Should we change her name....

[aloha]

No, not her much debated first name!
When we were deciding what to call dd ds really, really wanted her to be called Edie. In the end we went for a totally different firstname, with Frances as her middle name (it's my middle name and my grandmother's name). But we told ds that she could have Edie as a middle name as he was so upset, but never officially called her Baby Edie Frances Surname. But dd is now nine months old and Ds still tells everyone that she has four names - Baby EDIE Frances Surname. And he is very proud of it. I feel racked with guilt that we didn't give her the name and think it is so sweet that ds really wanted to help name her (he loves her very much).
Dh thinks I am insane. But then he thought that ds would forget all about the name business in a matter of weeks!).
What do you think? Am I mad and should just leave it, or get the form and add another middle name?

Are you adding it or replacing Frances?

Won't he get over it eventually

Just call her that, I don't have an official middle name but when I was christened I was given one which I use. Or can't Edie just be his pet name for her?

Must confess to thinking of changing dd's middle name to Fairy not Mary as she refuses to acknowlege that it is Mary and everyone calls her that anyway!

i hate to do this

but I agree with cod

he doesnt need to feel that responsible for her

he's her brother not her dad

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Id change it officially - ignore cod and Enid!

My friend's DD wanted to call the new baby Jesus - got close, he was Joe.

I agree with sobernow. I don't believe in pandering at all, but this isn't and I think it is really sweet that aloha is thinkign about making it formal.

It may well be insane, but what on earth would be the matter with that?

Edie is a LOVELY name, and if DS loves his sister, why shouldn't he be part of naming her?

DH already knows what you are like - change her name!

Aaaah!

Enid and Cod you are the most miserable pair of pinched-faced bats I have ever come across! Pandering! it isn't as if Ds wants to call the child cheese-grater or limescale. Alohas ds thinks the child is called that, Aloha is consumed with love for DS and DD, and this is a way to bring it togethre.

God, is giving your child an egg boiled rather than raw because it like it that way 'pandering'? Get a grip!

Funny reading all these messages.

You only get one go at bringing up kids and you cant rewind the clock. Just do what feels right and ignore all advice, my kids have loads of nick names (we change them almost weekly) and have lots of fun thinking up silly names.

Sounds like you have a wonderful son and you should adopt any good ideas he comes up with. My son is 15 and halps me out tremendously with new baby sister.

i told my son three at the time that the girlt win was going to be a bethany - then i thought its an ugly name if shes an ugly kid - which happens y'know, so he still called her bethany and i had to tell him the name was different. he isn't mentally scared or anything. except for when he screams in the night beeeeeeeeeeethannnnnnnnnnnyyyyyyyyyyy. onyl joking.

its a really nice thing to do if you can be bothered and if its bothering you. i personally would just keep it in an informal capacity.

Do it - I presume that you only have until she is a year old?

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I agree, it is a lovely thing to do and not pandering at all. In fact as far as I see it, it is the only thing you can do to put things right, now you have told him that is her middle name. If you were going to put your foot down because you didn't like the name, the time to do it would have been when she was born. If ds finds out later you have lied to him, I think he will be totally justified in being very upset.

I think it's spot on of you to take his feelings seriously, and hope dh comes to appreciate your sense of justice and fair play!

Cod I think you are normally consumed with chips and batter.

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I knew cod would be like this about it!

Oh change it... it's only adding in another middle name which will make no actual difference will it? If you were proposing to actually change her name completely, especially her first name, that would be different.

aloha, that is hilarious. You have to change it.