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" The School gates......and all of the crap that surrounds it"

105 replies

tiredemma · 29/09/2005 16:51

I have often seen threads on here about mothers at the school gates and various tales of what goes on there. Have to admit i often thought that people were exagerating a little with some of their tales........until ds1 started reception two weeks ago.

Past few days i have noticed the same group of "fishwives" hanging out at the gates, obviously thinking that they are the supreme of reception mothers. Cackling, etc taking the piss out of a few people - including blatently laughing at the classroom assistant who has a squint. Today, I was waiting for ds to come out and one 'banshee' decided that we must all be interested in the following -

she hasnt had 'it' since may.
she has been having text sex with some bloke from a local shop.
bloke from local shop wants to meet up tonight for 'it'
she is going to go home, have a bath and 'de-fluff'

is this how its going to be for the next 6 years? am i really going to have to stand and listen to crap while waiting for my son.

really, i though the school gates thing was just a bit of a joke men come up with about mothers chatting at the gates. is it really about a bunch of heckling old women seeing who can be the loudest???

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sobernow · 30/09/2005 18:12

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spacecadet · 30/09/2005 18:15

its like that at our school too sobernow..it did make me pmsl though!

sparklymieow · 30/09/2005 18:15

I don't care anyway If people can't accept me then its their loss, as I am a very nice person, I just dress strange.... Oh well......

spacecadet · 30/09/2005 18:17

The parents are something else though, i usually dont speak to many people, im not very good at making idle conversation, also my vauxhall zafira looks out of place between the sports cars that line the street as does the choice of music i have blasting out of it

spacecadet · 30/09/2005 18:26

and i kill threads too

debutante · 30/09/2005 19:00

Try it the other way round.. opening the classroom door to confront stroppy parent 1 who wants to know why dd reading book hasn't been changed.. stroppy parent 2 who accuses you of personally spreading nits stroppy parent3 who wants to know why you didn't give ds a sticker for whatever sp parent 4 who is fed up cos you are 1 minute late opening the door etc etc. Trust me it is like feeing time at the zoo with the teacher as bait.
Standing in playgrounds has taught me never to judge a book by its cover. For loads of people taking their kids to school brings their own school days to the fore and they can be wierd. And if you ask the biggest scariest gobbiest mum to be on your tug of war team she'll be bloody delighted for a year and you win the beer at the summer fair!

Nightynight · 02/10/2005 13:53

lol debutante
I remember being at the school gate in the UK, and one parent was practically breaking the door down because the teachers were FIVE WHOLE MINUTES late letting the children out, and this woman's whole holiday rested on it....she was due back at the travel agents or something.

shades1 · 02/10/2005 15:15

I HATE the school gates, in the morning time the cliques all stand round the school gates watching their angels in the play ground so that the children arriving have to push their way through - what on earth do these mothers think that they are achieving when they are about to leave their children for the next 6 hours unless the sneak back in and shadow their child all day.

I work, but pick up DS twice a week, I'm an immediate outcast as everybody else has changed their hours to be able to pick up every day (great if you have the choice but I don't) - and the look down the nose for SENDING him to afterschool twice a week. !!

I seem to be finding that as I'm not in with the in crowd my DS doesn't get invited to play dates etc, DH thinks I'm too sensitive and says it's partly our fault because we work.

Leaving school the other day one of DS friends was at the gate with his mum obviously handing out party invitations, when he called my DS name to give him an invitation - his mother looked embarrased and said "you haven't finished writing them all out yet" - WTF

If you don't like me or think I'm odd fine but don't take it out on my DS - GGRRRRRRR

TBH I can't be arsed anymore - I don't even look at the other mothers and have become addicted to checking my mobile phone whilst I wait

Nightynight · 02/10/2005 15:33

shades - I do sympathise, especially over the party invites.
However, feel constrained to point out that I have sometimes stood there watching my children, to see how they are interacting with the others. I want to know if they have friends, if they seem intimidated by anyone etc.

shades1 · 02/10/2005 15:37

Hi NN

sorry if I seemed to be a bit OTT about them staying, it's not that, I can understand checking in on them, it's the fact that they block the open gateway so these little 5 and 6 year olds have to push past them, I've watched kids duck under arms and been practically on their knees to get past them. It's that that annoys me, my DS is really independant and likes to go in on his own, and obviously I want to make sure he's in, so I'd like them to stand back so that all parents have got a clear view of their children, so we can all make sure that they've gotten into the care of their teachers safely.

And most of them aren't even watching their children they're standing chatting, so can't understand why they can't just stand back a bit, DYKWIM ?

moozoboozo · 02/10/2005 15:39

I am dreading school gates. DS is only 10 months, but I know I will be on eof the fat unstylish mums that gets laughed at. It's bad enough at the mums I know through post natal groups, who all think I am the scum of the earth because we live in a rented house, DP and I aren't married and I get all of my clothes from Asda and charity shops. I hope the next 3 or 4 years drag by, as I was mercilessly bullied at school, and I fear that school gates will be just the same.

doormat · 02/10/2005 15:47

moozo be yourself, if they think that of you, they are not worth knowing, they are shallow IMO
by the way I have jumped out of the car in pjs and coat before today to take ds3 to school, I couldnt give a fiddlers what people think.

moozoboozo · 02/10/2005 15:51

I know I shouldn't care what they think, but I do

Nightynight · 02/10/2005 15:54

maybe youd better try a loud "excuse me!!" every morning, shades, until they get the message!

moozo, - ahem - I personally flatter myself that my Asda clothes are very stylish. Hope you meet some nice mums when your ds goes to school. in my experience of school gates, fat and dressed in Asda is the norm, so I am sure they wont laugh at you.

suzywong · 02/10/2005 15:56

I love our school gates
I've made some good friends and it was a bit of a life line for me when I was new here. OK there are only 20 of us at kindergarten, but we all went out for dinner recently including teacher and teaching assistants.

She said smugly

Nightynight · 02/10/2005 15:56

daily mail once printed a picture of Fergie dropping off her children, looking as fat and unstylish as anyone. mean things.
She had obviously put on the first clothes that came to hand - tailored skirt, bomber jacket and trainers if I remember rightly. we are lucky at least that we dont have journalists following us around!

gothicmama · 02/10/2005 15:57

It may not be as bad as you think.

moozoboozo · 02/10/2005 15:59

TBH, I don't know what I am worried about, becuse here in Bath, I am the shit on everyone's shiny Prada shoes, so I should be used to it by now.

Nightynight · 02/10/2005 16:08

yes, I sympathise moozo, we used to live in the cheapest 3 bed house in Berkshire so I know what you are talking about!
dont let them get you down!!

Fauve · 02/10/2005 16:11

No idea if this might help anyone, but at our school, the very affable caretaker stands at the schoolgate and sets a positive tone - he also has a safety brief and would diplomatically move people along if they blocked the way in. Also the head often stands at the gate as well, doing a kind of meet and greet, with the idea that you can raise anything with her then if you want.

moozoboozo · 02/10/2005 16:11

I say arse to the lot of them. At least my DP isnt shagging his secretary (which is what is happening with one of the mum's DHs that I know)

Octobernow · 02/10/2005 16:13

Hey Moozo - I dress from the charity shops in Bath as well. the best place to go for hand me downs, doncha know? One yummy commented the other day that I looked so smart she thought I was going for job interview - I had to smile when I mentally added up that my jacket, skirt and top had cost a total of £7. There are are more of us out there than you might think.

moozoboozo · 02/10/2005 16:15

There are some bloody good charidee shops in Bath. There is a great one on Chelsea road. i got a nice pink Whistles cardi from there the other day for £2. Do you live on Bath?

Octobernow · 02/10/2005 16:20

Yes. The Oxfam shop pn George St just down from the Circus is a good one, also the Shaw Trust. Also Roundabout in Widcombe for children's clothes. Me and my neighbours compete for who has spent the least on their clothes!

moozoboozo · 02/10/2005 16:21

I must go to the Roundabout, as I have heard lots of good things. We need more! I live in Weston, how about you? Come to our Xmas meal!!!!

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