horrid mummies at fun tots ( brentwood center)

[mmmmchocolate]

I am feeling very upset today, as i went to a play group at the brentwood center and my 14 month old dd likes to wander around and occasionally she will go say hello to the mummys sitting around. Which i don't see as a problem as often i get little ones coming up to me with books or toys etc. But this mum took one look at my dd and told her to 'go away'. Me being the wimp i am just picked up my dd and took her away and the mums sat there and giggled. Why do i feel like crying? how can any mum being so hrrid to another child? and why the hell didn't i tell her to f* off ??????

I have three older, Sister 42, and two brothers 37 and 34. The name Lianna rings a bell but I don't know why??? I presume you are still in Brentwood then?

yes live in poppy close now on the flowers estate! whats your surname if you don't mind me asking? nosey aren't i???

I know Poppy Close well. I used to ride my BMX around the flowers estate. Showing my age now!!!
Surname Coles. Most people knew my brothers one or other especially younger due to odd name.

what were the odd names? you must of only been a couple of years above me. i am trying to remember you!!!! my full name is lianna wilson??!!!
trying to think who i would know in your school year sam wren? peter ware?

I think Sam Wren and Peter Ware were year below me?? YOur name does ring a bell but I really can't place you. But it was a while ago, and I've got my pregnancy brain in so...
Brother's are Darrin and Leroy. Thinking about it I may have done art with Sam Wren? I think they combined teh sixth form's??

not ringing any bells in my empty pregnancy drained head!!!!

my best friends brother was older lee elkins??

No. No bells there either. trying to think of people with younger brothers/ sisters....
S Welsh? A Heard? L Ward? Also knew C Harrod, M Ray and L Holbrook- think about your year???

lawrence ward was my ex and i am still best friends with him now!!! and remeber all of the others. do you still see people from school?

daniel browne?? is sister was in my year?

I went to school with Lawrence's sister Lisa! There knew we'd find a connection. I know the name Daniel Brown but can't place him either. Not very good tonight am I? And didn't realise the time. Must think about going to bed.

differnt l ward, mine hasn't got a sister!!!! so afraid connection not been made yet!!

i am tired too but will prob now lay awake trying to put a face to a name. been nice talking to you speak to you soon hopefully x

Sorry no I don't really see anyone at all anymore. I'm not sure if I was that popular, well no I wasn't so I guess I wouldn't really see anyone anymore. I've got two nephews and a neice at Hedley (or whatever it's called) ad a nephew at Pilgrims Hatch (ditto), so the next generation is there.

Yes nice talking to you too. And two Lawrence Ward's? within a couple of years aswell. Speak soon.

my brother is still at hedley and also my dad is the care taker there and has been for about 10 years now!!

My dd1 is incredibly friendly and believes saying hello to everyone is just what you do no matter where you are... she also happens to have down syndrome so we get some who actually bother to say hello and interact with her and others who look at her like she has a contagious disease and pull away. I generally say to her - come on dd1, not everyone is as friendly and as polite as you. They don't want to say hello. Then move her away.

Wearing wellies to a soft play centre - how bizarre. I do know what you are talking about though - used to live in Westcliff-on-Sea - the wrong side of the London road and had others look down their nose at me... suddenly I became acceptable to one mother when we moved to a village outside Chelmsford. However she still could not bring herself to speak to me when she found out I taught school in Basildon.

TBH to me - people who can't be polite and friendly to small children who are simply saying hello really aren't worth the time of day.

My bugbear is taking Bob to the library during family time - which is when they put on the grumpy 20 year old librarian who appears to have an immense dislike of children. She has never said go away or worn shiny wellies though - that is a whole new league.

What year is your brother in Lianna?
And yes I did wonder about wellies in a soft play centre?????

perhaps she was wearing wellies because her bunions and horrible witchy feet were giving her gyp

I like that description. I'm now picturing a woman with bunion plasters!

Evil witch!

Next time steal up all your courage and give her a mouthful. I guarantee it will make you feel better and will give you 'closure'

I normally let rip at offenders...on the odd occasion when I have said nothing I have brooded over it for ages afterwards.

"I generally say to her - come on dd1, not everyone is as friendly and as polite as you. They don't want to say hello. Then move her away."

Snap Eisvoid. I've said almost exactly the same thing before word for word

what a cow.

you should definitely say something to her next week. I like all of Moondogs suggestions.

post and let us know what you did.

She sounds really nasty. I can totally understand how you feel mmmmchoc, unfortunately there are a lot of people like her in the world but we have all been given some good ideas for resonses if anything like this happens again. Try to forget about it, don't let her nastiness and rudeness ruin your day.

feel alot better about it now and don't care she is a nobody to me and not worth worring about and i will say something if poppy goes near her next week!!!

elliesmad = my brother is in upper 6th now??

Good for you! (re the 'nobody' bit) and bang on target!

Glad you've cheered up mmmmmm.