She reprimanded MY son in MY house!!

[pfer]

DS1's mate was over with his mum. DS wanted to go outside to play (it was raining and friends mum didn't want to get her angel dirty) and before I could say anything she'd turned to him and said "No, you are not playing outside". Godsmacked. It's MY son and MY home, surely it's up to me to say what he can and can't do? .

(I let him go outside anyway and her DS followed shortly after - both got filthy (snort with laughter) .

I really surprised that anyone thinks it's ok to tell pfer's son what to do, in pfer's house, without even consulting pfer. I'd be absolutely fuming.

i did understand it! and agree with the sentiment
my sentences tend to be jhust as convoluted.. i break them up with the ellipses... you see?

whereas I would stop my child doing something in his house that he normally does if I know that another parent wants to discourage their child doing it .. after all they can do it when they've gone .. like watching tv or playing with slugs .. I don't care but I know other people would

For the commonsense thing - I'd be a little less bothered if he'd done anything wrong but he was just going outside. Maybe if she's said something before they were nearly out (it was more than obvious where they were going) then it wouldn't have been a problem, and maybe, just maybe she should have said it to her DS not to mine?

Ah....very clever......gives people time to take it all in..........without need for puntuation.....

Punctuation even (I think )

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also depends how old the kids are

Twiglett - unless she's said anything beforehand I'm not likely to know am I? he's play outside here before in the wet and it was fine so I didn't think it'd be a prob. and neither did the kids obviously. If I'd know she didn't want him to get dirty I'd have shut the door so they couldn't get out. But I didn't.

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I dont always think first tbh. If I see friends kid not looking like they are stopping at the road, I call to them stop. If I see them about to do something that I wouldnt generally think was a safe thing I would say too. Not to undermine other parent but because it is automatic for me, I have also at times, stoppped blushed and said opps sorry not my call. It is cos I care what happens and am not of the 'i dont give a f attitude' and am not suggesting you are.

If you son was halfway out of the door with wellies and raincoat on, and if you r sons friends mum (take it you 2 arent friends) had been for playdates before and was aware of the freedom in your house and if her son had the same adequate protection.. then I totally agree with you for being so totally peeved. Otherwise I think maybe you are a little too senstitve about it all.

Cod, didn't say she was my friend did I? You can't choose your kids mates though can you?

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agree coddy..

(o) (o) eyes rolling too

still hate the 'its my kid don't you dare' attitude

If ther was anything in it rather than an automatic response perhaps i would be angry, I suppose i am thinking of my freinds and their kids. I would have responded by agreeing better to stay in as it would be obvious that she didn't want her child to play out.

Often the rules change depending on who they are playing with if i know their rules are different. Like the other night we were going to have chocolate fondue with the kids then friend came round with her kids one of which can't have much chocolate for medical reasons, my kids accepted that things had changed.

Cod, if you don't like the thread get off it. No-ones that interested in your opinion anyway...

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damn awen you are so much better at the diplomatic posts tonight

I shall sit back and roll my eyes with fishface

sm - it doesnt sound like she reprimanded him/disciplined him. Sounds like a response she would have automatically given her ds's request to go outside as initally on the posting it sounded like pfer ds had asked. Though now it appears the back door was wide open in NOvember whilst p'ing down with rain and her son had all him rain gear on and was racing out of the door. Then her sons friends mum tripped him up with her brolly and said no you dont you litle scrote - sorry my humour

Oooooh - this is a classic case of PC
This is a bit like :

I'M right ...
No! I'M Right ....

Tell me I'm right .....

We all do things differently ... but still we seek approval ...

Live and let live ....
I have scolded friends' children - some take it and others don't. Those who don't are therefore not allowed to scold my kids.

laissez-faire - ( surely ) ??

is your ds mates mum a friend of yours?my friends do tell my children what to do but we're on common ground and all tend to agree on the way we bring our children up. however i have one friend who tends to mollycoddle and have been in exactly the same scenario - but i just accept it as its her way of parenting.(and yes i did let my child carry on while she whisked her child away!)

She asked so she would get some constuctive answers and not 'parp' and 'eyes rolling' which are highly offensive when someone has tried to initiate a serious discussion

Am off for now LOST is on.. Yay gorgeaus men to droll over.. or hmm - it is raining maybe a mudbath in the garden.. hehe.

Thanks twiglett btw - my diplomacy is gone now

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