
sparklymieow · 21/01/2006 02:03

its always the way, isn't it. Someone starts on ear piercing, and then its turns to benifits, and us 'free loaders'

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:04

{{{picturing my yoga class right now}}}}

calm, calm.

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:05

oh everything always turns to benefits i find. its a no win situation. doesn't matter why we claim them. we are scroungers obviously.

BadgerBadger · 21/01/2006 02:07

Pisces, luckily despite the fact I'm currently on benefits and therefore obviously of a disadvantaged social 'class' and undoubtedly lacking in intellect (could go on about how I came to be on benefits but don't really feel the need to justify myself to anyone!), I am aware that children aren't dolls, though many thanks for your clarity on this point.

I would not allow (assuming I have a choice) my children to be pierced until they are over 16. When they are over 16 and if they choose to have piercings I will encourage them to go to a responsible and experienced piercer, my piercer if possible!

If they approach me prior to the age of 16 and request a piercing; I will grab the largest, nastiest looking needle I can find in my sewing box and tell them I'll do it whenever they want, whilst holding aforementioned needle, poised for action.
I would imagine this will deter them for a further couple of years

sparklymieow · 21/01/2006 02:08

I actually thought the benifit system was there as a 'safety net' yes people do defraud the system and I don't agree with that, but please don't brand us all with the same brush. Some people are on benifits for a good reason, and I, for one, can't wait for DH to get back to work, one reason is that we are worse off now.

BadgerBadger · 21/01/2006 02:10

lol, about three thousand posts posted while I was dithering on!

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:15

sparkly, i dont know about you but most of the people i know on benefit have good reason for being there. i have yet to meet a woman who "got up the duff" just to get a house. really annoying. sadly there are far too many people willing to judge. like i said, anyone could suddenly find themself having to claim, they should think about that.

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:17

i notice pisces hasn't come back to defend herself

BadgerBadger · 21/01/2006 02:17

sparklymieow and nightowl, too right! The thing about high horses is ~ it's a long and hard fall from the back of one

dadofthree · 21/01/2006 02:18

Wasn't going to post but aol wanted to restart itself. Its not just women, I've been a single parent for ages and although used to be an engineer, am now seen as scrounger even tho I work part time - stopped caring of course.

sparklymieow · 21/01/2006 02:22

I got my first council flat when i was 18, I wasn't pregnant and I didn't have a kid. I got the flat because my parents house was overcrowded and they moved me out (the council not my parents) I didn't expect to get a place for many many years. Dh worked from aged 16 till 2 years ago, when he was signed off and still is signed off. I worked up till I was pregnant with my 2nd child, when we found out that DS was disabled and need 24 hours care and attention. I found out DD1 was disabled when she was 13 months old. My dd2 was born 2 years before DH was signed off. He has always provided for us, and it took a long time for him to adjust to being at home. I am planning to get a part time job in sept when Dd2 starts full time school, because I am fed up with being on benifits.

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:22

good for you dadofthree! i have to admit, im so tired of not being worthy of someone's time. feeling like scum etc. you watch, there will be someone along saying we shouldnt have internet because we dont deserve it if we claim benefits!

nightowl · 21/01/2006 02:29

sparkly, dont explain yourself to that woman. you dont need to. im looking for a job also but it doesnt matter to people like her. they are blinkered. it doesnt matter what we say, until she's been in that position it wont make a scrap of difference to how she thinks.

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