GP has just diagnosed Littlemad with Autism, on an appt about sinusitis

[LizaTarbucksAuntie]

Littlemad is down with a virus.

Against my better judgement I took him to the Doctors this morning (recently a doctor at this practice refused to accept me saying I was stressed not depressed and sent me away to ask my husband what he thought)

Anyway, GP pokes a digital thermometer at littlemad who rightly (in my opinion) goes 'what are you doing with that?'

Gp says: Does he ALWAYS behave like this? I say no, he's poorly this is out of character...he says hmm and he made a fuss about having his eyes tested didn't he? Have you had any tests done on him? His implication was littlemad has behavioural problems although he then refused to say what sort of test he meant...

I bristle a little to be fair and say no Gpd says, but he's very 'difficult' isnt he. Now Littlemad is a darling and fairly quirky, he's very bright and gets quite focused on things.

Neither he nor I have slept much for the best part of a week.

Now I'm not going 'he's so perfect he can't possibly be autistic' but there is a time and a place for having a conversation of that kind and it's not:

1. the first time you have met us
2. During a consultation about SOMETHING else
3. APPROPRIATE UNLESS I'VE ASKED FOR YOUR ADVICE

Am very cross.

really, very cross, if I wasn't so tired I'd be dangerous me :)

Tell you what though it does make me feel like buggering off, because if you're just talking to someone, and you don't make yourself clear or you have just misjudged something you can clear it up, but here, 12 hours later people were still chewing over that first error and being judgy and downright unpleasant because for some reason they couldn't let the bee in their bonnets go despite anyhting I said.

Needless to say this comment doesn't apply to the large number of very patient and generous people who were really helpful to me yesterday both on here and with PM's but there is a pack mentality and I saw the phrase professionally offended on here the other day.

For all the people who were supportive, thanks very, very much, especially for the wine and chocolates.

I do believe there were some posting on that thread who had no interest in your views and just enjoyed seeing you react..I reported one to MN last night in fact

Thanks Fanjo, yes, reading it back I can see that.

I hope I provided the entertainment they were after.

Thanks for the they look very nice on my windowsill

Liza some of how you appear to be reacting to the GP reminded me of when I was in a similar situation with my son but with his school rather than our GP. I am not sure if it will help but I am posting a link to my thread at the time: here it is. Sometimes people have a strange way of trying to help because they don't know if they are right nor do they know how we are going to react.

Here are some more and hope the DS is getting better.

Really, some doctors are only doctors because they were good at maths.

Aw thanks mathanxiety, he's up and down.

Sis thanks for that I'm sure it may be helpful following the meeting on Monday and I'll be sure to refer to it then. I appreciate your efforts in locating it and linking to it.

Just a short update - I took LM to school this morning and mentioned it to his teacher, she looked very surprised and said he's the last child in the class she would describe as having behavioural problems.

She suggested that 2 incidents of LM acting up during medical interventions was not providing an overall picture of his day to day behaviour.

So now I am looking forward to my appointment on Tuesday at the Surgery.

:) Liza :)