horrid mummies at fun tots ( brentwood center)

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I am feeling very upset today, as i went to a play group at the brentwood center and my 14 month old dd likes to wander around and occasionally she will go say hello to the mummys sitting around. Which i don't see as a problem as often i get little ones coming up to me with books or toys etc. But this mum took one look at my dd and told her to 'go away'. Me being the wimp i am just picked up my dd and took her away and the mums sat there and giggled. Why do i feel like crying? how can any mum being so hrrid to another child? and why the hell didn't i tell her to f* off ??????

Oh, that is so nasty. Unbelievably horrible. At least your dd is too young to remember it but you will

she couldn't of cared less but it has really upset me!!!!! how dare someone tlak to my baby like that i am so pea'd off i never said anything!

How unpleasant. I feel sorry for her poor child/ren.

It's a soft play centre. Surely she didn't think shecould sit there and ignore children full stop. Argh -- sounds like a horrid woman!

Some people are horrid, I hope you feel better soon.

Bitch.

I would definitely have let rip.

Easier said when it's after the event though.

I know it's hard but brush it off. there are vile people everywhere.

she drove to the center and was wearing brand new shinny wellies. i am all up for wellie wearing but in the right place....
she is in a clicky group that think they run the play center. i just so wished i had said something maybe i will next week!!!! ( if i am brave enough or in a bad enough mood)

what a mad woman, random interactions with other kids is the best thing about soft play areas!

I'm so sorry that happened . Feel very cross for you and your dd.

I think that sometimes when something completely shocking and unexpected happens, especially if it humiliates your child, then you react by simply protecting them and removing them, which is what you did. The anger comes afterwards.

Horrible horrible woman. Just remember that your dd probably wasn't particularly phased by it, and that you could have given the women a mouthful but it probably wouldn't have made a difference (except that your dd would have seen and heard you cross and upset).

They were a bunch of sad bullies - try to forget them.

i am feeling better i though it was just me being stupid by getting upset about it..... i lov emy dd and find it hard to think someone would tell her to go away for no reason! bloody bitch i think i will say something next week if she starts acting like god with her groupies!!!!!!!

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You did the right thing. It's always the way though: you think of something good to say after the event. Is this the first time you've been to this particular playgroup? If someone running the group was approachable, you could inform them of this incident. IMO it is not ok to speak to anyone, particularly a child this way.

mmmmm,I avoid these places because of weird people like this.

its at a lesuire complex and is just a free for all really bouncy castle, bikes, ball pool etc etc and mums just come and go. so its not really run like a play group in the way that everyone knows each other. i was with people but they didn't hear and i didn't say anything at first because i was upset she had said it to my daughter.. silly i know now......

I would say
'Oh look,there's that fucking weird nutter woman'
really really loudly the next time I saw her.Or giggle and start nudging your companion when she comes in.
Or....if your daughter goes anywhere near her next time,run up really dramatically and say
'No!! No darling!!! It's dirty!! Yuck!! Stay away!!!'

i might try the ' no darling, dirty, stay away' i would love to do that. i will post on monday and let you know if i was brave enough to confront the bitch!! might hAVE to come on here first to get myself all wound up!! then i will def say it!!!

Hi
I lived in Brentwood for many, many years, my family still do. There are two types of people in Brentwood, normal down to earth people and stuck-up B*tches who beleive they are way above everyone else on the planet because they reside (or want to) in a certain area of Brentwood. I know this as I went to school with at least 100 of the latter group! Well it felt like it anyway. I'm just saying this because quite generally the second group were very unhappy, generally way overstretched financially to try and make themselves appear very well-to do and basically quite insecure. I know this sounds harsh but quite true.
Poor you and your littlie, and also her littlie as she could well be the same to her own when the child interupts an important conversation with her cronies.
Ooh I went on a bit there. Chin up, head high.
At least if something happens next week you'll have had time to think better what to say. Smart and belittling should do it.

Hey alert me before you go mmm. I'll stir you up gal with some fightin' talk!!!

thank you elliesmad, where abouts did you used to live? may know you?

Hi
Just up the road from Brentwood centre. Cornwall Road. I went to Hedley Walter as it was then! What about you MMM?? Whereabouts are you.
I'm in Basildon now so the second groupo of people would really have a field day with me now!!!

i used to live in albany road. just near berntwood center and also went to headly walter!!!!!!!!!! can i be rude and ask how old you are?

HI
Only if you don't tell anyone! Turned 30 in July, joined Hedley in 1986, was at Pilgrims Hatch prior. Left Hedley in 1993. And yourself? Don't worry nobody's looking!!

oh i feel bad (it wasnt me!!) but sometimes i have taken my kids to soft play, leave them to play whilst i go have a drink, and i'll be sittingthere in my own world, and a kid will come up to me for a chat, i'll nod along and then say' do you know where your mummy is, you should go back' i never say go away, but sometimes i just dont want to chat to kids.

was 28 in may and also went to pilgrims hatch!!! this is freaky now!!!!!!! want to say your first name??? see if i know you, younger children sometimes know the older ones????

I used to be called Donna, it's mum now!!! What about you? Do you have older siblings then? I don't have younger, just three older.

no just 4 younger brothers..

name doesn't ring a bell. mine is lianna?!!?!?!?!

how old are your younger siblings?