Essbee, he is a loser, he will always be a loser.
The only thing he will gain from reading mn is the knowledge that you have friends and are cared about and are a bloody strong woman.
You are getting on with your life without him and if he has to resort to checking up on you online then that shows what a pathetic little man he is.
Hes lost Essbee - he will never ever have control or power over you again and he knows it. Maybe this is his wayof trying to gain back the 'upper hand' well dont let it work - be proud of who you are and how far you have come.
And to your ex - you really need to move on because Essbee doesnt need you anymore, no one needs you, you are pointless, like one of those flies that buzzes round your food and does your head in - one day someone will swat you with one of those fly bashing thingies.