Sad and Angry - or am I overeacting?

[Carla]

DH is 27 years my senior which, althought no the norm, works for us.

DD1 has started her second term at school and since she learnt to ride her bike during the hols has been cycling her to school in the mornings. I pick up DD2 from nursery in the car and then pick up DD1 in the car.

This morning DH returns and says 'Some woman just made me b....y angry.

As DH was locking up DD1's bike, the conversation went like this:

A Mother:Is that your daughter or your granddaughter?

DH: My daughter

A Mother: Is your wife much younger than you?

DH: Yes

A Mother: Don't you think a child has a right to a father when they're in their twenties?

DH: I'ts none of your damn business.

I'm absolutely seething! I think it's bad enough to think that way, let alone say it and in front of a five year old. We've only been at the school just over a term and unfortunately neither I or DH know who the woman is. I don't even know what she looks like.

What does anyone think?

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Ignore her what a rude cow!!!! She obviously hasn,t got a life of her own to think about. Feel sorry for her,i cant stand judgemental people. I remember a man saying to me once, do you like bringing bastards into this world, because i wasnt married!

Outrageous, rude, ignorant - and none of their business! Age is utterly irrelevant to your parenting skills, which, by the way, I suspect this woman is lacking if she can talk to a complete stranger is such a way.

Interfering witch!

Your poor dh, why do some people think they have a right to force their opinions on others, at the risk of really upsetting and hurting them?
And as you said, in front of your daughter as well.

I think your daughter will be lucky to have a dad who loves her and who has always been there for her when she is in her twenties, his age won't have any bearing on the important aspects of her life at all.

At least she won't be growing up being set a terrible example by an overbearing, rude and self-opinionated mother like this woman's poor child/ren.

Hugs to you both, don't let her get you down.

Eh? God what a cow. Ignore her.

F**king Nosey, Sad, Interfering, Uneducated, Bitter, Twisted WWWWWWWWITCH!

I'd want to find her and punch in the face.

i agree with M2T. How rude?

Oxford, Batters. You know, that place full of liberal, educated people. I just can't think of what sort of response she was trying to elicit. Did she really think DH would say 'mmm - you're right, I'll sign her up for adoption'?

Anyhow, you're all doing a wonderful job of cheering me up. Thanks.

she was teethgrindingly rude!

Agree with everyone, damn rude.

Presumably she thinks younger people have guaranteed immortality? Arrogant cow. (Give willow a shout - she'll whack her with a brick )

Agree with everyone, what a nasty piece of work that is.It is none of her business how old you and your dh are.Cranky old t*.

Agree with everyone, what a nasty piece of work that is.It is none of her business how old you and your dh are.Cranky old t*.

sorry for double post

She's clearly bonkers. Very, very odd. And, of course, appallingly rude.

Maybe you DH could have said "well do you not think that children should have parents with manners, as yours obviously haven't!"

Cheeky bitch!

Lets all think bad thoughts about her at exactley 3pm (GMT) and hopefully her nose will fall off or her tongue will shrivel up and die or something.

Of course you have every right to be upset Carla - your DH should have said that he waited so long to find such a wonderful woman as not to get stuck with an old hag with no manners.

Right bad thoughts at the ready - Mumsnet Power.

OMG! How rude!!

I think "Don't you think children have a right to a mother with good manners?" is the only possible CIVILISED response!

What an old hag. She should remember that many children are unfortunate to lose a/both parent/s at a young age - life is not a guaranteed length.

ps - great answer Boe!

Til I read Boe's and EmmaTMG's, that is

Ignore her...not even worth bothering with if so small minded. She should soooo get a life man.